Friday, 25 September 2009
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She's Blaming PMDD
In response to the post "Hot Girls Are Crazy, Deal With It!":
My girlfriend has assaulted me (struck me twice with her fist on my head and bitten me once), threatened to make false accusations against me, threatened my family and threatened my career.
She has thrown my moving car into park before. Her reasons are "You shouldn't have pissed me off" or "I have PMDD". I understand to a degree the PMDD, but at what point do you draw the line? This is not a free pass for abusive behavior.
On many, many, many occasions she has publicly berated and humiliated me, accusing me of looking at other women. This is a frequent source of confrontation. I have never physically harmed or cheated on her or anyone else. She has admitted to cheating in most of her relationships.
She constantly needs to know: where I am, where I was, where I will be going or whom I'm in communication with. She has begun to greet most of her calls with "Where are you" or "What are you doing?" instead of "Hi". Which is usually followed up by a "Who's been calling you?"
She constantly questions my motives for no reason while I have been nothing but faithful to her. She shows jealous contempt when I spend time with clients, family, friends or even alone. This used to directed mostly towards females but has now degenerated to anytime I'm not with her.
Her rage, possessiveness, lack of reasoning and self control is disturbing. She has supposedly sought professional help for her anger management to no avail. I feel her possessiveness and rage are just an end result of much deeper core issues. I really feel like she is going to hurt herself/me/someone (or my career) during her outbursts. This will come in the form of direct assault, false accusations or her driving/road rage.
I have given her ultimatums, stop this behavior or I will leave, yet she continues at an alarmingly frequent and consistent rate. This has lead me to believe that she is either genuinely unable to control (or is unaware of) her bad behavior. I have tried to break up with her on several occasions due to this behavior (which then includes her stalking and threatening me), but we always end up back together in one way or another.
Look I'm not saying that it's all her fault. I no doubt have my shortcomings and have said some very nasty things, but none of it justifies being treated this way. It does not take a MD to identify unstable behavior. A child could do it. All it would take is one day in my shoes during one of her tirades.
What would you do in my shoes?
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I would drop her. She shows signs of abusive and controlling behavior. As long as you place yourself in her hands, you are enabling her.
This story is an excellent example of how men aren't the only abusers out there.
There is never an excuse for abusive behavior.
Given what you're telling us, the relationship is unhealthy and it really would be best for both of you to end it. Maybe take out a restraining order if it helps. Maybe encourage her to get some counseling too. Her "PMDD" shouldn't cloud her ability to distinguish between right and wrong so she has no excuse.
Get her out of your life.
since you've given her ultimatums that she's ignored, you'd be better off leaving her. she's obviously abusing you. if her PMDD was that bad there is medication for it out now.
get a new girlfriend. Not going to lie.
the vicious cycle of abuse will never end.
WHATS PMDD BTW ><
I would definitely follow through on that ultimatum.
As soon as someone assaults you, move the fuck on.
Run as fast as you can!
Move, get a new number, and change your name.
That bitch is crazy.
PMDD and it's "your fault" all are just excuses so she doesn't have to take personal responsibility.
There is treatment for PMDD so if she is still treating you like shit that is no excuse. PMDD doesn't make people go bat shit crazy.
@Vacantwhispers@xanga - Not just that, literally kick her out. Haha!
But then again, no one backs down easily, until you give them a itty bitty taste of their own medicine. Abuse can only work so much to your supposed advantage, till revenge is on the way.
Wow.. Time to say bye.
Honestly, I would NOT put up with that if I were you. The fact that your girlfriend has assaulted you should be reason enough, but the fact that she also seems to be clingy and accusing you of things you haven't done (not to mention, the fact that she's admitted to cheating in most of her relationships) makes it three times as worse. I say kick her ass to the curb. You'll look back on it a while from now and be glad that you did, trust me.
Drop her. She needs to deal with her PMDD in a non-violent way and not to involve others in it when it doesn't concern them.
get far far away and restraining order.
@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Agreed.
Dude, you shouldn't have to take that from anyone... especially who's supposed to be as emotionally close as your girlfriend. Leave, leave, leave.
Get. Out. Fast.
Step back & think about what you as an outsider would tell anyone else in your position. Usually thats a steadfast way to find an answer.
Drop that shit like it's hot and never ever look back. There's no excuse for any of that behaviour.
end it and not look back. her possessive attitude seems to be spurn by the fact that she knows she can cheat easily, so she's afraid of what you're capable of. plus you cannot blame pmdd on everything.
End the relationship and figure out how to keep it that way. If you're really concerned and still willing to help her, ask her family and friends to find more professional help. Good luck to both of you.
she sounds crazy.. >.< RUN. looking at her past relationships, how can she trust you if she probably can't trust herself? good luck.. hope the best for you both.
Break up with her. Get a restraining order if you have to. Don't answer her calls, better yet, get a new number. Move houses. Tell your family to ignore her. Basically break all ties with her. If you have mutual friends, tell them to not disclose your whereabouts to her.
I can't stand girls that use PMS or PMDD as a valid reason for doing violent and irrational things.
One have her show you a doctor's note for that "PMDD", and if she can't then you know. Even if she can't she should be on medication for that. If she doesn't see where you're coming from or thinks that PMDD is an excuse for being abusive then you need to secretly videotape her behavior and show it to her, who knows, maybe she'll see it and appologize. I would try before dropping her.
get some balls.
tell her no.
Uh, wow. You should leave her and she should take a chill pill.