Saturday, 26 September 2009
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Super Friend or Super Sleezy?
It is currently "Fresher Week" at my university which is basically a week of clubbing and pubbing for the incoming Freshman class. My guy friend, who I will refer to as "Super Friend", has been extra flirty with many (if not all) of the freshmen girls in our living accommodation, and has even stated that he's looking for a hookup. The interesting thing about this situation is he has yet (to my or our friend's knowledge) to accomplish his mission, and some friends are even sensing a hint of frustration.Last night a girlfriend and I debated with a guy friend about the nature and perception of Super Friend's courtship (ish) behavior. Basically, the girlfriend and I interpret Super Friends behavior has over-the-top and player-like and are not surprise if girls are not hooking with him. I mean, every time we see Super Friend he's chatting up and taking down some random girl's number.
A girl might have his attention for a minute or two, but next thing you know Sally or Suzie or whoever is currently the flavor of the day (or hour)...and perhaps this could be okay if we didn't all live in the same hall! Our point is we don't know what self-respecting girl would hookup with a guy who she can physically see moving on to the next target within the hour...
But our male friend views the situation differently from us girls (unsurprisingly). According to him Super Friend is trying to meet new people and keep his dating options open. The male friend believes that Super Friend is just a young guy in a new place, looking for some female companionship and there is nothing wrong with that. No arguments there. But I believe that there is way to go about things, and behaving like an aggressive bee, moving from flower to flower, is not very appealing to me. Not only this, but Super Friend supposively seriously likes another friend of ours and these other girls are just "friends". However, he is not planning to make any serious commitments to our friend in the near future.
With all this male vs. female perspective about the situation, I cannot help but wonder: Is Super Friend really just a young guy having some innocent fun or is he actually a womanizer that girls should be very weary of? And if you were a girl in our hall, would you hookup with him?
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it's college. what he's doing is pretty normal for guys in college and girls will hook up with him sooner or later. i wouldn't personally.
I think the guy is pretty desparate. I've never been player-like, but I used to be in the situation of wanting to find a girlfriend, and also to be quick with it. Not in the rate he is doing it, though. To me, I think the guy is kind of going about it a pretty desparate way, and have him be more patient. Not every girl wants him and is even FOR him.
Super Desperate.
It's fresher's week, you'll find a lot of guys .. and girls like that during this time. Everyone's trying to mingle and find new friends and there's that whole friendly atmosphere on. I wouldn't think so much about it and judge him just yet.
I wouldn't. But I think it's college and there has to be at least one 'Super Friend' on every campus.
Super Normal to me and my school isn't in the top 10 of party school list.
@aCe_KeiAnar@xanga - Agreed!
Keeping your options open is different from trying to hook up with every girl in sight. He needs to quit the phone number collection and slim down his choices. The more he tries to play the game (and I say "tries" because it looks to be a sad attempt thus far), the less action he's going to get. Although I hate to say it, only a select few could be truly called a "player" - and they are GREAT at what they do. Your friend, on the other hand, should develop another strategy if he expects to get anything...
BUT it's college after all. Live and learn!
Eh, that's I suppose typical college behaviour, but it's still totally sleezy. I know I, for one do not give that type of guy the time of day, because even if his intentions are OK, they way he's going about things looks pathetic, desperate, and sleezy.
thats a hot pic of ed. and i think its normal that there are lots of people like that
A new place, a new start. Maybe he does want friends, and maybe his way of approaching people is to flirt. As long as he states his true intentions with each person, I think he's having his fun and deserves a break. But if his actions are hurting the girl he's seriously interested in, then he should be more considerate and tone it down. I wouldn't go for him, and I don't think many girls would, either, if they were interested in a serious relationship with him.
Ha Ha!! I don't think he is a player or womanizer, because they are usually a little more smooth and "know how to play the game" so to speak, which apparantly he doesn't because he isn't gettin any HAH!
I personally just think he is desperate and trying a new approach towards women by acting really confident when we all know that females can smell that shit a mile away
EWH! THAT'S A BIG TURN OFF FOR ME... I WANT A GUY THAT'S GOING TO COMMIT TO ME AND NOT LOOK AT ME AS A ONE NIGHT STAND AND ONE MORE GIRL IN HIS BLACK BOOK BUT HEY IT'S COLLEGE YOU CAN'T REALLY GET A GUY TO COMMIT DURING COLLEGE! 'CUZ THEY WANNA "KEEP THEIR OPTIONS OPEN"
seems like he just wants to have fun
Womanizer. I mean, it's college, so fine, have fun, but can he at least keep in mind they're actual girls and not hook-ups?
I personally wouldn't fall for this crap -__-;
that's typical for sexually frustrated college boys.
if he goes on that way he;'ll never get a girl and he;ll end up being even more frustrated.it;s a vicious circle.
u need to sit him down and tell him to get over himself. even drunk girls have some form of self respect.
Super Friend is looking super desperate. If he wanted to meet new friends and keep his dating options open, he should continue acting the way he is. He'll meet plenty of new people and nobody is going to want to date him so the dating option will definitely still be open.
No I would never hook up with him..I would never give my phone number to him..be a fake one if he tryed calling it.
ew. Sleasy for the girl he likes, because even if he is her first pick, the fact that he has so many back-ups it seems kinda like a crush than a serious inquiry - like you said - his current flavor until something else stikes his taste. I mean, I might be a little old fashioned, but I would aim to get the one I have my eyes on and if that didnt work, start networking one by one not burning bridges. Most girls I know dont just hook-up. There are some out there for FWB, but no girl I know really wants a guy who is still networking or rather, wants to know they are hooking up with others...
Super Sleazy. First thing I would think if I saw him do that -STD!!
For a the guys I know, its typical behavior to want to get numbers and such, but even they know you keep it cool. If your going to date openly, you keep it with an amount of people that is manageable. My friend max is openly dating 3 girls (Our group has met all three), not committed, but knows he cant date more than 3 girls. (I think he is grodie for that, but apparently there are some girls who can get into open relationships for months at a time - however - Ive never seen it end well.)