Sunday, 13 September 2009
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Are First Impressions Usually Wrong?
You think you know someone through your first impression of them. The hardcore, ex-drug addict partier turns out to be the biggest softy-sweetheart you've ever met. On the other hand, the church-going, "I can do no wrong" Bible-spanker who prays before every meal turns out to be a perverted sex fiend. What are the odds? Why does it happen this way?
In my experience, this is how things have always turned out for me. My first impressions are usually wrong. I wish I had the answers to those questions, but unfortunately, it's a mystery to me as well. I think that, in my case, maybe I just see what I want to see at first, or on the other hand, maybe first impressions are usually wrong for everyone. I'm not sure, because I don't know how other people see people at first.
I do know, however, that I usually get a split-second gut feeling when I meet someone for the first time , or even when I just give them a passing glance, and it's always correct. It's different from the first impression, because I usually get it before I even speak to the person. I don't always take notice of the gut feeling, which is what gets me in trouble sometimes, or what causes me to miss out on getting to know a really cool person. When I do notice it, though, it never fails me; it's always correct.
I (and everyone else) need to start taking notice of it more. I've gotten better at it, but apparently, I missed something pretty recently, and now I'm a little stuck. That, however, is beside the point.
How many of you feel like your first impressions are usually right? What about wrong? Similarly, does your gut feeling usually match your first impression or not? Do you listen to your gut feeling? Do you even notice it most of the time?
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My first impressions aren't ALWAYS right, but most of the time they are. I tend to disregard my gut feeling a lot of the time and it usually happens to be right. >.<
Think about this.
What do you think of the first impressions people get about YOU. do you think they are right?
my first impressions of someone can sometimes be wrong... i mean ive had experiences where i thought about a certain person in a certain way and realized that they were not at all what i thought they were... lol if that even makes sense.
Some people I've had wrong first impressions about, have ended up being my friends. But I do think that usually my first impressions are right, but everyone gets first impressions wrong sometimes.. I'm sure.
I think impressions are just social stipulations on people. If you can plan every meeting you have with someone that would be great but it's not possible. I think the phrase tries to encourage everyone to take on their best behaviour meeting others because most likely sometimes it's that one impression you can only base it on.
my first impressions are usually correct. but there are a few here and there that are wrong. i agree with the gangster looking type who happens to be the total sweetheart :D
My first impressions are usually my gut feelings; I'm very conscious of both. Of course, I'm not always correct, but I'm usually pretty accurate. Still, I try to be polite to everyone, which is why some people think I'm too trustworthy.
my first impressions are pretty accurate for the most part, except when i'm i meet new girls. they always seem super bitchy to me for some reason. hahah.
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Most first impressions are all right. But it's not always true. What I thought was a really friendly guy turned out to be a cheating horndog.
I usually wait until the second time I see a person to make any kind of judgment, because you never know, that 1st impression could be made when that person is having a really bad day.
I will tell you that my first impressions of someone are lasting.
I mean, they might not be always right. I've hated some of my closest friends at first glance/meeting. Once you get to know them though, they become more beautiful in your mind.
First impressions have some credibility. Stereotypes exist for a reason and a first impression can tell a lot about a person. But at the end of the day, a first impression is nothing but a movie trailer. Some movie trailers look awesome but have no substance, while another movie may look boring, but turns out to be a great movie. Can you tell some things from a trailer? Sure.... but not a whole lot.
A person is infinitely more complex than a 2 hour movie..... so it's pretty ridiculous to think one can judge a person from a first impression.
@UknowWutsux@xanga - good point.
my first impressions are usually right...lol so idk
Yeah. Same boat here. Don't listen to my gut feelings and usually when I have doubts, I should listen to them but I don't. I'm a boat load of /fail there. But usually I find that, after knowing a person for a while, I am usually thought of as a Bitch initially, yes with capital letters. But I'm really not. That's just me not paying attention to what I'm projecting to others. At the same time, I don't mind. The people who really want to, will learn who I really am underneath. =) I don't believe in laying all my cards on the table immediately.
There are always more to people than first impressions. There is always more to know. Don't fool yourself.
Don't judge a book by its cover but it's hard sometimes. I usally judge people based on their actions like teenagers that are really loud and obnoxious, you can tell they want attention and they're not very good looking so they want people to look at them.
first impressions are not allways correct. after a while its kinda easy to see when people try really hard to put an halo on their head. the truth comes out sooner or later, but for the most part people seem to save-face most of the time. I like to be honest and straightforeward, and expect the same from others, but thats not the way it allways works.
Well, i never pay too much mind to my first impressions because i'll find out when i find out. But people's first impressions of me are always dead wrong.
In my experience I've found I can rely more on gut feelings. It's doesn't happen with everyone I meet, some times I really feel I need to get to know someone. Gut feelings however seem to be right. The most recent was a friend's girlfriend. I looked forward to meeting her, it's the SO's best friend and I love him dearly. As soon as she walked through the door I just got the oddest 'gut feeling' and something just didn't sit right. I tried really hard to like her (they seem pretty into one another), but I never could get over the initial gut feeling. The more I got to know her (she was not hesitant to share her whole life story), the more I questioned this girl and the less I liked her. They're still together, I'm hoping she proves this gu feeling wrong, but it just won't go away; and in past experiences my gut feelings are usually pretty accurate. =\
I tend to forget my first impressions.... >___________> LOL. but I am, for the most part, extremely cynical. Believe in the worst of people, never hold expectations, and realize that humans are at core, terrible, undeserving beings which no any other species would care about if we were wholly exterminated.Â
I don't think about first impressions often. I don't really remember when was the first time I met them and what was said or what was worn... or anything lol
A person's first impression is just the face that they want everyone else to see. It's not necessarily different from who a person really is, it's just a part of them, usually the best part.
Sometimes, mine are right.
However, I've been wrong before... like in the case of my SO. I thought he was a real tough, emo-like person who was constantly mad at the world when I first saw him. However, he turned out to be the most caring person I have ever met. ^^