First, back story. I'm 22 years old. I have had a few relationships, loved once or twice, and find myself single and in various bizarre situations. I am always comparing my life to Sex and the City so I figured if Carrie Bradshaw can write about her love life all the time then so can I. Here goes.
For the past 3 months I've been seeing an out of work English teacher from the Bronx. Really good looking guy. Lots of fun to spend time with. We hit it off immediately. Beautiful first kiss in Times Square. He was a little quick with this relationship (red flag 1). Told me he thought I could be the one (we'd been dating for like 2 months at that point). Also, my friends disliked him for various reasons (red flag 2). However, I let myself get blinded by infatuation.
Anyway, about a month ago, he tells me that he thinks that maybe we should stop seeing each other because he's very depressed (about being out of work). He also tells me that part of this is that he ran into a friend of his ex who informed him that said ex has a restraining order against him (red flag no. 3-19).
It really upset him that anyway could think so lowly of him blah blah blah we should rethink our "relationship". So for the past month I've been feeling sorry for him and trying to figure out how to make this work.
Thursday. I texted him asking him if he's free Friday night. He doesn't respond. I text again saying please respond even if you say no it would hurt less than getting no response. He responded: :(. Yes that's right. I dated a guy who used emoticons to express himself. (red flag 20 - I give up there are too many). I said, "That is not a response. Just tell me yes or no".
So he says "Look there's something I have to tell you". It is never, ever a good sign when I guy says there's something I have to tell you. This usually spells disaster and a half. Knowing this, I braced myself. I thought, there's someone else. He's moved on. He no longer cares about me. He's dying of some unheard of disease that only plagues those who've recently been to the Sahara desert.
Instead, he informs me that the real reason we've been having issues is because he's applied to be on the reality tv show The Bachelorette and has been called in to interview/audition and he feels that he cannot be one of those guys who goes on that show with a girlfriend while scheming.
Now let me tell you something about myself. I am not bragging here but I am a beautiful girl. I'm not one of those crazy women who just says that and yells out things like "Real women have curves" when in reality they're just fat. I'm a very pretty young woman. I get hit on every day multiple times a day. Men tell me all the time that I am gorgeous.
This man is now telling me that he would rather be on a reality tv show than date me. He says it has always been a dream of his to be on reality tv. Would it make it any better if he told me he was really conflicted about it?
Um. No, honey. The fact of the matter is that you would rather be on a reality tv show than date me.
It sounds really bad when you put it that way. What other way should I put it? That's what it is.
No it's not like that.No that's exactly what it's like. You could date me or try be on this show. You're choosing the show.
Well it's not like I specifically wanted this show. I mean if I had gotten on to The Amazing Race things would be different.Have you ever been dumped for a ridiculous reason?
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Wouldn't it be totally awesome if he won, ditched the other girl, and then took the money to marry you and buy you a house?
yikes...
whatever.. let him have his dream
holyshit, this guy is weird. obviously, you ignoring the numerous red flags did you in.
lol...that's a pretty interesting story.
Better it's over now than later right?
Don't worry about, you say you are beautiful, so I'm sure you can find another worthwhile romance
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - Lol, funny to everyone else, but probably extremely creepy to her.
Wow.. just wow.
lololololol
I think you're better off without him anyways.
you are so better off. wtf? what a loser.
xo
gross! i'm sure you could find a better man!
This is harsh but...get over it. He was dumb enough to leave you for some random chance at being on T.V., he doesn't deserve you. Find someone that does.
Haha, reality tv stars. You're better off without this guy. How long has he been unemployed and now he's going to try to get on The Bachelorette? LOL. omg people. Anyway you're gorgeous, so getting another guy should be np. One that's not going to ditch you for reality tv.
And ya, I've been dumped for a stupid reason before. He said he couldn't be with me because he had to go to court. Which makes good sense guyz...
Wth.
what a blow to your ego
now you're posting it for more humiliation
good going! Lol 
no matter how gorgeous the girl, he probably doesn't care because he wants to sample all of them on the bachelor show, where other sexy catty desperate women want to win his heart or a chance at fame to be the next bachelorette.
erm wow.....
He probably dumped you for a number of reasons; like because you're a shallow, ego-centric, empty girl.
At least you get hit on multiple times a day.
pictures or it didn't happen
Sounds like he's already on a reality tv show.
Guess you're not as hot as you say.
If you get hit on multiple times a day, you'll get over it.
I don't think he's ready for commitment!
not_izzy@xanga - completely agree. get over yourself, seriously. blah blah blah so what you get hit on everyday multiple times? no one wants to hear about how beautiful you think you are.
Now it's time you applied to appear on the show
And scare the shit out of him >=]
Haha you deserve better.
wow o-O"
He'll end up w/o a call back and come running back, then you can reject him and he'll have no show no girl...HAHA =x
LOL that guy is obviously only in it for the fame. screw him.