In romantic movies, such as The Notebook, they would say something like "making love" instead of the other term.
In funny movies, such as Pineapple Express, they would say something like "screwing her" instead of the other term.
In drama/action/whatever movies, such as Transformers (I could totally see Shia saying this about Megan Fox IN the movie), they would say something like "having sex" instead of the other terms.
So, I was just wondering, what's the difference?
My definition of making love is between two people who obviously care about each other, done romantically, out of love, with all the protection and such. 'Fucking' somebody is more like a one-night stand, I think it goes along with sleeping with someone and trying to leave early the next morning. Having sex with someone sounds more passionate than fucking someone, maybe actually done with someone you care about. Then again, the term 'making love' sounds so old school.
According to Urban Dictionary, this is what these three terms meant -
1) Making Love - An event that happens when *only* two people are and must be in love with each other and who give and receive mutual pleasure via. physical contact.
They must be in the "loving" frame of mind and not in it just for the physical pleasure. Must be intimate.
This excludes quickies.
2) Having Sex - When two people decide to have orgasms by enjoying each others genitals. Yummy times. Rough, sweet, or just sex, there are many ways of having sex. Lots of positions available.
3) Fucking - 1. to screw
2 to thrust a mans penis in and out of a vagina.
(sounds romantic >.<)
So, seriously, since I have no idea if there's a *real* difference... what do you think?
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I think it entirely depends on the people talking about it.
And the context. If my SO wants some and I'm just not in the mood, it's clearly wise to take the romantic approach and talking about making love--cuz who DOESN'T want more love?!
If it's sexting wednesday, he's probably going to want to fuck--which can be aggressive and sexy in that case.
And if we're talking analytically about "the last time we had sex" then that generally has a whole set of other terms.
Realistically, they're interchangeable--people will know what you're talking about, but the connotative definition is clear through context.
There is a difference. Making love is that moment of pure bliss where your wrapped in the arms of your lover and it seems like time has just stopped. It's more than the feeling of an orgasm. It's so damned hard to describe really. haha. But, like being in love, you just know.
Having sex, is just having sex. The man gets erect. Thrust it in her vag. Both scream in pleasure. The man cums and the fun is over. It lacks the cuddling and heart felt "I love you".
Fucking, to me, is the same as rape. The woman or man is being used, in most instances the woman. One gets nothing from it while the other gets a cheap 2 second thrill. Then the guy pays and goes back to his bitchy wife and rowdy kids.
There is totally a difference.
Screwing/Fucking reminds me of a one night stand you'd brag about. ("I totally fucked him last night")
While "making love" seems to be something not just physical, but emotionally passionate between a couple.
I think that the term "making love" is only for exclusive couples who are in love. "Fucking" or "having sex" can be used for sex in any kind of relationship. I don't think that "fucking" should only be used for one-night stands or fuck buddies. My boyfriend and I are in love and we've been together a year and a half, but we use the term "fucking" plenty. I like that the term "fucking" portrays the idea of getting really into it, focusing on pleasure and letting loose. The use of the expletive echoes how animalistic sex is.
I think it's the difference between an emotional connection, or none at all.
All of them are one and the same to me, it's just one term sounds a lot better than the others. My fiance uses the term "making love" whenever she discusses sex with her friends, and I always say fucking/having sex when the topic comes up with my friends, but we both imply the same amount of feelings to it. Only her term doesn't get me yelled at, wish I could say the same for mine, lol.
I think having sex and fucking are the same.
I think making love is in a class all its own.
While having sex/fucking or making love all get to the same point. Making love is more emotional. It is a passionate connection between ones spirit and another. In which both mates feel the same connection on many levels other than physical. Making love can be both emotional as well as spiritual. While it has the physical aspects , Its creation is based on the actual feelings in ones heart rather than , the feelings from actual sexual stimulation.
In example.
While making love with Mr. X ( I will call him ) We could feel our hearts beat at the same time. We took our breaths in sequence with one another. Our body's moved with a rhythm all its own. As if together we made our own music. And not only physically , But we could feel actual love is our action. Had it not been for this , I would probably think making love/fucking/sex were all the same thing. But making love is when passion actual comes to life.
It depends. "Making love" for my boyfriend and me is nothing really kinky going on-- none of my outfits/lingerie or toys.
"Having sex" is just basically a quickie for us..
"Fucking" is like....bring out everything kinky we have + real dirty talking + sexy lingerie...
I wouldn't only reserve "fucking" for one-night stands and "making love" only for exclusive couples. I think you can really connect with someone after a night of love (not that I would know, personally).
Depends on the couple really.
