no way! you know the saying "Cook in the kitchen, Lady in the dining room and a whore in bed" You can't get that if she's never had any experience and watching porn just doesn't make the cut...

I personally think that the guys who are more outspoken about wanting to wait until marriage are the ones who are more likely to have girlfriends than the self-proclaimed "man whores." I know so many girls who "put out" because they think that's what the guy expects, and if they refuse, then they'll end up alone. I know girls can be just as promiscuous as guys and not have any problem with it, but I would rather date the guy who wants to wait than the guy who brags about his experience.

There are no promiscuous men.  Just keep that in your head.  If you're a sweet girl who chose to wait.  You're definitely worth any man waiting until he finds you.  Just as long as there aren't other conflicting values that can't be resolved, :).

personally, I don't like the idea of go whoring around; let along my future kids mother doing that kind of stuffs!

@yuk_lui@xanga - how many partners have you had?

i don't believe in that standard anymore. when i was younger, i did think a guy was more attractive (in general, and not just by physical standards.) if he wasn't a virgin. i don't know why i thought this...but that was high school, and it seemed expected to think that way.

however it seems the rules have changed in college. if a guy is still a virgin by the end of four years at college, he's usually considered a loser or something along those lines. the rule for girls seems unclear still.

as for me, personally, i've had more partners than my boyfriend has. my opinion on sex differs from most females. i think having sex with whoever you want, as often as you want, with as many different people as you want is fine. it's also your business. i used to think those kinds of girls were sluts or whores, but from personal experience i've realized that sometimes girls do those things because they/we were looking for sex to fill some other need. (usually girls with some daddy issues, like myself.) so i don't judge anymore. as long as they aren't stealing boyfriends away or anything like that, and i would hope that they are being safe.

i also speak my mind, for the most part. but if someone says something i don't agree with, i will probably let them know, especially those close to me. a lot of my close friends know the majority of my sexual history, and they don't think any less of me because they took the time to hear why i slept with who i did and all that. i admit i made some mistakes, but i learned from them if nothing else. i've had a few one-night stands. and it seems that guys are only more attracted to me because i don't tend to censor myself.

sex is a natural thing. it is how our species survives. true, there are plenty of ways to keep this from happening, but sex is also a really important aspect of marriage (which most people want at some point in their lives.) sex isn't a big deal until someone isn't satisfied. then it consumes multiple aspects of the relationship. whoever i end up settling down with, i need to know that they can satisfy me. no matter how good other aspects of my relationship may be, sex is important. i want to enjoy it. it's fun, and it's good for you. and it really can bring a new level of intamcy between partners.

as for virgin guys...i've had enough bad or mediocre sexual experiences. as far as i know, none of them were virgins, but i'm not sure how honest they were with numbers or anything, and yes, i do ask. i don't care so much about numbers, but i wouldn't want a virgin. i want good sex if i deem the guy worthy of my time.

i disagree with the majority of society who thinks girls should be prudes, or close to it, until marriage. ultimately is the individual's opinion and not really anyone elses concern (unless they're sleeping with your bf/gf, then it is your business.) no matter how "slutty" i think someone is, the fact is i don't know their history. i don't know what happened to them. i can't say shit about it. and i expect the same thinking when it comes to me. you don't know what i've been through or what has happened in my life. like strippers and prostitutes, most people consider them dirty or nasty or say they don't respect themselves. but you don't know why they're doing that job. sometimes you need to do whatever you can to make ends meet, and those jobs can pay quite well. i have no desire to do either of those things, but desperate times call for desperate measures, and sometimes that's all someone can do that puts food on the table and bills in mail on time.

people should really just mind their own business, and get off their high horses before they just start judging everyone around them.

How about everyone stops being slut bags and spreading diseases.

@utoppia@xanga - hey, thanks for being the first to comment! i like the quote, i've heard something similar to that along the lines of, "be a lamb in the kitchen, but a tiger in the bedroom."

@RoastedMarshmallow@xanga - lol, i got a kick out of that. thanks for reading my post!

@sarahzthoughts@xanga - good point. i'll keep that in mind. yeah, ppl who wait always make me feel good haha. thanks for commenting!

@Correct_The_Defect@xanga - yeah, these questions are outdated a bit. thanks for dropping by!

@jasonwl@xanga - hmmmm, not sure i agree with you about men. but i do agree with you about sweet girls being worthy of men who wait. "good things come to those who wait." thanks for sharing your opinion!

@wenguang@xanga - good point! thanks for sharing :)

@MissPixieGlitter@xanga - so you're saying it's not ok for guys to get away with stuff and girls can't? thanks for dropping by!

@sumtymesiwonder@xanga - wow, thanks for sharing your opinion! i see your point and i agree with most of it, but it turns me off when i meet someone promiscuous.

@JennyGee@xanga - good for you! thanks for commenting!

@Nerevar_The_Incarnate@xanga - couldn't agree more!

This double standard stems from the times in which women were only considered "true women" if they were pure and reserved in their opinions. These notions are still hard to shake off even in the modern day as much as some people would like to deny that such double standards exist. I believe people's sex lives are none of our business, so we shouldn't judge anyone for their choices. Also, women should be allowed to speak their minds. We have thoughts and opinions too after all; however, this sadly isn't so as women are still being judged based on obsolete guidelines of femininity. 

@ShimmerBodyCream@xanga - Hahaha, agreed.  Some people are just too closed minded to see what's wrong with it; and why it's worth more to avoid at all costs.

@supaflychikn@xanga - A moral is a lesson learned [or to learn] from a [possible] mistake; not simply an obligation to do what's right, but also why.  There are risks people overlook.  When you get the reasoning behind a moral, you will understand it better.

@MissPixieGlitter@xanga - Neither do I.  Just avoid discussions about morals or values with those who disagree, unless you can reason with them. :)

@wyrdkismet@xanga - I meant there are none who have both a deep unfoolish heart and an intelligent thorough thinking mind.  A bold good man may do a lot of seemingly foolish things to win over a woman's heart.  But he's in no hurry to get to bed with her.

@jasonwl@xanga - ahh, gotcha!

Because some men think they are better then women and try to make women feel inferior to men. Take note that I did say some and not all.

@jasonwl@xanga - there are plenty of morals that people have and i completely understand the reasoning behind them. it doesn't necessarily mean i follow the same beliefs. morality is completely subjective.