Thursday, 10 September 2009
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Is It My Height?
So yeah, I really am starting to question myself. Not in the "do I like girls or do I like boys?' way - I figured that out in middle school. I love boys. That's just a simple fact about me, and I have this constant feeling of wanting, not needing (can't stress that enough), to be with someone. I love that feeling in the pit of your stomach when there's someone who returns the feelings. But I can't help but notice this odd pattern. When I was fourteen, I had my first boyfriend, but he was nineteen. It ended after about three months (short lived, I know) and then I fell for this guy who was also nineteen. There have been many other guys that have flirted with me, but I know all of them to be nineteen or older. I flirt back sometimes, just because hey, if he's cute and isn't a bad guy, why not? I'm probably wrong, but I mean, I'm fifteen! Why don't guys like fifteen, sixteen, or seventeen years old notice me?
I half think it's because of my looks. I'm 5'10", and I really don't look fifteen most of the time. But there are other girls who are my age, and look much older than I do.
And I've really tried going after guys my age, I have! I had this thing all summer for a guy who was sixteen. Him and I were pretty good friends, he made me happy, and we were able to be ourselves around each other and it just seemed like a good match to me. But when I brought it up to him I was shut down and rejected. There's been others, but their story is very similar to this one.
I think it's safe to assume that there are other girls going though this. Please help me! Am I probably sending out the wrong signals? Is there something I'm doing wrong? Or is it just completely out of my hands?
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- From: amyamyamyx@xanga
- Name: Amy
- About Me: I'm seventeen. I'm living my life the only way I know how to.
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I've never really been able to successfully date guys my age either. Don't worry about it, it's probably just a maturity gap. At that age though, the difference between 15 and 19 is a lot bigger than say, 23 and 27. You know?
Maybe the age of the boys you were attracted to were just a coincidence. No worries, when the time comes, it comes.
I personally don't have this problem, but a good friend of mine had this all through high school. But now she's in her late 20s (just like me) and has been dating a guy who loves her for her.... that's all that's important, IMO.
I have the same problem! Except for me, it's age 17/18 (because I just turned 18) and guys around 24/25.
Don't worry about it. Guys mature slower, so by the time you're 19 and stop growing, I know you'll find someone. It doesnt seem like you're unpopular with the guys anyways. You should always be yourself.
Good luck
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I don't see why your height should have anything to do with it. My current SO is about your height as well, and I'm only a year older. Then again, that I'm 6'3" or 6'4" changes things. :Þ
Either way, after a while, age starts to matter less. Also, by that time, the kids you go to school with (I said kids on purpose) might actually be man enough to want to be with you. >:{D
Take up modeling or sports or something! Your height is a gift, so be proud and confident! I know you want to be in a relationship, but it may not be your right time yet -so have fun, you! 15 only comes around once! Enjoy!
So strange Im 5'9 1/2 and i seem to always date guys who are at least 4 years older than me! I only had 2 BFs around the same age as me (1 year older & 2 years old) I think older guys appreciate a tall figure more its a stand out feature to them while younger guys, who are still somewhat insecure usually are intimidated.. Not trying to generalize but its a pattern Ive notice since age 14 or so..
Just don't date guys over 18 until you turn 17/18. Problem solved.
haha this is cute. stop worrying so much, you'll age faster and die sooner. and as has already been wisely pointed out before, it's not like you don't get attention from boys.
Wait til you hit college...you'll be fending off guys of all ages with a stick.
I'm 5'10 and 16 while my boyfriend is 18.. weird.
I can't find a message icon. Would like to let you in on some words of wit but really feel they would be more appropriate privately. It's not you that is the problem. Promise!
maybe those guys are just too shy (or intimidated) to approach you.
I've had the same problem. I'm also 5'10". It's definitely a maturity thing. Teenage boys are very intimidated by tall girls.
I was always super tall too, and never really dated guys my age. I dated a senior when I was a freshman. Dating someone older gets easier and more generally accepted when you are out of high school.
i highly doubt its your height. you probably have a mature looking face. my life was really similar when i was younger. i just looked a lot older, but i was only 5'0. plus i hated the kids at my school. haha.
