Sunday, 13 September 2009
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Parental Expectations?
Are you a mama's boy? Or a daddy's girl?
Do you solely base your decisions around what your parents EXPECT of you, WANT from you?
Do you simply let your parents make your own decisions because they're your parents?
Are you dependent on them and do they pay for absolutely everything for you?My boyfriend may be a month and two days younger than me, but I consider him a helpless baby. He can't do anything on his own.
His parents treat him like he can't live on his own, or that he needs their support. He's never taken care of himself. His parents baby him, or rather spoil him to death.His parents are always on his ass about his grades in school. They even thought that I was distracting him, therefore they wanted him to break up with me. Which is why I am writing this blog.
Would you ever break up with someone, just because your parents said so?
Even if you claim that you love someone, if you just give them up like that because your parents don't approve, then maybe you really didn't love them at all... is something I wanted to tell my best friend, because this has unfortunately happened to her. Her boyfriend of more than a year, broke up with her, to please his parents. I lost respect for him. His parents simply didn't like her, because they expect his girlfriend to have a certain GPA, certain grades, and apparently what she has, wasn't enough. She's not the kind of girl that they want their son to be dating. And let me tell you, my best friend is one of the nicest girls ever, very sweet and loving, always smiling and happy, fun, creative, smart, cute, and etc. etc. MAYBE, it's because his parents are old fashion, or because they're very strict. But what gets me really angry, is how he could just let it all go, just for his parents!
And don't get me wrong here. I'm not saying that everyone shouldn't disregard what their parents think but I can't help but wonder,
Why people would let their parents decide the result of their own relationship?I can see that, if the person was a bad influence, or didn't do you any good, the reason why you'd be better off...
But in this case, it isn't like that.Would you break up with your SO because your parents want you to?
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I would never. If I love someone, those are MY emotions, not my parent's. I wouldn't care, even if my sig. other and folks hated eachother.
@ferociousfruitbat@xanga - agreed
I can be open to their advices, concerns, and opinions but at the end of the day, its my life. I choose who I want to be with because I know myself best and who and what will make me the happiest.
No. It's my choices, my future. They can make suggestions to help steer me down a better path, but ultimately the decision is mine. Their wants may or may not affect that.
When I do fuck up, they can say I told you so and help me get back on my feet. Family is there to support you, no matter what. =]
Obviously my parents opinions count a LOT, but honestly, it depends on who dosen't like him. If it was my mom, I wouldn't give a flying crap, but if it was my dad, I might reconsider it. Of course, it would have to be for legit reasons. -_-
nope, never.
my boyfriend dated me for a year when his parents hated me and wouldnt allow him to date.Yes, I would, as long as it is rational. My mother and I have an excellent relationship and she would never steer me in the wrong direction.
i think my parents' opinions counts a lot, and i agree to a certain degree that you should have standards for your SO (i wouldn't date someone who dropped out of high school, for example, or had a 2.0 gpa... that sort of stuff) but if you tell your SO you love them/etc, you shouldn't break up with them just to please your parents. it's your life.
depends on how much i like the guy i guess.
I doubt it. But if I knew that deep down that she was right about him not being good for me, then yeah.
Nope. It's my life, and my feelings. Will they understand how I feel? No.
I'm not even close to my parents.
I would only break up with them if there was a really good reason to. But even then, I wouldn't need my parents to show me the reason. I can figure it out and do all of that on my own.Â
If my parents told me to break up with the guy simply because they don't like him and don't have a solid reason not to like him, then no, I wouldn't.
if i really loved this person, i wouldn't care about the parents opinions. Sure i'd be sad but if hes willing to still continue on with this.
Kinda like romeo and juliet hah
My mom respects me enough to let me make my own choices. I take her thoughts into consideration, though.
My boyfriend's mom, however, tried to get him to break up with me. He didn't listen to her. And then she tried to get our own friends to break us up at the beginning of our relationship. Thankfully, she's turned around and seems to really like me now.
I probably would lol but that's because they were right about two guys (one was my ex and the other was a guy I was just seeing) Luckily both relationships were short lived. My parents never told me I couldn't date them or should break up with them (they know I'm an adult and let me make my own decisions and don't give their input if it's not asked). When asked about those guys during/after fights, they just said they didn't feel the relationships would work (for various and very understandable reasons haha) and that they just want me to find someone who makes me happy and who is deserving and driven. Of course they love my current bf, which I'm happy.
my parents are going to be getting a divorce soon and have been estranged twice in their marriage, so no, i wouldn't really pay attention to their romantic relationship advice : P
and i seem to be doing pretty well on my own in that department anyway!!
This has happend to me about 6 months ago but a different story. My dad didnt want me to date my boyfriend because of his job. He works at walmart. He thought we was getting serious which we wasnt. He thought he wouldnt be able to support me. He told me that he was gonna to cut my phone off and other stuff. Then we ended it. Then i told my dad can i see him again then he said i dont care what you do. And we're still together. But it was a bunch of mess!
My mom said me and my ex-girlfriend were not compatible. The she broke up with me. Mom was right LOL
If I was a girl, I wouldn't want to date a guy who was babied.
As an adult, yes, I'd listen to them and probably end the relationship. When I was a teenager, no, I knew everything lol. Fortunately, they really like my husband.
i think it depends on their reasons and how much they mean to me. my parents opinions count for SOMETHING - but, my mom's a difficult person sometimes, very different than me, so sometimes i know i have to make my own choices
I'm dating them, not my parents. I don't care what they think of who I date. It always works more smoothly when they like them, approve of them, or at the least don't mind them. But regardless, it doesn't matter.
Honestly... there has to be a reason WHY they don't like the guy. If they tell me more than once or twice, I would. Their opinion means a lot to me.
My parents are pretty chill, and I know that whoever I date will be good enough for my parents. But someone I'm going to marry...now that's a different story XD
@soniiuh@xanga - So true :)
It's really tough to defy your parents like that. Sometimes, you really just don't have a choice, especially if you live with your parents. Someone will get hurt/disappointed in the end.
if they have valid reasons, then i will listen to what they have to say.