I was talking to friend and he told me his current situation where he was going to potentially hook up with this girl but it doesn't end up happening because she never called him back. Ouch, I know. Okay so he's complaining to me how messed up that girl was and why didn't she just come right out and say she's not interested. I told him that maybe she didn't want to hurt his feelings at that point but he insisted that she was the one who initiated plans to "hang out" together. I told him "maybe she chickened out, or worst case scenario, she found another guy." Ouch, I know.
Here's testing the theory: since my friend is 20% ass-hole and 80% nice guy, (self described) that gets him to 2nd base with a potential future date to hit a home run. His question to me was why are girls so into guys who treat them like crap. My answer? Wow, I really don't know. It's the same as me asking why do guys like bitches?
I guess it's because they like the challenge and excitement it brings verses someone who is too nice and nonchalant. I've seen so many times where a girl will be so hooked onto a guy who isn't very nice to her and she does nothing but complain about what an A-hole he is. But then when she meets a nice guy, she'll walk all over him, complained that he's too boring and goes back to the A-hole she complained about a month ago.
My own opinion? I don't think nice guys finish last. They just need to find a girl who is emotionally stable to be drama free and out of the limelight. So what do you think? Do nice guys really finish last?
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yes, but girls always marry the nice ones. the jerks will never be happy if they never change.
As my boyfriend likes saying: "Nice guys finish last because we let our women come first."
But I think he may be talking about something else.
Yes. They always finish last and are always taken advangate of.
This totally just reminded me of a Wong Fu Productions video they made of "the Nice Guy". They even sell t-shirts about it. But anyway, sometimes the nice guy finishes last because of him unable to to sometimes speak out at the right time.
A lot of girls are really looking at the nice guys, sometimes, but sometimes they are too much of a "friend" to notice that he may like her or return interest. It's rare, but it happens. But like seriously, "Just a Nice Guy" by Wong Fu Productions. xD Just a Nice Guy xD
oh. no.
Why does the "nice guys" question seem to center around "who gets some?"
I'll tell you straight out, nice guys don't get some either (a) because they respect their partners enough not to push their boundaries or (b) aren't really nice guys, and are just playing the card to get sympathy.
There's no box in which to put a "nice guy," because that can have several different meanings.
1) a guy who's too timid even to take the jump into a relationship
2) a guy who's really a jerk, but adds a veneer of "nice" in order to land girls who go for that sort of thing
3) a guy who's genuinely respectful and doesn't push his boundaries, and may appear to lack "guts" when making decisions about relationships (or potential relatsionships)
4) a designation a girl uses to describe a guy she's just not interested in
Unfortunately, they do. I am not putting all the blame on them being nice, however. Most of those "nice guys" need to pick better women to try to hook up with.
Yeah, but it's boring and annoying.
I'm a nice guy, and I dated a girl. She broke up with me promptly 'cause she dated only bad guys back in the days. I had sex with her. When she broke up with me, she told me that the other 9 exes she had sex done were bad guys and were more endowed and better.
So in theory, we're recycling used materials.
A lot of girls nowadays are like highways, you never know how many cars passed on it. And we're just one of the Honda Civic 96 EX. We're no match against the million other Audi who passed on it.
What I mean is that, nice guys do finish somewhere someday, but sucks that almost all the girls who are ready to settle are around 19~ and 20's, which like I assumed and said, already got a million exes before the nice guy comes in.
Chances are she won't settle down. The nice guy is too nice, and she's too used to bad guys. You guys have no idea how hard the transition from loving a bad guy to a nice guy is. It's not easy as snapping a finger (assuming you know how to snap a finger, duh).
I feel unlucky. All the girls in my area (Montreal, QC), are most likely recycling material, or those who have no potential of being my girlfriend (or the nicer way to say it: I have no feelings for them / not attracted physically / mentally towards them). It's hard being a nice guy. But I'm not bitching about being a nice guy. I like it. But it's funny how all my exes were highways and cars runs non-stop on it, and I get cheated on, lied, etc. You tell me.
