Wednesday, 30 September 2009

  • Forget the Flowers, Get Me Coffee!


    I'm not most women. I have some things in common with my gender, yes, but I'm not like most women. For some strange reason, though, when guys try to impress me, they do the cheesiest, stereotypical things!

    For example, I have an ex who is head-over-heels in love with me and is trying his damnedest to win me back at the moment. Not only did he offer to get us tickets to see industrial rockers KMDFM next month, he offered to get me flowers as well. When I protested, he said "I know you hate flowers, but I just wanna spoil you." I'm flattered that he made the offer, but flowers? That makes me LOL and think, "He don't know me very well, do he?" (get the reference?).

    To me, food is a bit more romantic.....like, if someone dropped croissants and coffee or vitamin water off at my door, I'd be more inclined to be his girlfriend. Or maybe if he got me coffee and clove cigarettes.

    What do you think when a guy/girl gets you a stereotypical gift, like flowers or candy? Do you think he/she is romantic, cheesy, or doesn't know you very well? 

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  • steph

    Mm, yeah. Flowers & candy are sweet, but I also like receiving something more practical. Like for example, for my birthday, my boyfriend bought me a wallet, which I really needed, and candy. So, a nice mix of the two is good for me :] And on Valentine's Day, I received sunflowers (my favorite), which I thought was pretty awesome.

    So, I think it doesn't necessarily mean that they don't know you. It's a classic, sweet gesture :)
  • live_for_love@xanga

    @steph - I agree with a nice mix of the two.

    Though I prefer things that actually take though. For Valentine's Day, my boyfriend got me a shiny, very pretty, heart necklace. Slightly stereotypical. Then, for one of our monthly anniversaries, he randomly decided to get me a keychain digital photo album, since he knows I love having pictures around and such. Stereotypical meets "Oh hey, I date you and I know what you like!" is the best.
  • inconceivable_alicia@xanga

    Any boy who will buy me coffee is a friend of mine. ;] No, my boyfriend knows what I like. He knows I'd rather spend time with him than him spend money on me. Flowers are rare, which is fine because I don't want them often. Coffee is a better way to spoil me. He and I both eat like birds, so it's kind of hard for us to go out to eat since half way into our appetizer or salad, we're full. So we usually just spend time with each other. He knows what I like, I know what he likes. He thinks it's so sweet when I make homemade chocolate chip cookies (something I loathe), and I love the way he writes me sweet notes. Yeh, we make people vomit. It's pretty wicked.
  • wachamakulit@xanga

    i dont mind recieving flowers once in a while....but I dont do bears. I like it better when someone makes me things like mix cds, cards, letters. etc. For our first valentine he made me love coupons that was really cute and clever. after 2 yrs of the whole anniversary/ valentine celebration we just dont bother with it anymore. It doesnt bother me at all.
  • iTekno@xanga

    when my boyfriend does that kind of stereotypical stuff, i think its cheesy of course, but in a cute way. I like the fact that he treats me well with all the stuff that they give and all the stuff that they do in the movies. Its like a cheesy romantic flick, and those are always fun ^__^v
  • maybmaybnot@xanga

    I'm a stereotypical kind of girl I like the idea of flowers, candy, stuffed animals,trinkets- but mayb that's just because I haven't gotten many gifts from guys period. My 1st puppy love got me a bear with a heart on it for my 16th (I think it was 16th) birthday and I loved it. My 1st real love got me a high tech nifty flash drive (def more expensive than a bear lol). It was handy because I'm in school and all, but it didn't make my heart go pitter patter. No guy has gotten me flowers yet : ( All in all, I think I would gush over good ol flowers any day. 
  • FairyTalesAndWhiskey@xanga

    Funny, coffee and clove cigarettes have been the only thing keeping me from going nuts lately! It's the perfect season for them.


    I think I would give any guy a chance if they bought me new strings for my bass, a pint of whiskey, or a Motorhead album.

