Monday, 14 September 2009
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Do You Believe in "The One"?
I think I was a bit of a hopeless romantic once. I analyzed everything, down to the most diminutive of details, and I found meaning in all that empty space. I loved the idea of The One, of Someday, and I thought and talked about it all the time. I was so curious as to who he was, what he was like, when I would meet him, where I would meet him. There were days when all I wanted was a sign of some sort that he was really out there.I was fine with waiting, just not in uncertainty. I imagined that I would have a sweeping, utterly romantic love story – the passion, the eloquence, the bouquets of sharpened pencils. I consumed fanciful tales of chivalry, of intelligent women pairing off with stately gentlemen. While I was never pathetic about love and my notions of love, there was no question about it: I was in love with the idea of being in love and having that one day.
I don’t know how or when or why it happened, but I know that I’m not that person anymore. Whenever I think about being with someone, it feels like such an abstract, irrelevant concept, one that I’m completely apathetic about. I still appreciate romance for what it is, and I still adore characters like Mr. Darcy who are simply perfect on paper, but I don’t feed on it and I don’t picture any of it for myself. I don’t believe in The One, and I don’t think about Someday. When I look at the future, I see years of hard work, pursuing a worthwhile career, travelling, and just really coming into my own as a person. Maybe all of this – the not being obsessed with soulmates and love and happily ever afters – is just a sign that I’ve grown up and out of my Prince Charming complex. Maybe I’m not wired right.
Either way, I can't be bothered to do anything about it.
Are or were you a hopeless romantic? What are your beliefs concerning love and soulmates?
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Bouquets of sharpened pencils <3 it - You've Got Mail. I love that you used that line, it's awesome.
I'm a huge hopeless romantic. It's really hopeless. lool
but i used to believe there is "the one" for everyone... i dont kno not anymore i guess.. though i strongly believe in love.
I don't really like saying soul mate. I'd rather say the one. I hope to find him one day
Yeah, I'm a hopeless romantic. Proud of it too :D
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I do believe in "the one" but I'm pretty sure I am a hopeless romantic :/
I believe it was just a phase as I went thru that period in life at one point. Eventually we see the world for what it really is, and our views adapt and change to that. We then care about more important things, and if for some magical reason that special person does come into our life then it's a bonus.
Mr. Darcy wasn't perfect.
i don't believe in "the one" but i also don't believe we can settle with just anybody. i enjoy romance but i'm not a hopeless romantic.
I'm a hopeless romantic. I'm not sure what to think of "the one" or soul mates. I'm sure plenty of people have found theirs, but I don't know if I have or will.
possibilities are always endless, i am optimistic:)
i ... i ... idk. i would have said no all through HS, college - but - i'm just not so sure anymore. i've thought that if i break up with my bf now, i wouldnt believe in it anymore. again, that could be wrong too, and i wouldnt be suicidal or anything if we broke up (shit happens) but for me, right now, he IS The One - we've been best friends since we were 16-18. i mean neither of us are perfect, obviously, that's whats so lovely about it. idk. i'm lame like that i guess.
I wouldn't consider myself a hopeless romantic, but I've found my One. So . . . maybe I'm somewhere toward the middle of the "hopeless romantic/totally realistic" spectrum.
To quote a line from Will and Grace:
Of course I believe in The One. How else would I get to 2, 3, 4, and 5....?
I am. Sadly
i believe in the "two"
meaning God is my first love xD. lame i know..but anyways, i believe i have a soulmate somewhere out there...and for myself, im hoping it's someone i've known already...and have had feelings for five years for x]
No, I don't believe in "the one" or "forever" or anything else that implies permanence. There are too many things in life, too many changes one will go through, to simply say this will be that and that is that. For, if life were so simple, all excitement would be gone. Besides, who doesn't like a good twist? ;]
Hopeless romantic I am not, but I'm thankful for havin found the perfect one for myself. I never thought someone like me would be so lucky, but hey, no harm in believing ;p
I know love is not perfect, but it's good enough to be better than anything I can imagine. And that reason alone fuels my faith in love.
Yes I am and always will be a hopeless romantic! It's a quality that isn't around as much anymore... I have met the one. When I first saw him I knew deep down that if I just talked to him and if he fell for me then it was last forever! Well, here we are three years later and I still feel the same way. I believe there is "the one" who can not only love you and be attracted to you but also be able to forgive you and understand who you are. I also love the fact that we both agree fights are good because that's how you solve problems or vent.. Now, i did not find "the one" until I just stopped trying..
i think i found my "one" in my first love but we can never be together again. but we both love each other and always will.
I don't think I am romantic at all, so I do not believe in the one...
I also do not believe in love at first sight, or any bullshit like that..
There are people I am very compatible with and people I am less compatible with. I'll believe in "the one" if I ever find "the one". Hope I'm not settling for less...
I believe it's possible to love anyone. But I do believe that everyone has that "one". At least I'd like to believe it.
@pretend2fly@xanga - I'm in that same boat. I'm quite certain that if it does exist, I had it. But there's no chance of getting it back. It's a depressing thought isn't it?
i am a dreamer i have always dreamt and think will continue to dream about the one, even wen i focus on my self it still one of the thing i dream to have with the many other dreams i have made my self to dream about.