Making Love: as it sounds... When two people love each other and are having intercourse. I tend to believe Love Making is a little slower, though not necessarily, and extremely thoughtful of your partner. Let me clarify my views on Love... Being in Love does not exclude you and your partner from Having Sex or Fucking.
Having Sex: I imagine foreplay, and other sexual devices(not inanimate devices) are used in sex, there is still thought and consideration in sex, but I find it very human (keyword).
Fucking: You are an ANIMAL, you are satisfying the needs of the human animal and you are getting it. Just think... animal :P
Well these are how I'd like to define the line.
@Lil_Firefly_25@xanga - Agreed.
my opinion, it's the difference of relation the person is to you on a gradient
my definition....
"making love"
kinda like your perspective.
two people doing it for love or have passion for each other when they do it.
make sure you trust this person and your in a relationship with them.
"having sex"
two people doing it for the fun of it...kinda casual but mutual in partners.
make sure you trust this person and your in a relationship with them.
"fucking"
doing it with anyone because you can and then possibly becoming strangers or just leaving them.
make sure your drunk or horny and finding someone the is easy and fits the category.
@zxzeebrastar@xanga - i was just about to say the same thing. or at least, somewhere along the lines.
i would say it's how much emotion and loooooooove and consideration you put during the action. Making love, to me, has the most emotional appeal to it, cos it's between two people who feel strongly for each other. Having sex is more of a casual thing. nothing too serious. Fucking is straight up SEX..just to do it. *shrugs. lol =)
I believe all three can exist between a couple in love. Sometimes you feel like making love, sometimes you have sex (like a quickie or at least faster paced and more positions love making) and then there are times where you just rip eachother's close off, get really kinky and just fuck.
Making love: I want to love you all night in many ways and directions. Hold you in my arms and fall asleep. (I'm a marathon man... I don't like quickies)
Having sex: I imagine this type of conversation- "so I'm in the mood, what about you?" and then someone gets tackled
Fucking: so who can get their clothes off faster>? lol
@TheScaleDiaries@xanga - I agree...... I do all three with my wife..... it's the "in the moment kind of reaction"
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Just writing what came into my mind:
Making Love - Slow motioning everything until she begs me for it. Plenty of foreplay. Slow, but rhythmriffric movements. A cuddle or expression of enjoyment. A lot of huggage.
Having sex- Reminds me of the missionary position. Nothing big. Average pre-sex time. Medium to fast speed. Little to no huggage afterwards.
Fucking - Doing it doggie style. Screams and estatic moans may occur. Doggie style.
It's the terms. It depends on who the intended audience is. For women- targeted romance movies, they use more poetic terms like "making love" to appeal to their unrealistic/ romantic fantasies and being more emotionally-based. For movies aimed for men, they use more crude terms like "to screw" or "fuck", because that's how men are perceived and projected in the media. For movies that have a wide-range audience like Transformers (mostly men, but also has a female audience as well) they use the more general terms like "having sex".
Either way you say it, it's the same thing.
- Kunoichi
*laughs at title*
they're all the same.
theres a huge difference in "making love" and "fucking" even if you love someone sometimes it's just "fucking" i think that if you truly love someone and you really get to a point that you know exactly what that person likes and it's a totally different thing. it's different for everyone. depends on how emotionally attached you are, for both m/f. making love is rare, usually if it's more than once a week it's just sex.
i very much agree with this. :) its not making love unless the intimacy is mental and deeper then the physical act, love must be apart of it).
The word fucking creeps me out.
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There's no such thing as f*****g when two people are in love. In their case, they make love through every word and action related to their relationship. A person who cares about deep love at any given point cannot with any amount of thought or effort have sex without it being an act of love making. Those who disagree simply don't have a deep heart. (a subjective opinion, based on the depth of heart of the one who said it; myself)
They can be used interchangeably I guess, except that the term 'makin love' is most probably exclusive to the person u love.
having sex
making love
fucking
humping
boning
pounding
romping
mating
planting seed
poking
drilling
screwing
tapping
consummating
taking care of business
quickie
sleeping with
playing house
doing the deed
etc. etc.
they all mean the same!
@jasonwl@xanga - I totally disagree. People who are deeply in love can fuck. Fucking is pure luscious animal sex, and actually, I think fucking is better when the people trust each other enough to totally let themselves go...just go for it, ride it. I LOVE that, and do it all the time with my hubby. I don't want a lot of soupy words, slow motion or batting of lashes, just FUCK the hell out of me...as Trent Reznor so finely put it "help me get away from myself"
@driftingpebble@xanga - It doesn't depend on how the deed is done. It depends on whether you're whole heartedly loving the person you're with.