Wednesday, 23 September 2009
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PDA Tolerance
I have always been the type that loves PDA- not grossly making out in public, but constant hand-holding, arms around each other, pecks on the cheek/lips, etc. My first boyfriend and I were CONSTANTLY touching- sometimes to the annoyance of our peers. When I graduated high school a year before him, a teacher even joked that he didn't realize my BF even had a left hand (because I had always been holding it before).
My most recent BF had a serious problem with this- he said he had "personal space issues", but it always hurt my feelings when I would take his hand and then he'd let go a minute later. I felt like it meant he wasn't really that into me, but I'm not sure if this is about closeness or just about personal preference.
My question to you is this: How much PDA do you like/tolerate? Are girls usually more into PDA than guys? Do you think it's a reflection of your affection/closeness with another person, or just a matter of personal preference?
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Man... I DO NOT like PDA. Holding hands and a quick hug or kiss on the cheek is okay for me, but I wouldn't want him making out with me when we're like in the middle of a crowded place o.0 I mean you can save eating each other's faces off for when you get home.
PDA's fine, but it sounds like you rely on it a little too much. To assure you, to assure other people, whatever -- I'd probably get annoyed at you, too. It's like, enough already.
It's really just a personal preference. I like it, in moderation.
@soniiuh@xanga - I agree to what your comfortable with.
It's funny this blog reminds me of how I made out with my first and only highschool bf in the hall and was scolded for it.
When it comes to PDAs, I think heavy necking is too much but sometimes sneaking a smooch here and there when no one is watching is sweet.
i think it's all about what you like. my last boyfriend was way more into PDA than i was, the majority of the time. other days, i'd be all for it. and not like... sucking face in the mall, just the cutesy hand holding kinda stuff you were talking about.
your amount of pda is tolerable, but when things become too much, like anything more than pecks, i draw the line.
My boyfriend is really into PDA...which I'm thankful for - because I am too!! No making out in public, but the sweet gestures like holding hands, random kisses on the forehead/cheek, arm around each other etc. I dated one guy who hated PDA and refused to even hold my hand in front of his friends. I'm so thankful my boyfriend is comfortable with PDA because I really like it. [:
Making out in public is not okay to me, although moderate, occasional PDA is nice. I really hate holding hands ever, so I suppose I'd have to say it's just personal preference.
Anything beyond making out is really not tolerable for me. That's private material. Ick and ugh for couples who makes out in public.
I like hugging and holding hands in public but sometimes if I get a kiss I feel like everyone else will be annoyed. Even though I like kisses. :)
Every guy is different.
Last guy I dated wasn't comfortable at all, but I was all over him. He was hot.
The guy I'm seeing now is very PDA. He was the one who hold my hands, hold me, and kiss me right away on the first date.
Personal issues, you've gotta understand that and let it go. He just can't do that. There must be some issue that is disallowing him so don't push it.
i don't mind pda, just don't make it look sick.
I love PDA =)
As long as it's not like, slobbering in each other's mouth in public. Or worse..
Geez. Haha yours is okay.. Considering that I once had a friend who not only made out with her bf for about 30 minutes on a train - and when I say "made out", throw petting and tongue and all that stuff in - but she also started to give him a handjob right there, in front of me and several other friends. Yea. You can just imagine our reactions.
Hand holding and an occasional QUICK hug is okay, but more than that is not okay.
PDA, whatever. I dont care. As long as someone doesn't grab my crotch.
TOO MUCH PDA IS ANNNOYING
A little PDA can be cute, like hand-holding or a little peck on the cheek here and there. But people that have to go all out in public, to a point where it merits a "Get a room!" comment, I wonder what exactly is it they are trying to prove? It's one thing if you love each other, but to put it on display like that is just a desperate attempt to show off and say "look at me, I'm so special because I have a boyfriend!" Not cool.
I don't really know how to explain it other than this. Two completely different couples could do the exact same thing in front of me, and one couple wouldn't bother me, the other would.
I think it's about the actual connection between the two people, how they react to each other. I think for the most part, when it looks like an act, it probably is... "Oh, hey... we have each other, look how secure we are in our relationship!"
If you mean it, go for it... if you don't, nobody on the outside really cares... how much do you?
I'm in an LDR, so when I see couples who can't keep their lips off of each other, it makes me a little sick (and more than a little jealous that they can have that and we can't).
On the other hand, I know we can be that way at times, especially when we see each other for the rare weekend during the school year. So, while I understand the need for people to be physically attached to one another, I resent it.
hand holding is the best.
i hate people stick their hands in their SO's back pocket. just looks trashy.
i prefer couples who don't hold onto their SOs for their life as if they're drowning. i think it's cool if it's a hug or peck on the cheek etc but let go every now and then. girls are definitely into pda because they're insecure so they try to hide it and cling onto their 'man.' i think it's dumb and weak and shows that you have an inferiority complex. if you're able to go around your life without paying attention only to him, it shows that you're not TOTALLY dependent on him.Â
as for myself, i really dislike it when my boyfriend kisses me in public or we hug for too long and grope each other or whatever. i think that should be reserved for his apartment. i just think it doesn't set a good example and it's just annoying. i mean, if i wanted to see porn with clothes on, i'd find it on the internet, ok? that's basically my reaction. it's got nothing to do with being a prude... just be more private. but then, i'm not exactly the girliest woman you'll find. it would also be EXACTLY the same if i was with a woman. i dislike it when people rub it in your face, "HEY WE R GOING OUT HURRRRRR HURRRRRRRR."Â
It's really all personal preference and comfort. I think my level of PDA has varied from boyfriend to boyfriend. My first long term boyfriend and I were rarely seen making out in front of people, but behind closed doors we were all over eachother. Whereas with my boyfriend after him we were always touching. Always holding hands, kissing, pretty much attached at the hip. My last boyfriend and I rarely touched, which I really think was my way of distancing myself from him due to lack of interest.
I don't think I'm a huge fan on PDA anymore. What my SO and I do is for us to know, behind closed doors. Sure, hand holding is nice and maybe a kiss once in a while, but everything else is for us to know only.
As long as there's no making out, i'm good.
i LOVE pda.