Friday, 18 September 2009
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Do You Need a Dating Detox?
About... 2 months ago my friend, "Anna" began dating "Nathaniel". Told me, within a week, that they were in love and were going to get married. Okay. Sure. I can get on board with the love-at-first-sight thing. Then I met Nathaniel. Controlling, name-calling, jerky, Nathaniel. He made my wonderful friend Anna remove piercings and stop wearing certain types of clothing (leggings) saying they were "trashy". I don't care who you are, you don't tell someone you care about they are trashy and Anna is anything but! He also has forbidden my party-loving friend from drinking and she now has an 11:30 PM bedtime at the age of 22.
I would love to talk her out of this but she is headstrong and has alienated other friends over this boy. I can only pray that she comes to her senses here. Any advice otherwise?
Me? I am taking a dating hiatus. I read some advice from Patti Stanger (Millionaire Matchmaker and incidentally my new idol). She suggested that if you're not having luck with men then you should do a "dating detox" and not date for anywhere from 30 days to 90 days. I don't believe everything I read but this makes sense to me (I was dumped for a reality TV show. Clearly, I need to reassess my taste in men). So, darlings, I will not be dating till AT LEAST October 10th (it's already been a week since my reality tv relationship ended).
And this stands!
I do not care how cute you are.
I do not care if you are Adonis.
Johnny Depp, I'm turning ya down now.
Michael C. Hall, sorry but we'll have to take a raincheck.
Prince William - I'll see you in a few weeks.If only those were my options.
Dating's tough folks. Take it from someone who has (temporarily) thrown in the towel. I'm wondering what you all think of this. Is it best to take a step back and, for a little while, give up? Or should we keep barreling through and attempting to learn by doing and not by observing?
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I think taking a "detox" is a good idea, but not to an extreme.
If during your "detox," you meet someone who has great potential, and you feel a strong chemistry with him, why would you completely close down and reject him because you're "detoxing"?
Basically, I don't think you should be avidly seeking someone to date (if you feel tired of the dating scene), but if someone who you feel is great comes along, don't let it slip by you.
i did that once, kissed dating goodbye because one after another, my relationship failed and my heart was breaking slowly, and one day i decided to kiss it good bye for at least 3 months. i had a good time just searching for who i am without someone constantly holding me back. i recommend to everyone.
Im currently in the middle of my dating detox. I met an amazing man and it did not work out for a lot of complicated reasons, and so Im just taking some time off. I've had a string of horrible men and so I just want to stay alone for awhile and focus on the things that are really important.
If you feel like you're not ready to be in a relationship or in the dating environment, why not? Take some time off to learn how to be by yourself, reflect on yourself, and when you are game, go out there! But like one of the commentor said earlier, if you happen to meet a great guy during your little dating detox, why brush him away too?
I agree. If the time's not right, just be on a break. They could be wonderful, but if you're not ready for a relationship at that time, sorry hon -- but if they were willing to wait for someone, you can tell they care (or they just really wanna get laid with your hot bod ;D)!
always much needed after a series of failures! it feels way better to turn down dates you werent DREADFULLY looking forward to, anyway, and just be able to say you're not looking right now. idk, at the time, i needed it.
I think I do require dating detox. Dating when you're young comes so easy (it did for me) and when you don't pay attention to the relationships and don't place it as a high priority, you find yourself accumulating operatic debris from battles you should have avoided in the first place.
I'm in detox mode right now, actually! Just exited a relationship at the end of August, thinking I'll take the entire semester as a single woman and get to know myself again. Then we'll see if any worthwhile guys are even interested at that point lol.
WHY DOES IT HAVE TO BE "MIKE"?
This is so cruel and unfair!
Now back on topic, I would advise to stay put for a while, and go back into the dating game when you're ready. Nothing hurts more than dating someone you just don't feel like dating.
Haha I met my husband during an 8 month dating detox. I am of the firm belief that the minute you quit looking, it'll be right under your nose. As long as you don't go so firmly against cultivating any kind of friendship or relationship that you miss something potentially wonderful, I recommend this to everyone.
Cool idea :D
A break is always good to rejuvenate your spirit. Lets you shed some of the baggage and stress of constant dating.
i'm definitely just taking sometime off and NOT thinking of dating for a while. but then again. idk, we'll see how that goes.
i agree on taking dating hiatuses. cuz if you keep dating, you're going to continue to lower your standards.
That's a good idea. I've been single for a long time, but i'm back on the market now, looking & talking. If things don't work out, it will probably be better off for me to take a 30 day vacation from dating :D
good idea, taking time off from dating.
Hell i dont mind a break for a year lol dating scares me...
Take a break. I'm right here with ya!
your friend needs to leave this person.
lol...hahah I know a couple named Nathaniel and Anna that just recently got married....thats really weird. I thought you were talking about the same person I was thinking of and then as I kept reading I realized it's totally not them. lol
@wachamakulit@xanga - Ha!! Well I changed their names but that is a funny coincidence. I hope that your Nathaniel isn't as big a jerk as this "Nathaniel".
I agree, your friend really needs to leave that guy. He's stripping her of her individuality and doesn't even accept her for who she really is.
As far as taking a hiatus on dating, I'm all for it. I've been taking one for awhile now..
@JanetDart@xanga - hahaha nope theyre total opposites