Saturday, 19 September 2009
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Keep Your Enemies Close and Your Jealousy Closer
I will admit, I am a very jealous person. but something that I've heard and always keep in mind is "when you are jealous of someone, you are putting them above you." I am also a person with alot of pride and to admit that I idolize someone else (in the form of jealousy) is like a punch in the gut to me!
But I have found something that eases my jealousy. Being friends with that person helps A LOT.
First, I admit to myself that I am jealous. Then I ask why..
I'm usually jealous of girls because they have some history with my boyfriend or something to do with my boyfriend. So I admit that I'm only jealous because three years ago, this person dated my boyfriend for like, a week. And then, I calm down and realize.. she never did anything wrong to me personally. I view her as a threat, yet, in my relationship with him, she hasn't tried anything wrong!So then.. I become friends with that person. It helps a lot! I don't think I'd be able to control my jealousy if my boyfriend and her were hanging out just the two of them, but being friends with someone your jealous of helps your jealousy a lot. Because then you realize.. they are people, too. and they're NOT out to get you. They have their own lives to take care of. Makes sense, doesn't it?
What's the craziest thing you have done because you were jealous of someone?
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Intentionally try to annoy her.
i'm never jealous of anyone.
if anything, i make sure that they are jealous of me :)
@jeezshoua@xanga - Same here :)
I tend to do the same as you...get closer to her. If I'm honest with myself, at first it's because I'm trying to gauge her intentions...cause well...I don't trust most girls. The second part of it is to calm myself because it won't ease my mind until I have gauged her intentions, lol. For me, it's not knowing what she wants from him that's bothersome. Usually, the girl isn't trying to do anything, and it's fine and I gained a new contact/acquaintance/friend out of it. If the girl does want more from my guy than mere friendship, the interactions work in my favor because she sees I'm far superior lol...it's like I'm staking my claim in the most friendly, inconspicuous way as possible because she will become accustomed to seeing me with him and interacting with his friends and watching him profess his love to me. It's a sneaky way to stake a claim...but it's more effective than getting in her face and being the crazy girlfriend. Call it insecure if you want to...I call it a battle strategy.
btw...that photo is creepy
All I know is, I don't like the feeling when people are jealous of me, especially my friends. It sucks.
@merquryd@xanga - agree completely. i'm not often jealous, but if i am feeling unsure of a girl, i always try to befriend her and figure out how she is. who she is, too, i mean -- but how she works, cause often its just the way she works that SEEMS as though she's out for something, but its just the way she is. otherwise, cool, new friend!
i'm also not the type to avoid talking directly to my bf's female friends while making him cut them out of his life or anything...that stuffs just weird. (has happened to me from the other side before)
I've done some things, but I won't say :x
What I did if I got jealous of someone, I do something that will surely makes her envious. Like looking more good than her and get the attention of the guy she likes. LOL
I hate jealousy. When I get jealous I feel like there's nothing I can do about it. But when other people get jealous of me they do bitchy things. Like right now, this girl pretended to be her boyfriend and texted me through his phone, telling me to fuck off and stop talking to him. It really hurt because I'm just friends with the guy. But yeah... I don't do shit like that because it just hurts people.
Just avoid them?
At least that's what I believe most guys do....
Jealousy gives the other person ALL THE POWER!
The craziest thing I have done was to take a baseball bat to my ex wife's truck and beat the living fuck out of it.
I'm not a jealous person but I used to be jealous when my one significicant ex had infatuations with celebrities. Then I realize by getting to know them maybe exempflifying them, it makes me a better person and/or diminishes the jealousy.
i'm a pretty jealous person that im sure stems from insecurity because, well, doesn't jealousy always stem from that?
well usually i don't do much but it does make me very frustrated, etc. Like with my boyfriend, he has this 3 year ex and i don't know why, she bothers me even though they don't see each other anymore and she's in a different country.
Well, best thing is to tackle jealousy before it distorts the truth.
Oh yeah, i did get pretty annoyed when one of my friends (and my boyfriend's friend) started calling him my nickname for him. I mean, she probably doesn't know that it is my specific name for him, but it really is annoying.
@liveand_love@xanga - agreed. but i know what you mean when it sucks when you can't do anything about it.
Stole her cookies
This is the best jealousy advice I've ever read. I applaud you.
I have a nasty habit of Googling people.
And, then I feel dumb for doing it, and try and just ignore the person.
i act really crazy sweet to them and then attribute terrible motives to their every action. lol
but really, i can't stand jealous people. i get jealousy like what you are talking about when it comes to exes or girl friends of your boy or girls who have crushes on your man, but i hate jealousy when it comes to people who allow themselves to treat you badly because they resent your gpa, your relationship status, your physical appearance, whatever. I've run into this a few times in my life and it always makes no sense. I just notice girls who have jealousy problems usually 1. don't bother to hide it. And 2. are jealous of the stupidest stuff.
so, that was all pretty unrelated to your post. lol sorry for the rant.
i just try not to be jealous of them. or try to ignore it
I doubt I'd be able to all that you do; I think it's near impossible for me to befriend the people I'm most jealous of. Why? Because I can't stand those kind of people... I envy them for their looks or their talents, but I hate their ditziness, their sluttiness, their inability to be faithful, etc etc. I don't like the people I'm jealous of... I'm jealous of them because they have connections with my ex's or a more profound influence on my ex's than I have had.
Well, I try to not be jealous. I keep all this to myself. I pretty much ignore it. But yeah, really, I'm green with envy..
I'm not the extreme jealous type but when I do feel jealous of anybody I just act like they don't matter and boost my ego. So I end up acting super cocky and like the person who I'm jealous of doesn't matter and that's how I get over it. At the end they end up being jealous of me. Yes kinda immature but its my method to getting over it.
so what if the girl doesnt want to be your friend? or fakes being your friend so she has a reason to hangout with u and your bf.....hell she feels more down right comfortable calling my bf when i was friends with her first.
I threatened her, but because she WAS a threat to my relationship with my boyfriend. trying to always get at him while i was with him for the first 4 months. So i threatened her, she back off, it's all good.
omg... lol thought that i was going to do something EVIL. lol my boyfriend's ex of 2 months is currently attending our school for her 1st year, and i'm like hella jealous... and so i was planning on becoming friends with her, and act like i didn't know they were dating or anything and PRETEND to be friends. LOL she was crazy in "love" and psychotically in love/like with him for more than a school year, and she's actually really smart but very very stupid and naiive so it evens out. i don't think she's ugly at all, so i view her as a huge threat since i'm not very confident and i have very low self esteem, but this really helped me! lol i'm going to try~ hahahah.