It's been studied: one of the sexes is more likely to develop a mental disorder when in a relationship. Our psych homework was to think about which sex is better off single.
I thought men were better off single, because men always seem to die first. Plus they have the added social pressure to provide for their family and yada yada. Women have to bear children, but that's no biggie, right?
The next day we found out it was actually women who were worse off.
The theory as to why has to do with releasing emotions. Men can't tell when something is wrong unless their S.O. is balling, so they make un-inspirational venting partners. On the other hand, men are healthier because women intuitively know when something is wrong and we listen and ask questions. Of course guys don't like to admit venting feels good, but those who have experienced it are mentally healthier.
I feel like anger is the only acceptable emotion for men to show in public. It's even encouraged. So, to the single men: get a women. To the taken women: get a best friend.
What do you think? Which sex is better off alone?
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this is very informative. women are worse off. We notice alot of wrong, and we try to tell the other half, but sometimes THEY JUST DONT GET IT. ....am i right?
I saw a study quite a while ago that said men lived in average 14 years more when they were married and had daughters. Women lived in average 14 years LESS when they were married and had children. They suck the life out of us.
...*sigh* I'm actually dying to get married. Should I be considered suicidal?
wait, women have to have kids, and raise them, and have a job, but that's no biggie, yet a guy providing for the family is? lol
Misleading title is misleading. Brash generalizations are brash.
@iTekno@xanga - No, you're not right. I'm sorry you've had bad experiences with emotionally inattentive individuals.
"Men can't tell when something is wrong unless their S.O. is balling, so
they make un-inspirational venting partners. On the other hand, men are
healthier because women intuitively know when something is wrong and we
listen and ask questions."
See my comment about brash generalizations.
"Of course guys don't like to admit venting feels good, but those who have experienced it are mentally healthier. "
Support this claim without using generalized statements, please. Where has it ever been written or studied that men don't like the way it feels to vent?
"I feel like anger is the only acceptable emotion for men to show in public. It's even encouraged."
How does that even come in to play in your argument that relationships are unhealthy? That men vent because women prompt it? I disagree.
Please, if you would, post the study you were shown.
This is a very sad post. What's more sad is how fitting the questions are in my current mood. Damn.
if you just get rid of the emotional stuff that comes with relationships and see it as purely a way to have a family and raise it and not wind up alone in old age, you should be fine. married ppl live longer than singles.
This sounds like it's out of Psych text book from 40 years ago.
@godofthelost@xanga - I agree... brash generalizations.
@godofthelost@xanga -
I second that.
I don't know but I'm definitely better off alone. Relationships wake up the sleeping bitch in me. Just when I think she's comfortably tucked away and hibernating, there's nothing like a man to stir the crankiness and wrath of the inner bitch!
@godofthelost@xanga - your right that there is no proof. i guess i would say a majority (by experience) of men are that way. i do kind of believe that that kind of behavior is in men. Its really complicated though. It seems like a very interesting study.
btw, I'm much better with my SO. He's my bestest friend and he listens to everything I have to say, even though he can't understand most of it (he does try!). It's OK, I don't understand much of him either (I do try!). Love is beautiful, man. Relationships are only unhealthy when they're with uncaring clueless people.
@iTekno@xanga - Then the inverse can equally be true, no? That women can be just as inattentive, insensitive, and emotionally clueless? That would make your second sentence a moot point, saying that whoever is worse off is solely dependent on the emotional capacities of the individuals in the relationship.
@wyrdkismet@xanga - Then it's no longer the relationship implied in this post. Call it a business venture instead.
@godofthelost@xanga - well said
definitely a brash generalization of the male species. I frankly dont mind "venting" or expressing how I feel, but most of the time I dont want to bother with the trivial events in my life and therefore decide to not discuss it.
relationships are a way of life, and if communication is the reason why you think relationships are unhealthy...you're obviously in the wrong relationship! but that doesnt mean relationships are generally unhealthy. most relationships make you happy, and since when is happiness a bad thing?
women are better off single. according to a few of my psych classes and my own opinion.
haha, I was pretty sure it'd be women because they are pretty psychotic. All that pent up anger, anger, anger. They always 'drop hints' and when the hint is just random and so out-there, the guy doesn't understand it and then the woman is like RAWERRRRRRRRRRRRR I'MA FUCKINNN KILL DAT BITCHHHHHH!!!!!
lol. just kidding. (I just don't wanna get killed in my sleep okplskthxbai)
lol...tis true...doesnt take a genius to figure this out
@godofthelost@xanga - hmmm interesting you should say that. do you believe ppl have to be in love to be in relationships or can their feelings be platonic and still get married anyway?
@wyrdkismet@xanga - hence. settling. I agree with you. people get married cause they are afraid of being alone....and want all the things a marriage comes with.
children....security...familiarity.
@kieri126@xanga - yup. well said my friend.
In my marriage, I listen and I can tell if something is wrong.. we're in tuned with each others emotions. I think some couple follow this type of relationship you speak of but not all.
@wyrdkismet@xanga - You're using a different contextual definition.
You said, "if you just get rid of the emotional stuff
that comes with relationships and see it as purely a way to have a
family and raise it and not wind up alone in old age, you should be
fine."
There is no love required for that sort of relationship, which is why it resembles something along the lines of a big-business merger, it amounts to nothing more than reviewing numbers in a book and agreeing that what's happening is for the greater good of two entities.
The relationships mentioned are those based on love, compassion, communication, emotions, and the desire for another being one is compatible with. The post addresses the emotional struggles that individuals face in relationships and the seemingly adverse physical effects that correlate with the relationship condition. Removing emotion from these relationships is impossible, the basis for them is emotion.
On Marriage: Marriage is a state institution and people should be granted access to the benefits if they want them. Being in love has nothing to do with desiring the social benefits attained in marriage.
@godofthelost@xanga - hmmmm... i kinda don't remember saying that "whoever is worse off is solely dependent on the emotional capacities of the individuals in the relationship." , but i don't deny the fact that women can surely be the same way when it comes to emotionally clueless, insensitive, etc. It is just that that behavior is mainly seen in men.
What I am saying is that its a known fact that women are definitely more sensitive and emotional than men. " I " see alot of men miss that when a women tries to show it. I also see that a mans perspective is very outwardly if you catch my drift.
@iTekno@xanga - I don't "catch your drift", please compose your argument in a way that I don't have to infer any meaning other than the one that is written. This is a text based response, inflections don't make it through reading black words on white pages.
That's because you didn't say that, I did.
You mean women are more outwardly emotional and sensitive than men? Or did you mean as a whole, overall?
YES, PLEASE PUT UP THE STUDY!
I am actually quite interested in reading it =]
first off hun... if i want to write in a certain way..i will. Another thing, if you want to win the argument, then win it all by yourself. You really did take the fun out of a debate.