It's also hard to find a girl who's emotionally stable at my age (I'm almost 20). This is the age where a lot of one night stands happen, and the whole clubbing scene begins (It begins in 16-17 in Montreal... IDs from friends, and legal age clubbing is 18 here). All I get is one night stand proposals, and no love at all. I find it easy to have a girl's body than having their heart.
Okay, sorry for ranting an essay. But sorry, nice guys, whether one way or the other way, do finish last in most cases.
Generally yes.
@live_for_love@xanga - Jokes, that's so dirty LOL.
My last boyfriend was nice guy turn asshole.
@mikeylohsu@xanga - Dirty, but funny. :3
@mikeylohsu@xanga - Wow, times have changed. When I was 19 I was only dating my second boyfriend in a more physical relationship. Ok I had one fling as well.
I'm getting fucking sick of this topic.
@mikeylohsu@xanga - You about hit the nail on the head here. Same things happened to me. It's become the reason I will only date a girl now after we are friends for a while. Because I've had too many bad experiences to just jump into one and get trampled on again.
@merely_a_christian@xanga - I think it's the type 3 who are of concern here. Type 3s don't pressure people into sex... but then, they don't seem to get much sex. So, my question is: Why do you need pressured?
@XactiLucius@xanga - Good stratregy. I wish I could try that, but girls in our society, or I mean in my society which is in Montreal City, they go for whoever asks them out. The more WE wait and WE try to know them, they've already fucked two or three guys already.
i always feel that nice guys are always trying to find the girl that has tons of drama and a bit troubled because he wants to help her. that's just my opinion though. but i do agree, if they found a nice girl, maybe they wouldn't be left hanging.
Hm, this question is posed so many times, but I still don't know how to answer it. Sometimes, nice guys are too nice. Then they play the victim card T_T
There is something unattractive about playing the victim card.
Then there are those nice guys who get caught up in the intricacies of a bitch and stick with her until they get bitter. I want to protect my boys from these girls but somehow, they always seem to get mixed up with them. Boys! Why!
Sometimes, nice guys just wait around and wait for things to happen, too, without being upfront about liking a girl. T_T Unless she's a mind reader, don't do that!!
Oh there are so many things. But that victim card thing drives me for a loop, every single time. Once I hear that I want to drop their ass on the curb.
@XactiLucius@xanga - That's also what I tend to do. I start to like the ones who are already my friends.
@mikeylohsu@xanga - Well that's not the point-ish. I mean it's nice if they were clean. But if I liked them enough I'll get over the fact that they've been "used," sure it hurts to know you're not their first and that they are yours, but hey if I like them enough it won't matter. Just I really hope they're clean. ='(
@Coffee_Kaioken@xanga - I wholeheartedly agree. ]
@scorpiontattoo@xanga - Ah yes, the victim card. Guilty of that in the past. Bitch about how life is unfair when I should be the one taking the wheel instead of napping in the backseat.
@Coffee_Kaioken@xanga - @asininity - History repeats itself for a reason, reiteration because people are indeed lazy to research and instead just asks questsions.
@mewithoutu77@xanga - Haha, that's weird. This isn't some Drama.
@mikeylohsu@xanga - wow, only 20 and already looking for the one! I guess we all were at that age :) I think the 20-23 age range is the most difficult, because it's very "exploratory." Then 24-26 you get the semi readies, in the transitionary phase into the real world. The "ready" age had been pushed more and more this way (late 20s), at least from what I've seen. But just take your time to get to know the girl's values and what her direction is, because in the end they're all individuals. But also remain a step back while doing that - getting emotionally attached too soon can make you feel like you've been run over a couple times too. You'll eventually run into her; might take some trial and error, but you will. Good luck!
nice guys finish first.
jerks get more ass.
that's life
@AznFier@xanga - Word Azn. I'm glad you got past it :) And um, PS. Ask them if they've had their doctor's visit before getting intimate, if you don't do so already. It's a fair question to ask :) If they get all hissy about it, you know it's time to booounce!
@AznFier@xanga - Don't get me wrong, none of my exes were "clean". There were at least 3 guys before me and I had no problem with it. Only problem is when they compare "my skills" with them, and compare how they do it, and compare size, all that.