Insecure people cripple themselves and others, not to mention making sane people listen to their bull shit. I guess we should ask a higher power to help them, daily.

So you're a "real woman" because you're not insecure? Everyone has insecurities, it doesn't mean you have to feel you're better than other people by deeming yourself a "real woman" because your insecurities do not consume you as they do others. Really jealous and petty people can be annoying, yes, and they should really try to better themselves, but you are no better than them simply because you do not act out like they do. Just a thought. 

@IfIWereAchilles@xanga - You can only hold the message in for so long.

I've never had to deal with a psycho ex, but hopefully I'd be able to charm them over with my cuteness. :P

Hon, you are insecure too or you wouldn't be writing this--that doesn't make you less of a real woman. I am insecure, but I think admitting it makes me "real" in the very meaning of the word. It sounds like you were the victim and yet you lost a friend because of their insecurities--that sucks--but that is life because we all have personality issues to deal with, Honestly though, who wants her or her loser boyfriend anyway?

How does being insecure make you less of a 'real women'? Everyone has something that they're insecure about.

someone called me insecure once to make herself sound like the better person.  

I'm an insecure woman, so what are you saying? That insecure women all act this way and need to grow up? Insecurities are what make people who they are; how they choose to act in response to it or acting based on it is what the problem is. I think you should shut up and take a look at yourself before you attack anyone, you name-I-refuse-to-use-because-that-would-be-stooping-down-to-your-level.

I'm insecure. I admit it. That doesn't make me less real.

There's a difference between being insecure and being consumed by jealousy to the point that it destroys you.

Frankly, your letter screams that you haven't gotten over the situation. You are flat out saying you're better than she is, and the extent to which you're belittling both parties hints that you aren't over things.

I'm curious as to whether this is self-elevation or an honest look at the situation. It truly looks like the former.

That said, it is possible that she's insecure to the point of harm. No one said you had to befriend her, and kudos to you for sticking with her through some tough times, but putting her down in a public forum probably isn't the best way to make yourself look like the better person here.

Everyone has their flaws. Maybe you caught hers spot on, but that doesn't make you better.

everyone has insecurities. even im insecure soemtimes. no big deal.

Of course I had to deal with an insecure girl and with a insecure boys too. After trying to help and being betrayed wow i thought wtf am i doing here trying to help people that aren't even trying to help themselves and just sit in life and do nothing.  Insecure people will always need secure people that do something good with their life. But...aren't we all insecure at one point in our life?

I was roommates with an attention whore who also (apparently) suffered from cleptomania. That was drama, drama, drama. Sure she was fun to hang out with, but if the spotlight was on anyone but her for even a second she would do just about ANYTHING to get it back. I imagine her issues possibly stemmed from insecurities, but to be honest I didn't stick around long enough to find out since I learned about as much as I wanted to about her. It's a shame too, we were practically BFF's, but then she started telling me to not date my now bf who I've happily been with for over 4 years and told me no one liked me at his fraternity house (to try and keep me from going over there with her). Yea, of course all of that's been over for years, but even thinking back on it makes me feel sad (cause I lost what I thought was a good friend) and shake my head for her.