I just got to talk to my boyfriend, Jordan, after three days of silence. I've been really mad at him since he was still talking to his ex-girlfriend, Jenn, when he said he wasn't... (She's been trying to take him from me since we got together.)
I can't recall ever being so mad at a person. I mean, I'm usually quite passive about things. But when it came down to it, I was just so mad, I was ready to give up and come to the conclusion that maybe they belonged together, and I was interrupting in their destiny.
He realized that I was ignoring him. So, he instant messaged him. I had short answers. I didn't want anything to do with him. My friends have been telling me that he's not treating me right, and I just can't see it. I can't remember a time he's treated me badly, lately. I mean, way back when we were younger, he'd get mad and yell at me occasionally... but not now.
So, I admit I even came close to thinking that... maybe we weren't meant to be.
That's how mad I was...
But, talking to him on the phone, I felt like I was going to cry... until he started pulling out the "babes," "sweeties," and "I love yous". Then, it was a totally different ordeal. I had just fallen back into the deathtrap of my screaming heart.
We hung up, and I was left thinking, "What happened?"
I was so mad at him... and I still am. Don't get me wrong, I haven't surrendered. I'm still mad that this is going on. Not that they're still talking, but mainly that he lied to me about it. And he had done other things to make me mad before that. That was just strike three.
So, right on down to it, this is what I would like to know...
Have you ever been hypnotized by your SO to forget what made you so mad?
And have you ever felt like you were interrupting someone else's destiny?
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all the time sweetie, all the time.
This is freakishly similar to what's going on with my boyfriend and this scheming girl Jen. Wow. Maybe you're somewhat over it because it's not that big of a deal. If you trust him, then know that they can be friends regardless of her ulterior motives. She probably has nothing on you anyway. (:
Yes, yes I have >.>
well when my girlfriend PMSs, there's nothing i can do but get her mind off of something really little she's gotten mad about and hope she forgets about it until the end of the week, haha. it's absolutely necessary.
Yeah, but I snapped out of it.
Not by my SO, but by a boy that I was into before him.
And no, I haven't ever thought about interrupting anyone's destiny before. Hm.
How do you know they're not still talking if he lied about it in the first place? That was pretty fucked up on his part.
I try not to get mad at my boyfriend anymore. That just leads to screaming and yelling and beatdowns. Before we figured out how to talk to each other, he would say things that would make me forget why I was mad at him. Never felt like I was interrupting someone else's destiny though. And if it was an ex of his? Lol, I wouldn't care. Those bitches can die crying because he's all mine for now. =]
Yes. And I hate being lied to -- a similar situation happened to me as with you. He said he wasn't going to talk to her anymore, and then he went and did it, anyway. If you have no intention of keeping a promise, don't tell me something just to shut me up. It's a great way to destroy trust.
Ooo. Reminds me of "Hate that I Love You."
yes, and yes...... it sux !
Wow something similar happened with me and my boyfriend at the time. We ended up getting married but he had told me that his ex texted him and he had said certain things and we ended up arguing about it while he was at work. And finally he said "Whatever, I'll just show you the text when I get home." So he did. And as I sat there reading it it became increasingly obvious that even though she was a lying, cheating skank she could still hurt him and yet he had lied to me saying that he wasn't talking to her. I was so upset I refused to talk to him. I went outside and sat on my car and finally after I guess he noticed I was missing, came looking for me. I wouldn't respond to anything he said or did at all. So he sent his friend outside to talk to me. It's ridiculous. People who are bad at relationships should probably learn this fact and let someone know on the first date.
yup at question #2 :X
it's because we're women and we will always have a soft spot for the man we love. i'm the same way. my ex knew which buttons to push yet just a glance of his smile and when he says that he's sorry, my heart melts and i accept his forgiveness. sometimes i wish i was a hard-ass so my heart wouldn't have to break too many times but that doesn't happen too often when it comes to someone i love.
Interrupting destiny...hmm. Never thought about that before. I've never really had issues with any of my past boyfriend's ex's.
Yes, my ex-husband used to hypnotized me all the time or maybe I was just too naive and believe everything he said. But I guess I got straighten out bc I'm not with him anymore.
And yes, I felt like I was interrupting someone's destiny but if it really were their destiny, fate will always find its way back.
I'm feeling ya; not the same situation, but my boyfriend gets all sweet when he knows he's done something wrong. Give him a chance to talk it out? And decide from there.
yes and yes, in the end i let him go.
Never been hypnotized...or I was so into it that I forgot about the instances. LOL
i'm a sucker for sweet talkers.
I think your boyfriend should leave you.
He's too good for you if you can't find it in your heart to forgive him.
you're not mad at him because you think he made a mistake, you're mad at him because his lack of honesty makes you feel insignificant. It's your own insecurity that's fueling this petty fued of being mad.
1. no.
2. all the time dear.
i've been "hypnotized"- i don't look at it that way, though. i look at it as a "repair attempt"- the person is trying to make amends. my last bf would do that to me so much, though, that i finally had the break-up talk with him when i was still pissed, instead of "waiting until we're not tired and angry". i said, no, we are doing this NOW, lol
My boyfriend & I fight, a lot. WE have completely differently personalities, etc. But usually when I see his face & hes got his little innocent look, I can't be mad @ him.
One time in particular he told me we'd get food & hang out with my friends. So I showed up for them to pick up & my boyfriend was visibly high (which means hes really high - its sad I know the varying stages just by looking @ him). He'd told me before I got there through txts that we should just come in & hang out, but I was starving & wanted to eat, but he refused to come. So when I saw him, he came right up to me & put his arms around me and started this whole, "I know you're mad right now & you hate me, but I love you and I don't wanna waste food cause I'm not hungry" blah blah blah. I was still SOOOOOO angry. But we still stood there talking & smooching & bullshitting for a good 5-10 minutes cause I couldnt' stay mad while I was around him...
how stupid, right?
Who knows WHY this happens?! Lol I'd like to know
@SupperMick@xanga - are you fucking kidding?! so, your saying.. if your girlfriend LIED to YOU about talking to HER ex.. you should forgive her because shes too good for you?
any guy who lies about his 'ex' obviously finds her more important. im not saying dump the dude but be on guard and really ask yourself if you can trust him. he might not be cheating. he could just view her as a friend and knows you'll be mad if you know hes talkin to her. really, nothing could be going on. but ask yourself.. if his ex were to beg for him back, say she loved him, and offered him a life with her.. would he go for it? if you know he wouldnt, then just let him know it bothers you that he talks to her and let him know that its the lying that makes you upset.
and seriously.. dont take the sweet talk bullshit until you two have MATURELY solved the problem. i fucking hate it when guys play that fucking card.
Yes to the first. But that's typical of being in love... unfortunately :(