Tuesday, 15 September 2009
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Hated for Dating Your Boyfriend?
The guy I'm dating is a catch. He really is. We have been together for 4 years, met in college and now live together. He is extremely attractive, caring, sweet, smart, funny, motivated...I could go on and on. I know how lucky I am to have him and I give thanks every single day.
But certain women/girls hate me for dating him. For example, how about his friend's sister who has had a crush on him since they were children? Her AND her mom both hate me.
How about the girl in college who came to a party where he and I were, and told her friends that she was going to "steal him from me?"
How about when he coached a girls' college tennis team in and practically half the team had crushes on him? They all hated me.
I'm not quite sure how to take this hatred I sometimes encounter. Sometimes, I feel pride that I am dating someone so desirable. Other times, I think they are completely immature and rude. Besides, I didn't do anything to them - I am a nice girl - move on with your life!
Have you ever been hated for dating someone? How did you feel?
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let the haters hate! in the end he's yours.
I have and it was weird, before me. The guy I dated talked to other girls, but said they were all not datable material. He met me, and 2 days later we were dating. I felt like everyone girl who talked to him before... or even made plans to make a move hated me. Of course this was in high school, but the worst was I was a leader to a lot of these girls. Ah! Just let it go, they'll get over it, it's not your fault he thought you were more interesting. And besides after 4 years, they should get over it by now!
Oh man, yeah. When I first started dating my husband, I would go out with him and his best friend, and every girl they knew HATED me. For some reason, it seems all women in this metropolitan are in love with both of them, and loathed me for spending time with my boyfriend and his friend? Weird.
Oh well, let 'em hate! My husband is awesome, they SHOULD be jealous!
They're just immature like you said. Move past it, although I know it's hard.
I'm used to haters. Women tend to not like me much in general when I'm out with my guy friends.
I'm hated by my ex-friends for taking my boyfriend away from them. They didn't seem to care that we still hung out with them, and that we were BOTH friends with them beforehand. They just cared that he was spending more time with me. Eventually their drama caused him to not want to deal with them anymore (after also hurting me) so we're not friends anymore.
But yeah, really immature to dislike people because they're dating someone.
girls tend to hate me because i dont put up with disrespect when it comes to my boyfriends. no calling in the middle of the night, flirting, sending pics and dirty text messages. i don't let that slide. i dont understand why girls like to go after men who are in relationships... shouldn't we have some kind of code? i dont even look at a guy who has a gf. i dont care how hot he is or what a catch he is.
I wish I were that attractive.... :(
lol ... well, does my bf's ex count?
i have a BIT of guilt bout that one, she hated me while they were dating too (we had been friends long before they started dating), even though i stayed back and barely spoke to him during. now i heard her new bf wants to kill him? ::shrug.:: to be fair, i've only met her twice, so i really don't care so much what she thinks of me.
Hey, at least if they hate you, you know they're probably not getting anything from him.
@Liquid_Pain_523@xanga - True dat!
Yeah, I wouldn't worry about it. You've been with him for 4 years, HE'S YOURS. The other girls ought to respect his decision.
I have very deep feelings for my girlfriend, but if she broke up with me and met some other guy, I wouldn't hate him. She'd be going with whoever could make her happiest.
I'm in a similar situation.
nope but i would let them get to you
theyre just jealous cos u have him not them
pity them. he's urs. wahahahah
Yes, I date exclusively interracial, and that doesn't sit well with my friends. My Nigerian parents couldn't careless, in fact, they are happy that I don't black American men.
I just wish my friends would except my dating preferences, and leave me alone. They always make fun of me or say I'm a self-hater.
I know how you feel. I am engaged to a guy that has the body of a model and the most adorable face and smile, hs is very ambitious and doing what it takes to succeed in life, he is sweet, caring, funny, and incredibly sensitive and nice to everyone around him. Plus, he is only 21. So what all these haters don't understand is "why do you want to marry her ? you are so young and she isn't that great!" There is a girl at work who flat out resents me because I brought him in one day with me to make use of my discount and she met him and it was so clear, "how does she get a guy like that to want to marry her at 21 years old and I am 24 and don't have any guys let alone one like that!" Then there are all of his girl friends that just wish I would disappear and frequently just block my existence from their minds.
It hurts, I hate it, but on the other hand I love it. He will always be mine, he will always think I am the best. And yes, I am very lucky, be jealous.
So when I hate the fact that a girl at work who barely even knows him and that I have never been anything but friendly, helpful, and nice too hates me because of him--well at the end of the day I am smirking--that's right, Mr. Perfect wants to marry me!
I swear like half the city hates me for dating my boyfriend. I've gotten the threatening emails, anonymous phone calls, rude stares, etc. I'm not exactly the nicest girl ever, so this last girl that tried to "steal" him really played that up. She almost got him for a minute because she acted like she was just an angel and super sweet to everyone. I seriously can't even go to places like the mall in my city because somebody is always watching.. They'll text or call my boyfriend to tell me that I'm there and who I'm talking to.. Its horrible. And I've only lived here 2 years!!
Yes I have. I told her to go fuck herself. I am not a nice person, end of story.
Aw, that must be rough, but if you're really happy with him, you know you're lucky!
Not to that extent but YOU, YOU, YOU GO GIRL!
I mean, I've dated a guy that several other girls have liked and they would flirt with him but for the most part he would be really proud of me (idk why) and always, if they attempted to flirt with him, he'd talk to them about me or just not be interested. :) I guess you can ATTEMPT to try to get along with those girls, like try to establish peace, but if they cannot get over themselves.. fuck it. Good luck. You guys are past college and still encountering hate? That's so ridiculous!
I was hated by my (now-ex) boyfriend's friends (mostly girls) for "taking" him away from them. One of them even accused him of replacing her if he dated me. He didn't listen and went out with me, but it was always awkward when it was us and them at the same event/place. I never started/said anything because in the end he was with me and not with her or any of them... but you can imagine their joy and laughter when we broke up.
They still don't talk to me and pretend I don't exist, but it's fine. If they hate me, it isn't the end of the world. They can have him now if they want, but he hasn't gone out with any of them... so I guess they can keep waiting. haha.
No.. for some reason im attracted to people no one else knows and i end up introducing them to my friends. However my close friends boyfriend is someone I always had my eye on, and now I'll never have him. Life sucks =P
@Starring_Hobo89@xanga - /cry me too.Â
@sarahb_86@xanga - Hahaha. Goodstuff.
@AznFier@xanga - :) That it was.
the ex gf hated me >.<