Friday, 18 September 2009
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I Have To Be The Hot One
My best friend is a beautiful tan blonde with captivating blue eyes. I am the opposite with my dark brown hair, dark eyes and porcelain skin. For a while I wanted to be her so I dyed my hair blonde and got green contacts. Recently I got a new job and some of the guys that I work with told me that they thought I would be exceptionally good looking if I didn't have blonde hair. So of course I dyed it back.
The reason for all this sillyness with me changing who I am is that my best friend and I are very competitive when it comes to our looks and our men. Our freshman year of college we were both doing our best to sew our oats and have as many drunk sexual encounters as possible. Slowly it developed into a competition. It was okay when we weren't after the same guy but in the last few months when we go out we seems that we are drawn to the same person. Last night she was making out with a bartender and I decided that if he was going to make out with her he damn well better make out with me too. He politely declined and I left the bar.
We both try to make ourselves feel better through our competitions for men. It has nothing to do with the guys, it all has to do with boosting our confidence in our looks. But I think that this could turn into a problem if either of us ever gets serious with a guy.
Do you ever compete for the attention of the opposite sex with your friends? Is a little competition healthy or are we headed down a bad path?
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Quote: "....have as many drunk sexual encounters as possible." Read: STDs. Have fun, love.
You're headed down a bad path, even if neither of you gets serious with any of the guys you're encountering. You're letting other people's opinions of you determine how you see yourself. And that's not good.
bad path obviously, who competes to see who can be the bigger better and badder whore? sorry for the word, it's for the lack of a better term ):
this is just immature. and i agree with @steph -
I jizzed in my pants, and laughed hysterically at this post.
Self confidence should come from within. Otherwise you have this constant dependence of someone else for your happiness. It'll be hard, but I'd try going a couple (or more) months without trying to get with anyone (not even making out, and minimize flirting). You'll prob be kinda down at first, but then you'll come to accept yourself, and be a better, stronger, more self-reliant person because of it.
STDs...all I can say...
FYI, bad path you're headed.
loololol
Bad path. Very bad path.
Self respect is more important than the respect of others. However, good luck trying to gain the respect of any self (and woman) respecting man after that.
Do you even have to ask? Seriously. Re-read your post and you'll find an answer very quickly.
Honestly, you shouldn't have legitimize yourself through looks and by the amount of attention you get from men. If men are only into you for your looks, that's rather shallow and you're obviously getting the wrong type of attention. It sounds like your confidence is measured by the number of conquests you have and that's not necessarily the best way to measure your self-worth. Just my two cents. Good luck.
You are headed down a bad path. I wouldn't date either of you.
This is sad.
this is sad and pathetic.
Your self worth isn't measured by how many guys you can get to make out with you.
You're so much better than that.
I understand, but you both have to grow up.
hey, I think I want to be the lucky guy.
I'd rather be myself.
@snapeful@xanga - straight up.
^^^Listen to her, seriously.Â
As a full out lover of sex and beautiful women, here is where I draw the line. This just seems so grotesque to me. It's a huge turn off. I dare say a public bathroom would have less diseases than you do.
You guys sound like immature (bleep)s. Why on earth would you do stuff like that? If those things are the only things that make you feel better then you guys have issues.
You are headed down a bad path, and it sounds like you know it. It's okay to be a bit competitive as long as NO ONE gets hurt, as long as it's all in good fun. But assnapeful@xanga said you and she are likely to hurt yourselves in a lot of ways.
Calm down, you don't NEED to be the HOT one, guys shouldn't be who validate you, you should be able to do that on your own.
And no my friends and I have always had to my respect for each other to ever compete for the same guy.
my friends and I have this all the time,no physical contact though.
i think this happens and we can't control it sometimes because ppl are simply competitive by nature. that's that. but after a while, both of you should realize that it's not about the numbers. it's really not.