It's weird how humans are generally attracted to beauty. People tell me that beauty is not necessary. That if you personality is beautiful, then you are beautiful. However, I have found this to be false. We are all attracted to physical beauty. If there is a good looking friend you met, you want them to be your friend. Perhaps it is so that you can also talk to a pretty girl who hits on him, or maybe it is because you like to have him around. We are attracted to beautiful places, beautiful people,etc. It does not matter whether we are attractive or ugly, we are attracted to beauty.
Being in college, I had a conversation with a friend of mine who happens to be an attractive girl. She told me that in parties there are
only two types of guys.
The
first type of guy is usually a frat guy. He is good looking, healthy and seems intelligent. He tells the girl that he is there because his friends told him to come. In reality, he would have come anyway. He takes interest in the girl and the girl responds kindly. As the conversation continues, they eventually find something in common. "Oh, I love those commercials!" As the night is coming to a close, the girl gets to dance a few times with the guy. The guy eventually asks for her phone number.
Success.
The
second guy is usually a guest. He is not too good looking, wears glasses, and seems a little socially awkward. He tells the girl that he is there because his friends told him to come. That is the truth. The guy realizes that the girl is 20 times better looking than he is, and takes interest. She responds kindly. As the conversation continues, the guy realizes that the girl is really not interested because she is giving him one word answers while his words are creating dazzling new universes. He realizes he is by himself. As the night is coming to a close, he becomes to scared to ask her to dance. He spends the entire night thinking of how to get with her. When it is too late, he decides the ask the girl for her number anyway. She gives the wrong number.
Failure.
As she finished explaining, I couldn't help realize that the guys acted very similarly, if not identically. They both took interest in the girl. They both told tried to talk to her. The only difference? The second guy told the truth. The first guy lied. However, the one that told the truth ended up sounding creepy, and didn't get her number, while the one that lied succeeded.
I've realized that the fine line between being the creepy guy at a party and a "hottie" at a party depends on not how you act, but rather how you look. What do you think? Are there really only two types of guys at parties? What determines if they are a "hottie" or a "creeper"?
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whoa..since when is there an actual conversation that transpires between two people at a frat party?
I don't really party, but I can see your point. I think we are attracted to physical, but that is never enough to legitimately keep people around. It's natural to be attracted to the outside first, that's all we have to go on.
It all depends on there inner game. I know ugly fucks who get laid like rock stars and I know the hottest guy's who couldn't get laid in a morgue.
Two types of people, really? I like that your sense of complexity was finished at black and white. Maybe you should spend a little more time outside of the fraternities and out in the real world. And while people are attracted to people they consider physically appealing, it is by no means a one size fits all kind of deal. In my experience, no matter how attractive someone is, if they are an idiot or a dick/bitch, then they cease to be attractive. It's not that way with everyone, obviously, but it's been that way for me more or less.
@wyrdkismet@xanga - agreed.
lol. did you REALLY just use the words "frat guy" and "intelligent" in the same thought?
@IfIWereAchilles@xanga - "no matter how attractive someone is, if they are an idiot or a dick/bitch, then they cease to be attractive." hellllll yes this is true.
@wyrdkismet@xanga - Exactly what I was thinking.
@wyrdkismet@xanga - Word. All of the reputations I seem to bring up from frat boys is the likeliness of getting date raped. Than again, i've never met a frat party, and I've never really partied in college. So, what do I know?
100% correct. Girls are just as shallow as we are!
@xXCrystal_RaindropsXx@xanga - @Ghost0402@xanga - @mynameisblueskye@xanga - glad to know that i'm not the only one!
yeh but that story ... the second guy had less confidence. that would have shaken me.
although the first guy, i prob wouldn't have trusted.
lol idk i'm picky! and drop dead looks won't get you far. at least not THAT far
If you're not sexually attractive, you're not really gonna have enough time to show a girl how 'hot' you really are on the inside ;P. A party is equivalent to a social kiddy pool, you aren't really getting much depth out of people for the most part, or in general.
I have met some REALLY creepy hot guys. Actually, they usually seem like the dangerous creeps, as opposed to the ugly nerdy creeps who just seem pathetic and desperate.
I would have to disagree with you. While looks affect the initial impression, There is a lot of variety as to how these things play out. Some girls are more eager to talk to anyone, and some aren't. Girls also seem to have a more varied taste in guys.
I have talked to girls at parties who have given me those one word answers. I have talked to girls at parties who were very eager to talk to me for a prolonged length of time. Was I creepy to some of these girls? Probably. Most guys don't know what to say to a girl that they just met so they come across as creepy. The difference between the frat guy you portrayed and the ugly dork is that the frat guy is probably much more social and is more comfortable around people, while the ugly dork has less experience and is less comfortable. Plus, if you were really dragged to the party, then you must not be having a great time, and girls are attracted to guys who appear to be having a good time, not the guy down in the dumps.
In any case, I don't try and get girls' numbers from the bar or parties because, honestly, I don't want a girl like that.
The most intelligent people are the ones that aren't party animals, most of the time.
And Frat boys are usually anything but smart. And the girls at parties, well, most of them aren't too bright either.
Also, as my response to this has been very fragmented, I would also like to point out that there is a wide range of boys, all yielding different reactions from different women, for some predisposition reason or another.
@IfIWereAchilles@xanga - Very true.
@wyrdkismet@xanga - It's true though, the college I went to, you didn't go to frat parties for intelligent conversation, just booze, illicit drugs, and sex with very very easy drunk women. :P
Of course the "hot" one would get the attention, first and foremost. It's in human nature. But besides that, it really is the way they acted that made dissimilar impacts. It's confidence that differed between the two, and the first one obviously had more of it. Being aesthetically pleasing will give a person a head start, but those who are charismatic usually win the race.
@aCe_KeiAnar@xanga - social kiddy pool..that's a good one. Haha.
it's the approach that counts imo, because if you have enough charisma, charm, and wit you'll be able to stand out in most places even if you're not good looking.Â
Only problem I have with this: people don't talk at frat parties.
Failure.
@xxthatsmexx@xanga - glad my words amuse someone lol :D
@Ghost0402@xanga - yep, sounds like the typical frat to me, haha.
That sounds like the worst party, two kinds of guys? And one kind of girl?I mean c'mon, college parties suck anyway.
@UknowWutsux@xanga - perfect. exactly what i was thinking from start to finish. Girls at parties are good for a good time only, one nighter. You dont marry them.