Throughout history people have engaged in sexual behavior with members of both the same and opposite sex. In certain cultures, bisexuality was not only accepted but expected (particularly between an older, wiser person and a younger one). Bisexuality, the term, is a modern social construct that we now use to define the sexual/romantic relationships of a person who is attracted to more than one sex. Of course, as with anything else, there's a wide range of people that identify this way. Or who may not choose to identify at all, but still engage in this behavior. Personally, I think sexuality is fluid.
But sexuality, in general, can make people very uncomfortable. As a society, we're both obsessed with sex and totally repressed. I asked my friends this question and as could be expected, the answers were all across the board. Which got me thinking: What's the big deal? You love who you love. Which brings me to my original question:
Would you date a person who is openly bisexual? Do you think you have the right to know your boyfriend/girlfriend's dating history?
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nope.
because then they could cheat on me with a girl OR a guy, its too much to worry about, even for a secure guy as myself.
I'll date any guy who is attracted to girls. I don't care if he's bisexual. When you love someone, you love someone.
I do think I have the right to know my SO's dating history, as well.
I know someone who did once, but they didn't have a problem with it. Personally, I wouldn't.
I absolutely would since I am an extremely hot bisexual myself. I think it is really hot and it really does open up a lot more options.
But when I meet new people I totally keep my "secret" to myself until:
A.) I find out that they are open minded and will accept it. Or if I find out they are totally against it and if I am still attracted to them I will:
B.) Wait until a week or 2 until they are completely head over heals in love with me then there is absolutely nothing they can do about it because they are completely hooked and addicted to me. By that time there is absolutely nothing they can do about it even if they wanted to. Badabam SMACK DOWN!
i would date a guy who's bisexual. it wouldn't matter to me.
sure, i'd worry more not only when he's with girls, but also with guys.
but if he and i have enough trust in our relationship then it shouldn't be an issue.
and yes, i do believe i have the right to know my boyfriend's dating history.
i don't think it's being nosy or anything like that.
i just think that if two people are going to be in a serious relationship they should reach the point where they know each other like the back of their hands.
that can't be done if their individual pasts aren't brought up at all.
the events from the past are what makes someone who they are.
yes, I wouldn't mind. And it is nice to know their history but not mandatory.
As long as he was faithful to me while we were dating, which I would expect of a straight man, too, I'd be cool with it. I am bisexual myself, even though I haven't told a lot of people yet. I am a bit afraid to tell the guy I am interested in that I like women too, just because I am not sure how he'd react. He's very open-minded, but accepting people and dating them are two different things.
no because I know no matter what i do or how hard I try to please them they will never really be 100% satisfied with me. they will be always be yearning for something else. something I cannot give them.
I don't know if I would date someone who is bi-sexual...but I have a problem with people who pretend to be bi-sexual thinking it's the cool thing even though they know they are straighter than anything.
I don't know. It would be kinda weird.
I guess its his choice to tell me about his dating history, but sometimes ex talk comes up.You have to deal with it.
i did date a kid who was bisexual. i was his first girlfriend (or relationship, i suppose), and now he has a boyfriend.
i think that you should find out about dating histories, too.
My boy and I are both bi.
i wouldnt because i can't imagine having my boyfriend cheating on me for a GUY. because of the culture i am raised in it would make me feel that i was such an unsatisfying women that i made him go for a GUY. so no bisexual people for me.
Yes definitely - it would be hypocritical not too. In a lot of respects i would prefer to date a bisexual because they are operating on the same broad wavelength as I.
I have many gay/lesbian/bi friends, but I probably wouldn't date a bisexual guy.
i wish you ppl would give us bisexuals the benefit of the doubt :)
I'm openly bisexual. I have no problems dating someone else who is openly bisexual. In fact, my first girlfriend was.
@Balderdashandpiffle@xanga - Absolutely, you just completely hit the nail dead on accurate with your statement. Us bisexual's are SOOOO much better at communicating with the opposite sex compared to strait guy's, it is just awesome.
As an example when I was selling houses, I went to an outdoor chamber of commerce business meeting on day at a baseball stadium. Anyhow these 2 HOT married chicks came over and started talking to me. Anyhow I don't know what I said but 15 minutes into the conversation they stopped, they stared at each other absolutely mesmorized, the one girls said to the other one "OMG he thinks exactly like we do, I have never met a guy like this"!
I immediately said "I have to go" . These 2 women totally ditched there husbands, friends, and everyone at the party and followed me out to the parking lot and were hugging and kissing me and they spent another 15 minutes taking there picture with me. it was hysterical, I should have gotten there phone numbers and had a three some, these chicks were HOT! lol
Well I've never dated a bisexual, but it wouldn't stop me.
You can't help who you're attracted to, you can't help who you love, and that's how it is. The lines are blurred and sexuality isn't a definite thing.
I think because it's a less obvious trait, and not as common, people get the wrong impression about bisexuality and jump to conclusions about them because they just don't know. I don't know any bisexuals, but I won't make the assumptions. What is it that makes them so 'different', anyway?
I have... I don't think it works because I can't give him everything he needs and eventually he will start wanting... you know. Other things. It's hard, it hurts. I found out one day he was looking for men online and it was no different than if he was looking for women. It felt like a kick in the stomach. I think the difference is I can never fulfill all of a bisexual persons sexual needs and be everything that person wants so there will never be a future. Unless I was okay with cheating. Which I am not.
As someone who is bisexual, I will say yes. Love is love. My fiance is male. Just because I'm attracted to both sexes, doesn't mean that I'm more likely to cheat on him. I love him and chose to spend my life with him, so I will be faithful. It's no different. Sexual preference has nothing to do with whether or not someone will cheat.
I think it's smart to know about your partner's dating history in vague terms just to know if your values and preferences match. If you love someone enough, you're open-minded and not insecure, jealous or distrustful then it wouldn't be an issue.
Personally, I've never come across this situation so I don't know how I would react but I think I am the latter.
Yeah why not. As long has she is a girl I"m a-okay with being with someone who is bi,
I don't believe in bisexuality. That would probably cause a lot of problems. So, no.