Saturday, 12 September 2009
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Men vs. Women: Is It Really That Valid of An Argument?
I’m a guy, and therefore most of my friends are guys. Sometimes when were out bonding doing all manner of manly things like slaying dinosaurs with our bare hands and vanquishing the evil goblin that is Martha Stewart, the conversation turns to the subject of women. We’ll then begin to give detailed reports of our recent successes, failures and mysteries based on our recent experiences. Sometimes, one or two of the more frustrated members of the flock will begin to bash women and how they can be just as horrible or cruel as men, if not more so.Believe it or not, I also have female friends that I’m quite close to. I know what you’re thinking, but there is no physical contact. We’re strictly friends. Yes, you read that correctly. And yes, I’m heterosexual. If you need proof go to www.giant.... Oh nevermind.
Sometimes when I’m hanging out with my female friends, I get into similar conversations with them. They tell me about their issues concerning guys and I give them my two cents from a guy’s perspective. That’s what friends are for, right?
Then one day, something occurred to me. In this constant argument over which gender is worse and which is better, I found that by getting a glimpse of the argument from both sides it made me realize something; both genders include people that do terrible things to their significant others. In other words, neither gender is truly better or worse than the other.
I’ve had guy friends tell me about girls who lie and cheat, among other things. I’ve had lady friends tell me about guys who lie and cheat and tell me similar stories of foul play. I could get into the details of these stories but it’s not like I’m being paid to be a public relations figure for either gender, so it’s not really necessary. Just take it from me that the stories from either side of the fence have been pretty horrible.
Think of all the quarrels that you’ve had with a significant other and all the topics that those arguments have covered. Have you ever had an argument that stemmed from miscommunication? How about a break up as a result of infidelity? What about lies? Big lies? How about little lies that snowball into larger issues? How about battles over power and supremacy, or misunderstandings over what’s important to each partner? What about a fight as a result of a glance or a gaze at another member of the opposite sex? Well I can safely say that my friends from both genders have all told me numerous stories stemming from all of the above situations. So what does that tell us?
I think it tells me that there isn’t as much of a difference between the sexes as many people would like to believe. Are men and women really from different planets? Or does a lack of communication and the lack of communication skill sets make people believe in the idea that the genders could never fully come to an understanding of one another?
What do you guys think? It’s time for you to sound off.
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Comments (33)
lol well duh, if anything thinks that being an asshole is reserved to either gender, they are sadly mistaken.
both men and women are capable of being complete assholes/bitches.
There are differences, but they don't conclude in saying which gender is "better."
Agreed. It's funny when girls say "i hate guys" or guys complain about girls being confusing.
The fact of the matter is that both guys and girls can be complicated and do horrible things
The human race in general lies, cheats, confuses, etc.
Humans generally all think somewhat in the same way.
I've found that the way too attract a guy and make him very interested is generally the same for a guy to attract a girl.
mysterious
discreet
interesting
confident
funny
nice
sincere
etc.
Um....so...to answer your question, yes, men and women are different physiologically, mentally, and emotionally. We can attempt to understand each other, but we're never going to always be perfect because we're just all different.
@InTheThin@xanga - Agreed and you worded it very nicely. :)
People are capable of doing bad things. Period.
well, when you are right, you're right. Men and women asre all going through the same struggles and want the same thing.
What do you have against Martha Stewart? She represents a modern housewife with a empire. Is there something to abhor in that?
One gender isn't better than the other. We're all capable of doing awful things.
Gender is just a social construct anyways. You'd be better off paying it no mind.
@Imnotcrazyjustinsane@xanga - Here's the answer: neither.
We're all humans we do and say things that hurt.. That's just how human nature is.
@Parsimony@xanga - Yes. The products with her brand name on them are designer in appearance and cost. But the quality is no better than what you find at a dollar store.
Obvious post is obvious.
We're both different, but so much a like. Neither sex is better or worse. We're just different.
I think the argument about who is better or worse is just plain stupid.
I don't think there are as many differences between men and women as people think. I would say there are very few actually. If we would quit trying to "figure out" the opposite sex and just treat people how we would like to be treated I think we would have a lot less issues. I agree with the person above who said that all gender is is a social construct, like race. It's totally made up.
I agree. The whole "who is better?" thing is stupid. Men and women are both capable of being bad people. I've met stupid people from both genders, too.
Neither gender is better,both can have the same emotions.
I think men and women are innately different
but they can communicate and get along if they put effort in to understand their SO.
I'm not a guy, but I don't think that the genders are so very different.
I agree completely. Both sexes can be equally innocent and devious. It all now depends on the person and not simply on the gender. And this whole "men are from mars, women are from venus" theory... I still somewhat stand by that. With miscommunication still a prominent issue among relationships (based on my own experiences and others close to me), there has to be SOME kind of reason for the disconnection! And what else is a better explanation other than men being aliens in disguise?
:P
@ashley120691@xanga - about the I hate guys thing, I think girls do it because it's easier to blame the entire gender than to blame that a specific person or to blame ourselves. It's easier to blame a defective product than it is to say we messed things up because the directions were poorly written or we couldn't read them correctly, etc
I think we blame things on men vs women simply because it is a noticeable difference between two groups of people. For the most part, you're one or the other, so, as with all differing factions, you tend to find characteristics to associate with each side. Thus, we get the "I can't understand women/men" thing because we've been lead to believe that there are in fact numerous differences between the two when IMO, there's just a general lack of communication.
I agree. Men and women are only made different by the perception and forced values of society. I hope you'll check out my articles on Love, relationships, Dating and more! I have a feeling you will like them, and get a lot out of them, you can find them at:
http://www.associatedcontent.com/hannahnow
Or you can check out my weblog, I'm just getting started!
i think men and women do have differences but if we really want to, we can still overcome our differences.