  • KitterzBri0814@xanga

    I feel the same exact way, when you're with someone, it's always about you and the other person. Not about what the entire world is doing.  I mean flowers nice...but I'd rather have something a little more meaningful.
  • aCe_KeiAnar@xanga

    I think the sentiment counts, stereo-typical or not :P

    I think most people are socially awkward when receiving gifts, like or dislike...

    I don't know. This is by far the most challenging datingish blog ever ;P
  • morbidcoronerchick@xanga

    @aCe_KeiAnar@xanga - LOL, thank you I like that I made you think.
  • mynameisblueskye@xanga

    @steph - The man she speaks of is an ex who was told she didn't like flowers.
  • CuaSo@xanga

    I don't like those romantic gestures either. I can appreciate a guy wanting to make me happy, but the point is to cater to that girl's particular likes and interests. Why would you give a girl who doesn't like flowers, flowers? The whole thing feels insincere because if he was really thinking about you, he would avoid those kinds of gifts because he would know that those aren't the kinds of things that you want. If a guy is going to be romantic, he has to put more thought and effort than refer to some cliche for ideas.

  • eatdrinkandbemaryy@xanga

    stereotypical gifts are ALWAYS cheesy, but nice! 
  • mudkiwi@xanga

    Yeah, I'd rather be given something more unique, or handmade is my favorite. It's much less typical, and more sentimental.
  • zxzeebrastar@xanga

    Sometimes any kind gift is better than none, cheesy or not.
  • mooonshadow@xanga

    i hate getting candy.  i like flowers, but i'd rather get them from like... a friend or family member. if i get candy or flowers or some dumb crap like that, i feel like he's trying extra hard to flatter me.  id rather it was just like... he was casually thinking about me doing his everyday stuff. nonchalant.  not trying too hard.  like he knows he can win me without playing the story-book-romance card.


    unless it's a joke... including a bigol handmade out of lace and construction paper heart valentine.  than that's pretty awesome, cause he has my sense of sarcastic humor.
    also, candy makes me fat.  but make sure its *extra* dark.
    totally agree.
  • ELIZerson@xanga

    @steph - Agreed.

    I love flowers =)
  • untainted_love_for_her@xanga

    I think those things are sweet, especially flowers.
  • Vacantwhispers@xanga

    I'd be glad to get anything at all.
  • votedmostwanted

    I dont think what they give you should really matter. It's more about the gesture. Its sound cliche but in the end "its the thought that counts." Right? At least to me it does, you can get me a rock for all i care as long as it has some type of meaning behind it. I'll probably love it. lol
  • MegaxGurls2@xanga

    i like them at times. Flowers? It depends...did he drop me off my favorite type of flowers? =) Candy? NOPE! Unless they're like sour patch kids haha. Other than that, i think a romantic gift would be like uhh

    when the ugly kids at school stole my pencil box/pencils...my boyfriend bought me another pencil box =) Even though it was those 50 cent kind....i thought it was so cute how he took into consideration of the things i NEED.

    but yes going with the cliche is fabulous at times =) No lie there!
  • getta_ring_on_it

    I want both. Flowers and candy randomly to show that I am special and his lttle princess, and for holidays like birthdays and Christmas I want a present that shows he took my personality and taste into account when he selected it.

  • Delia712@xanga

    i think that when your SO gets you something unique, something just for you and not what your gender is supposed to like, its always more special. for me, its blueberry pancakes. :)
  • aCe_KeiAnar@xanga

    @mynameisblueskye@xanga - good point! I guess if I didn't like what was being given, and the person giving said gift knew this, I'd actually be kind of pissed off.

    I mean, we can't equivocate flowers to poop. But if someone gave you poop, you wouldn't exactly be too happy, would you?!
  • mynameisblueskye@xanga

    @aCe_KeiAnar@xanga - Not unless I was a dung beetle.

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