Three small words everyone wants to hear but what if you hear it too much, too often, does it start losing it's meaning and potency?
I know some people who will say it every morning when they wake up to leave for work and every night before going to bed, almost like a natural knee-jerk reflex. Then there are some people who say it every hour on the hour via emails, texts, phone calls, Facebook and even faxes if they have to. And then there are those who say it not as often almost like going out to an ultra expensive dinner once a month. It's rare and it's enjoyable.
So which is better?
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i like it when he says it now and then, because i know it is that exact moment he is thinking about how much he loves me.
tbh, not sure which one
my girlfriend and i say it a few times a day. very rarely (if ever) do we go without saying i love you for a day.
i think it may be even worse experiencing someone OD on 'I love you's' from the 3rd person.
i use to OD on it, but now i only say that to my friends. i really want it to means omething when a guy says it to me, so i do that for them.
Its special. You shouldn't really OD on it because it starts to lose its original meaning. The butterflies start to fade and it loses feeling when repeated until it sounds like a robotic noise.
my bf and i replace "bye bye" with "i love you".
Happy Medium?
If I could hear "I love you" from her one more time, I'd be content.
You may take it for granted while it's happening. But, when they stop...you'll want them back. So, maybe you shouldn't be concerned about OD-ing, but on cherishing.
saying it when one means it?
Well, ever since the first time "I love you" was said ( a few weeks ago) he has said it every time we have spent time together, and usually towards the end when we're hugging or kissing. Then again we're long distance and see each other only once or twice per week, so in a way it's not that often.. but at the same time I wish we'd have visits without saying it at all so that when it does happen it's even more passionate and enjoyable. When it's said too much it losing it's meaning because it's only out of habit, and not because it's what is in your heart at that exact moment.
Then again, if it's TRULY in your heart every time you say it, and it's not just a force of habit, then go for it! My only concern would be it becoming habit, rather than something to be said only in the most intimate, heart felt moments. THAT is what I'd personally prefer.
@MissPixieGlitter@xanga - Agreed.
I would make a point to say it at least once per day, or once per departure; whichever is more often. :) More often if it adds meaning to the moment.
I don't OD on it, but I have a very firm philosophy that I can't end a conversation with my boyfriend (or my mother or someone else that I love, for that matter) without saying "I love you," and I can't leave someone without saying "I love you," because you never know what's going to happen, and if that's the last time I see that person or talk to them, I want the last thing I tell them to be, "I love you." *shrug* It's just how I am!
It's always nice to be reminded and reassured that you are loved. I haven't yet come across a case where I've heard it too much but there's sure as hell times where I want to hear it. It's always nice to hear it when you're down or sad.
i've been "ODing" on it for seven months & i'm still not tired of hearing it. :]
it doesnt matter how much you hear it.
you'll miss it when its gone.
Say it when you truly mean it.
Honestly, I'd get a little annoyed if my SO said 'I love you' like every thirty minutes, on every facebook wallpost, in every IM, on the phone twenty times before I hung up, etc...
i've only said it to two people so far in my life that i truly love when i meant it and after i said it to them, i would say it all the time, every conversation, but after the relationship ended, it also ended too. i say it to my family all the time, but when it comes to someone in a relationship, it takes time for me to even come to that feeling.
@baby__br3@xanga - Well that's sure a downer-way to look at it. ='(
Anyways, I avoid saying it. I substitute it with other languages and synonyms.
I adore you. I am in more-than-like you ;D
It's a special thing between you and the person you love... It depends on you and your partner about how many times you say it. It doesn't matter as long as you both enjoy it. :)
@AznFier@xanga - ohhhh noooo lol. i meant it should be appreciated cos its not always gonna be there hehehe. its always nice to hear some1 loves you i guess.
and i dont say it very often if at all, only to my best girlfriends =)
we say it alot
but it works for us ^-^
my bf says it to me.. more than 10 times a day and more than 50 times when we are together. its just something he does, hes very verbally affectionate, whereas im not so, i say it 2 times a day and once when we are together.
it really depends on the guy/girl.
you know he means it when he looks deep into your eyes and says it! :)
we say it alot
but it works for us ^-^