I have standards.... Communication and dating before love, love before commitment, commitment before sex and if she doesn't have a brain between her ears communication is hard so the rest is even harder. 

I think having standards for their next SO is actually a fantastic thing.  There is no problem whatsoever in knowing the kind of person that you are and only expecting another person to treat you with the amount of respect and dignity that you deem yourself worthy.  And if nothing else, its just nice to see another chick who actually thinks.. and isn't a raging bag of hormones!

Me personally?  I actually have a good set of standards that i have for my future SO.

1.  She's gotta be smokin hot (at least to me) 

And before i get cruxified for being shallow, i'll say this.  Its extremely important for a person to be physically attracted to their mate.  I couldn't be with someone that I didn't find attractive.  Feel free to prod, goad and yell at me if you like.

2. She needs to be strong enough to deal with me. 

I realize that I (just as any other guy) can be a pain in the ass to deal with sometimes.  But sometimes when i fight, I want someone to fight back and prove me wrong... just to show me that you're worth my time.  I dont want someone who is going to well up and start crying when things get heated and difficult.  Just as much as a girl wants her guy to be strong for her, its just the same with me... I want to know that my girl is strong enough to be with me.

3. She needs to be vulnerable enough to be needed by me.

I've been in ONE relationship where, in the end, i realized that i was a stage prop.  Sure she 'loved' me ... sure we worked actually REALLY well together... but ultimately, she just didn't need me.  She needed the status of not being alone.  She was (and still is from what I hear) In love with not being scared of being alone, rather than being in love with a person.  I will never be a prop again.

4. Ultimately, I want... well.. moreso demand someone that I can compliment their life, and they can compliment mine.

LIke i said, I will be no ones prop, and i definitely do not want a doormat of a woman to be with.  Sure, the idea of snapping my fingers and having her race to my beckon call is nice... and any guy would love that for a while... but still... lets be realistic.  I want someone to ballance me out, i want someone to push me when i may not be driving myself hard enough, i want someone to do the same things to.  I want a genuine connection

5. OH!.. i almost for got... she has to be shorter than me!

I have standards, and sometimes I think they're too high, but then I turn around and realize that if I lower my standards, I'll never be happy.  The best I can do it hope I run into some luck, and if I don't get Mr. Perfect, then I should have known better.  I'm willing to compromise, seeing as I have some pretty nasty flaws myself.

Some things I most likely won't forget to look for in a partner:
1. the ability to understand my humor and/or sarcasm
2. life-goals at present, even if they change with time
3. respect for me, my space, and my loved ones

@pepsi_flavored_monkey@xanga - EXCELLENT!  You have no idea how much i live for the female validation on my posts here lol.  But no... everyone seems to say that looks shouldn't matter.. I just.. tend to highly disagree.. I'm a huge proponant of wanting to be sexy to my wife.. and more so having a sexy wife

To me it all boils down to personality. We dont have to agree on EVERYTHING but the major things like life choices & social issues, we need common ground at the very least. What's the sense in liking/loving someone if they have a major fight with you over things?

Aside from that, I just want a guy with home training, good hygiene (I know we ALL get those funky days but if you smell all the time, something is wrong), respect & trust for me & loyalty but that should go without saying. LOL Also, he has to do SOMETHING. I know college isnt for everyone but as long as he's happy with what he does & he's going places, I'll support him. I'm not a snob to where a guy "HAS to do X & be a college grad", but I wont settle for someone waiting for opportunity to fall in his lap.

1. Good relationship with Christ.

I do. However, the guy who fulfill my standards usually doesnt like me back.
So, its pointless to have those. At least for me.

My standard is they must be able to utilize logic. Unless they have a hot bod.

