Thursday, 10 September 2009
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Am I Friend-Flirting?
Through previous conversations, I've been informed that there is a difference between romantic flirting and "friend-flirting". I have misread many encounters with previous girls because of this; only another reason to stay back. This time, the way my friend is acting towards me, I am leaning towards "friend-flirting", but naturally I am likely oblivious. Here's some of the cues:
I recently got her a small, but thoughtful gift for her birthday. She seemed to appreciate it quite a bit! After this, she began to act friendlier towards me. During band, she always says something to the effect of "You're my favorite person in the world!" and we high five and interlock fingers briefly as we bring our hand down. This evolved into a sort of friendly "contest"-- we continually try to beat each other out on how much the other is our "favorite person" (You're my favorite...in the world!---...in the universe...all the universes... etc. Childish, I know
) We both equally "initiate" eye contact.(I am kind of ashamed to write a list like that... I feel so tacky, lol!)
Do you flirt with a close friend of the opposite sex, or even a casual friend? How is it different than flirting with someone you're interested in? Have you ever been a victim of thinking someone was interested in you, only to find out that they were "friend-flirting"?
Even though I don't think I'd do well in a relationship with her, I really do find her an incredible person with a knockout smile... and some insight on this would be nice in my future understanding of the female race.
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What an interesting thought. I've almost positive I've done this, but think flirting is sometimes something that happens between men and women. It depends on the guy and I'm not sure I'd call it flirting. I see what you're getting at though.
honestly, it could be either way. because with girls, they flirt however they want, whenever they want, with whoever they want, but it is the non-flirting things they do that will really tip you off on their feelings. if you sincerely do not want to date her, my advice would be to filrt or whatever it is you are doing with her, but talk to her about other girls you are interested in, and that, and the absence of you asking her out should let her know it is just "friend flirting" for you.
I friend flirt constantly, it just kind of happens. Friend flirting is different in that you're just being fun and playful and there's no meaning behind it. Typically, if you're good friends with the other person, they friend flirt back and it just kinda happens.Â
Real flirting obvs has other motives involved.
I've said to one of my guy friends "you're my favorite person ever!!!" and maybe high fived them a few times but never interlock my fingers with them... I try not to flirt with anyone so that I won't give them the wrong idea.
itll suck when you try to make the next step n they go... but.. look.. i like u as a friend...
BLOWN!
It does happen but if you really need to clarify, put it out in the open. Some people are touchier than others for different motives.
sounds like friend flirting to me!
mm. i'd say sounds like friend flirting. but honestly i'm bad at this stuff too. if you like her, i'd say give it more time and see if she becomes closer to you or opens deeper parts of herself to talk to you. maybe.
idk. i ended up dating my best guy friend of 5 years cause he's awesome. but. idk how that works out for anyone else. lol. just see how strong she is coming on, you know?
I think Friend flirting serves the same purpose that is to get attention from someone you're interested in but there's a clause which is you are friends. It is so subtle, that it can't be taken seriously and you can continue to be friends.
awwww. i flirt with my two best guy friends all the time. they flirt with me too but we all know it's whatever.
as long as she doesn't flirt with you thinking it's whatever like i do with my friends, then you should be good. what you don't want to happen is for you to think that she's into you when she's just whatever-flirting and isn't thinking the same way.
my best friend flirts with literally every guy she crosses paths with. she either flirts, or she hates. me, i don't do that. i flirt with some boys, and usually that means i think they're cute, and i don't really notice it unless someone else points it out. but if i like the guy, i can tell when i'm flirting.
friend flirting to me..to sum that up, is basically (for me anyway) when i think my friend is cute and it's just a fun thing to do. especially if they flirt back.
im noticed im more flirtatious with friends than i am with boys im interested in. i feel more comfortable around them and i dont realize what i do could be taken the wrong way.
Yepp. I know exactly watcha mean. I have really good guy friends, in which we'll joke around a lot and it may seem like flirting...but well there's nothing more than friendship there, so it's just being playful i suppose lol.
yeah i friend flirt haha
i guess theres a difference 'cause for friend flirting you know that you& that friend are just having fun and know that there really wouldnt be a 'possibility' for you two to be in a relationship O-o?
don't you have those friends of the opposite sex where you just "know" that you dont see them like that?
Hmm. If she doesn't like you yet, she's on her way. That's all I gotta say about that.
The whole interlocking fingers thing sorta gives it away.
But, wait it out. You'll see in time.
hmm this is tricky. when i was in high school, i friend-flirted with a guy, called him my "new best friend", but didn't really want to date him. then he asked me out cuz our friends told him to! we "dated" for a few months (like, held hands sometimes and went to one movie) and then broke up.
HOWEVER, almost a year later, we were flirting again, A LOT, and then started dating for real. that lasted over three years!
soooo...you never know.
This could actually go both ways. It really all depends on what kind of girl she is. I've known a lot of girls who would flirt with several guys just for the attention. Acting all cutesy, being feely-touchy... pretty much what your friend is doing. Best way to figure out if she's for real about you is to figure whether you're the ONLY guy she's acting this way with. She may not be doing the exact same things with other guys, but if you see that she's definitely a little TOO nice to one or more other guys, then rest assured that the flirting isn't serious.
I do this. Then by some freak occurrence, I end up dating the guy, finding something I hate about him, focusing on that, then breaking up with him.
I'm a completely healthy individual.
i have a close friend that we used to joke around that if one day when we're 30 and not married yet that we would get married and would always flirt with each other constantly. he used to come over to my house and tell my mom that he's her future son in law. but we never really dated or said to each other that we liked each other but we've always flirt.
@Parsimony@xanga - I concur.
huh. this is kind of an eye opener. now i'm kind of wary of whether or not the guy is flirting because he actually likes me and wants to pursue something, or if it's just "friend flirting" .
Ahh.. "friend-flirting." I think you basically just figured it out while writing your blog. I have to say that "friend-flirting" involves more "friendly" competition than does, say "romantic flirting." [You mentioned your "contest."] I don`t call it "friend-flirting," it`s more like just joking around, to me, but more than you would on a normal basis to just a friend. And a lot of reasons why people mistake the friendly flirting for the romantic kind, is that friendly flirting could be just as sexual, but are often more sarcastic and jokingly said than the latter.
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I think friend flirting happens all the time with/without you really knowing that it is occuring. what is going on between you two is more blantent and also there is a level of attraction there, she wouldnt interlock her fingers with yours if she wasnt interested, trust me. i have been in the area of flirting with friends who were really close and then trying to take the next step and it being like, oh you are just a friend and then never being the same.
sometimes you have to take the chance! i recently was friend flirting and really didnt know it, and more i look back in retrospect it was pretty freakin noticeable. well, it has turned into something more. and i couldnt be happier, so i guess sometimes you need to take the risk!
This was actually my ex's complaint, that I
was flirting with my guy friends without even realizing it. I think
it's just a part of my personality since I'm pretty playful toward
everyone (even girls!) But yes, I always fall for thinking a guy is
interested in me but he's actually not. >.<