Im nowhere near tall and I have always dated older guys..I dont think age matters, maturity does..I was always more mature than other girls my age, and most of my boyfriends used to tell me that..No dont get me wrong a couple of the older guys I dated were way immature, which is way they didnt last..So I doubt its your height.
From one tall girl to another, it's just life & I believe it's height too. You can't really control things. I don't like to date around my age. I've always dated older. I went younger once and it didn't work, bad idea. All the guys that I tried that were around my age acted older than they were. And now I'm dating someone 5 years older than me. Don't worry about it. 15/16 year old boys are not very exciting.
:P
I don't think height really has any significance. My first boyfriend was older than me, and I was 5'6 while he was 6'6 or 6'7. *shrug* Older guys are better anyway. :P
im the opposite... im going to be 21 in october and i usually attract guys who are like 18 or 19... it's weird. people think im alot younger than i am though... they think im like 17 or 18. i could probably pass as a 16 year old as well lol... but anyways i wouldnt worry about it too much if i were you. you're only FIFTEEN and you really do not need to be worrying about guys at this point in your life. id rather be you and attract older guys rather than younger... the older they are = the more mature they will be and act.
I feel ya sister. I'm 5'8" at shortest, usually footwear makes me about 5'9", and the dreaded heels! And I'm 14. I get mistaken for being WAY older. Even when wearing a school blazer and tie.
A couple of months ago, I was walking through my town wearing a shirt, school skirt, school tie and with my obvious school friends, and I got stopped and asked if I needed home insurance. At the bank I constantly get asked if I can drive yet and if I live alone or with a partner. At my old gymnastics, moms used to think I was a trainer. It's bad!
Thankfully most of the guys I'm find attractive are about the same height as me :P A feware shorter, a few are taller, a few are the same height. I dunno what it's like at your school, but I've dated a person who was shorter than me, and nobody cared. Because lots of guys are short here for some reason. :) I think he was 5'4-5ish" and I was 5'7-8ish". It's not a huge gap but it's noticable. It only bothers me when I feel like I'm physically bigger than them - I know I'm taller obviously, but like, widthways. THEN it bothers me. Otherwise, if they're okay, I'm okay.
oh my god i think we are like twins who have never met. lol. i'm the same way and in the same situations. i've never dated anybody over 18 and never really anybody seriously period, but they're always older guys and i can't get guys my age. really, though, age isn't anything to me. the guy i'm currently in a "relationship" (even though it's not official because he lives in maryland five hours away...) with is eighteen and i'm fifteen. last guy was seventeen at the time and turned eighteen right before i turned fifteen. guy before that was eighteen, i was fourteen. none of them were really serious though...
i don't think it's your height. maybe you're just mature. i mean, all my life i've been told i look older than i am. i'm actually a year younger than the other kids in my grade (i'm in 11th, supposed to be in 10th) but people are always like "you don't look like a tenth-grader. or even an eleventh-grader for that matter."
no stop right there lol
i was the same way like and still am, im only 17 lol but i always thought like was i not goodloockin or anythin...but i know i am lol not to be on the conceided side! but i then went and asked my guy friends which older then me ofcourse and they simply said that for one younger guys and less confident, 2 i dont look my age soo older guys and especially younger guys always think im older then i really am...soo when you put two and two together its like a guy your age sees you and they feel intimidated like you are a gorgeous women who looks nineteen twenty and lets say they are sixteen fifteen...or even seventeen they feel as if they will never get your attention or even will succeeed in gettin your number and they jus dont think that they have a chance...soo they jus dont bother....thats when the older guys come in....they think your hot and there age and theyre more experienced....but in my opinion i would say stay with older guys...you dont need guys your age especially younger if you feel you are pretty mature for your age and you look older then your real age then go with older guys...you need a mature man you dont need a lil boy who plays games lies and bullshits!!! trust me!!!!! i always dated older guys once in a while i talked to a few my age and they were extremely immature and acted childish...i mean yeah there are a few here and there that are mature....but i jus say stay with older guys for all the great reasons...cars....money...own place...mature...experienced...in life....and ofcourse sex lol and you can learn alot...=]