I am 36-and my standards are:

Must be very honest

Must be good looking (sorry but if there is not any chemistry I am not bothering)

Must not be cocky

Must not be overly flirty with the opposite sex in my presence

Must be funny

Must be able to take some "Jersey" sarcasm (I am in NJ, we are majorly sarcastic here but in a good way)

Must know what he is doing (or need little direction or re-training) in the bedroom

Must NOT live with parents and be independent

Must be trustworthy

Must treat me with respect and never belittle or intentionally hurt my feelings

I know, some of them sound TERRIBLE! But I have been in the dating world TOO LONG and don't have the time or patience anymore for less than what I want.

when it comes to choosing and rating, i'm probably the pickiest and most shallowest of all my friends...  a friend of mine, who will remained annonymous, once tried to convince me that his way was better; get any girl, do her while he's with her, find someone better, slowly drop her and go with the better one...  this process just keeps going continuously...  sounds pretty cruel eh...  well, it is...  the reason why he's able to do all this is because he's got money as well as a nice car, possibly a few more other things...  but of course, i remained unchanged...  my standard continues to remain high...

- she has to be attractive, go figure, at least a 7
- she has to have a smaller head than me
- she has to be shorter than me
- she has to be fit and healthy, and abs aren't necessary
- she has to have goals, short-term and most importantly long-term
- she has to be outgoing
- she has to be playful in the bedroom
- she has to be positive/optimistic
- she has to be creative
- she has to have a sense of humour
- she has to be understanding
- she has to be loyal
- she has to be smart
- she has to be younger than me
- she has to know how to cook
- she has to know how to give massages (preferably a nurse)
- she has to want to make babies (i already know what i want to name them)
- she has to love me regardless of my faults
- she has to come from a ____(fill in the blank) family

and the list goes on...  lol...   [it's getting late]

and sure, it may sound like i'm trying to stay my standard is better than his, but i'm not...  i know what i want, i will do whatever's humanly possible to get it, if i don't get it, at least, i know i attempted to be all that i can be...

well a friend of mine from xanga listed his standards and hit a lot of good points. You never know you might benefit from it. so if youre wondering, i think this is pretty much what most men look for...most of them i hope

Class - She's got to be sophisticated. Have some manners, be independent and know how to be professional. She must not need me, but want me. I'll be there when she falls, since we all do from time to time, but she needs to be strong enough to be on her own so I can trust her to be okay when I'm not around.

Looks - She needs to show me that she has some respect for herself and her body. Some people may say that this is the quality that is least important, but I disagree. A woman who takes care of her body tells me that she has discipline, creativity, and understands that she'll be sharing her body with someone she cares about someday. Someday, our bodies won't be just ours, it'll belong to two. Having said that, I believe that any girl can look decent. So anyone who tells me going for looks is shallow probably needs to look in the mirror and quit using that as an excuse for not working on themselves.
Family - Needs to have a good relationship with them. I'm very close with mine, and I've seen what dis-functional families do to people, and also how well functional ones can help others. Enough said. Girl, respect your parents, take care of them, and you'll have my respect too.
Brains - Just be able to hold a good conversation with me okay? Let me know that you think about the real world sometimes and not just the one inside your head.
Passion - She has to have a drive that'll make me want to be better, and I'll be the same likewise. I'd like to grow together with her.
Appreciation - When I spend money on her, she'll truly appreciate it. I don't want to hear stuff like "you shouldn't have spent so much money." I've already spent it. So just accept it please. She'd also ideally look at me, and see something that I don't when I look in the mirror.

Playfulness - She'll have a playful spirit, always up for new adventures and random little things. 
Culture/Tradition - She needs to know where she's from, and have some sort of respect and connection to it. She'll ideally be westernized, but would not have forgotten her Asian heritage. For example, she'd be fine with greeting with a handshake or a bow, and understand why on certain days I go and pay respect at my grandparent's resting places.
Music/Dance - Any instrument would be fine, vocal would be awesome. Any dance would be fine too, although preferably not break dance (what the heck am I going to do? battle her?), so lets keep this to a ballroom dance. This is a criteria only because I'd love to do a duet/dance with her.
Religion - Having faith in something, knowing that we're so insignificant is important to me. I hope that she'd be like me, exploring faith for answers and not let it limit our lives. Take the truth, leave the boundaries that it draws. My rules are simple, if you're special enough and think I am too, then I'd be more than happy to share in intimacy with you.

haha i have too many standards. he has to be intellectual, respectful, rich haha jk,
knows how to carry on a great convo,  knows how to take care of himself,   can't
be lazy, a great education, and a whole lot more