Have you ever thought you were heartbroken; but weren't until it actually happened?
I have. I thought that when I broke up with my ex boyfriend (it wasn't anything serious, but I was young) that I was heartbroken. I didn't know what that was. I didn't know how it felt. It's just like love. You think you're in love, until it actually happens. Then you know for sure. It's kinda like when people ask "What would you do if... " Or "What would you say if... " You don't really know the answer until it happens. You don't know what love or heartbreak feels like, until it's actually happening.
You can think you're in love; you can think you're in heartache and have a broken heart, but unless you're actually going through it and feeling it, you aren't. Trust me. Love is a hard thing. You can love somebody, and think everything's going perfect one day and then the next you'll have a broken heart. It feels like you have a hole in your chest, literally. You cry so much you can hardly breathe.
Heartbroken is when you love somebody after they break your heart, and you don't move on to another guy in a few days or even weeks. If you think you're heartbroken and the next day you try getting with another guy, you aren't heartbroken one bit. I know you may just want to try and move on and forget about him, but if you were seriously, truly, deeply in love with somebody you can't move on that quickly. You will have to be strong afterwords, hold back tears sometimes and just suck it up, but you can't move on too quickly. Have you ever experienced heartbreak? Or thought you had until you looked at your heartbreak in hindsight?
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Currently going through heartbreak. Sad.
If you think you're heartbroken and the next day you try getting with another guy, you aren't heartbroken one bit.
Not necessarily. A lot of people I know try to get together with another guy immediately after a breakup to either fill the hole that comes with being alone, or to make their ex jealous. It's not a smart thing to do, nor is it fair to the new guy in your life, but plenty of people try to date someone else in an attempt to get over the last guy.
Yes, I've done that, and NO, it doesn't work!
I had a lot of boyfriends. Most of them I even claimed to have "loved", when I look back now and I didn't.
My first love was my ex boyfriend, Dan. We were together for about two or three years. I just loved him so much but I was always in constant heartbreak after about a year and a half. We were nothing like we were when we first met. He had cheated on me twice with his ex, he acted like a jackass to me when he was around his friends, he constantly forgot about things, etc.
We broke up as boyfriend and girlfriend a night before a homecoming dance in fall 2007. But even after that, we were still treating each other like we were still going out. He kept making promises to me that we'd get back together and so I kept patiently waiting and then he would drag me in another direction and say he didn't think we'd get back together and I'd be heartbroken all over again and then he'd go on making that promise again and so forth. To me, the pain I was feeling wasn't anything I wasn't used to. I was basically depressed all the time. So when the end of summer 2008 came around, I flew off to California to clear my head and to enjoy myself away from home. Things were going okay and he would text me while I was there. He even said he would try to meet me when I got off the plane at home. But two days before I was gonna be home, he sends me a text saying, "Hey bad news, I can't come meet you at the airport. :(" I wasn't surprised by this because his mom had been making him stay home a lot in the summer. So I replied back, "Well that's nothing new" And his next text was, "Yeah and by the way, I have a new girlfriend."
If I hadn't experienced heartbreak before, I sure as hell did the moment I read that text. I was instantly sick to my stomach and I never cried so hard before. I was throwing up and my chest ached in the worst way. I was livid that he did that to me. Of all the low things he did to me before, this was the lowest I experienced with ANY guy I've ever dated.
But luckily now I'm with a guy who's completely the opposite of Dan and he's a total sweetheart and I know he'd be insane to ever do anything to hurt me as bad as Dan did.
I was heartbroken and it was easily the worst few months of my life.
not been heartbroken yet
I've been heartbroken before. It's not an easy thing to go through, that's for sure. :\
yes, gotten heartbroken before :(
I am in the process of healing my broken heart and it's a painful one. :(
yep, heartbreak is one of the worst feelings in the world....it just hurts so much to your core.
im glad im not going thru it anymore.
I never had a serious boyfriend, so I've only ever been heartbroken over what might have been.
I have, but just with a crush... not someone I've actually dated. But I did love him quite a bit. It took me quite awhile to move past him, though.
worst feeling i've ever felt in my life
My first love broke my heart six months ago. I knew it at the time and I still feel that way now. I've had other break ups before and after that, and it has never compared to what I went through after my first love. I didn't believe in broken hearts up until that point.
i've broken up with all of my past boyfriends, so i've never been heartbroken. if my current boyfriend broke up with me, though, i definitely would be.
@clandestin_e@xanga - you don't necessarily avoid heartbreak by being the one that breaks up with your SO. Sometimes you still love that person despite you not being right for each other and both parties have a broken heart. Granted it's not as painful as being caught completely off guard and being dumped when you thought everything was going so well.
I've had my heart broken many times and in many ways.
@brokenheartedboi@xanga - good point. but in my case, i was just sad i had to break their hearts (they were upset... i'm not trying to put myself on a pedestal, haha) but on my side i was kinda relieved
My heart is still kinda broken :(
About a year ago I had my heart broken by my first boyfriend. It was honestly the worst time in my life. I was depressed for a bit and even developed insomnia from that.
I have been heartbroken for almost 3 years... It is a challenge everyday to let it go, and I can't believe it has been that long!!! I do go out and try to meet new guys, but it hasn't ever worked out.
I STRONGLY disagree with what you said 'If you think you're heartbroken and the next day you try getting with another guy, you aren't heartbroken one bit' Some people just recover quicker than others. Â Some people take 1 night to get over a heartbreak while others take months. We're all different so I would not be so quick to assume that you have to be crying/heartbroken for x amount of time before you are officially heartbroken.
Being heartbroken isn't something we should or can be quantified. Â It's just the way most of us react after a breakup or when someone we love break our heart. Â So if I broke up with a chick tonight and I cried for maybe let's say a few hours? and then by next morning I feel good enough to see another girl, well that just means I've already recovered from my heartbreak and that I'm good to go again. Â It would sound pretty lame if someone told me 'No bro you have to be heartbroken and crying for like at least 1 more week to be declared 'officially' heartbroken'. Â See how ridiculous it sounds? Â DO NOT quantify love! Â Love is infinite and absolute and CANNOT be quantified.I try to choose my guys carefully..but I end up..getting.eh.
@yuk_lui@xanga - yet. hopefully you never are.
i hear it hurts. BAD.
Mmm is it different for guys? If it isn't, then nope.
I was heartbroken for two whole years. Haha - and I'm the one who called it quits with him... dumb dumb dumb! Worst feeling EVER!