So the other night I was hanging out with a girl. It was our first night and the evening went really well. There was no dead air at all and we had plenty to talk about.
At one point we came to the subject of drama. She told me a story or two about some bad stuff that happened with some of her female friends, and so I had mentioned something about how girls have told me various things about members of their gender.
I've had girls tell me that girls are "crazy". I've also had girls tell me that girls love drama. I feel that this is newsworthy since this is girls talking about girls, not guys badmouthing girls which is what you might expect from a guy anyway.
So I brought this up to my friend the other night and I asked her for her two cents on what her feelings towards her gender as a collective were. When she agreed with the assessment that some of my other female friends have made, I asked her to go into detail as to why girls seem to love and even crave drama, or why girls act "crazy".
So then my friend told me something that made my eyes widen. She told me that girls act that way because a lot of it has to do with wanting or needing attention.
I couldn't believe it. On one hand it made sense to me. On the other hand, it struck me immediately that this is an incredibly unhealthy way to live your life. Not only does drama affect your own well-being, but it adversely affects the relationships you have with other people. It also negatively affects their health as well.
I'm not saying that people or couples should never fight. A fight can be a good thing if it's about something important or meaningful. A quarrel can bring people closer together provided that they're able to resolve their issues.
I'm at a point in my life where I have a lot going on and I always have a lot on my mind. I just want to minimize the drama in my life. I've always been a laid back guy and I simply don't need a headache on heels. I don't have to be single, but I choose to be because I don't believe in rushing into something just because someone's available and they're interested in me. I have to feel like they're the right person for me.
But then I keep hearing girls telling me things similar to what I mentioned above and it kinda makes me think twice about getting into a relationship, especially since I have a lot on my plate these days. A relationship would be nice, but not at the expense of my own daily stress level. Of course I know there is no such thing as a relationship without stress, but do the above descriptions of female behavior describe the minority or the majority of the gender?
So I'm asking for a couple of things here. Firstly, why do girls keep telling me that girls are crazy, dramatic, petty, etc. Is it really true? Since I know that most of the readership on this site is female, I'd like to hear the take of the readers. Secondly, is my friend correct that girls purposely seek drama/conflict because they want or need attention? These ideas are kinda spooky to me as a guy, and I need someone to reassure me that not all/most girls are this nuts like my friend is suggesting.