I pride myself on being me, regardless of what's fashionable or how I'm expected to behave as a young lady. I don't see the value in marketing myself as something that I'm not. I am smart and I don't hide it in attempts to avoid intimidating the opposite gender. I'm not the prettiest girl around, but hey, who is? Overall, I'm an okay person and I do okay with getting the attention of guys.
Yet, twice in the last two weeks or so, I've been told: "You shouldn't have dumped him, he's the best you can get" (about Boy A) and "Gloria, you aren't going to do any better then him." (about Boy B)
Boy A? He was boring, a complete waste of time.
Boy B? He was a dick, he used me.
Well, coincidentally, both statements were from the male gender. This brings up an interesting point -- what do guys consider in how much a girl is "worth"? and how much one of their buddies is "worth"?
I determine a guy's worth on the way he treats me and his intelligence. I cannot stand a dumb guy.
What do you consider to be attributes to a person's "worth" in regards to dating?
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My big thing is personality, humor and behavior around me/towards me. Intelligence isn't such a big thing with me, even though I am quite smart [not trying to sound vain or brag]. It'd be nice if they can hold a conversation about certain things I consider myself knowledgeable, but I won't write them of as worthless if they can't.
If they can make me smile and laugh and make me feel good just by being in their very presence, then yes, they are totally worth it.
i look at how he treats me, theres like a lot of attributes within that, and also how he acts
Mostly his personality, his behavior around/towards me, and intelligence.
whoever told you those words are bitches. everyone can do better. no one should have to settle.
uh holy shit! who is anyone to tell you "that's the best you can do?" that's a shit thing to say. you should tell them to date those guys. it probably IS the best THEY can do.
i like myself. i dont need to be with anyone who doesnt just love me.
wow. the people who told you they were the 'best you could do' are assholes.
then again, i'm a vice-versa bitch; i tell my friends they could do better CONSTANTLY >.< i should probably stop doing that.
i don't try to judge people's 'worth' per say. if i like him, i try to keep him. if i don't, i let go.
I love completely. I think as completely as I have time for.
Currently my worth is what I can accomplish and how much I can affect others in a positive manner.
Worth to me is strength of character, personality, sense of humor. Beauty/attractiveness is pretty far down on the list, to be honest. I'm so sorry that someone told you that they were the best you could do. I'm sure you are worth better than those assholes!!
@xsPoNgEs_go_SQUISHx13@xanga - Lol, anyone could do better. Unless they and their SO are already fused. I still would stress myself to avoid blurting it out though. Sometimes someone could just be confused about the relationship, and seem wrong at the moment. The boring guy should get some tips, and at least a little more time (as he probably just has no clue how to act with someone he likes; I only wish I could help with that).
@SamiiSaysHaii@xanga - Yeah, it's crucial to have someone who is capable of a decent conversation. I once dated this really quiet guy, who may have had intelligent thoughts, but he was incapable of stringing together an interesting sentence.
@XoAsianBabioX@xanga - The guys who said that to me were idiots, I know that much, but thank you.
@xsPoNgEs_go_SQUISHx13@xanga - I don't think it's a bad thing to tell your friends they can do better. I'm sure they can, anyone can.
for me, i'm always positive so for me to like a guy, he has a also have a positive outlook on life and definitely a smart and well educated guy and a hardworker.
i think i'm worth a lot and you sounds like you are as well. a guy's worth to me is displayed by his sincerity integrity. those qualities are worth a lot. then the other good things fall into place
@breaking_expectations@xanga - mm now that is never good. I can't go for the quiet ones ! I'm outgoing, so I need someone to match my level of crazy ! :]
@jasonwl@xanga - ooh, i hate SO fusion. it's akin to a nucleur war except no one physically dies; it's just their dignity.
@breaking_expectations@xanga - i know, but i feel like i go overboard now that i think about it. i plan on curbing the tendency a bit.
@xsPoNgEs_go_SQUISHx13@xanga - I meant that the two are tied together in such a way that they're just not attracted to anyone else; because each provides all the other needs and wants in a relationship. They both feel fulfilled.
First thing I ever tell any of my friends when they're talking about relationships: "Someone out there thinks (or will think) you're the greatest thing since sliced bread. Wait on that person."
@Lorelei - I like that statement, it strays away from our society's need to place labels and worth on people based on trivial things.
everyone is worth someting, but no more or less than you.
somethimes you can offer your love,and not have it excepted, and other times you will be offered love and not except that, so thing will happen for the right reasons at the right time. I advise, not just to you, that one should date, only for them selfs, i dont mean in a selfish way but, not ask anything of it.Points of view like that are what make girls settle for shiesty guys and normally good guys think it's okay to be shiesty.
income? XD just kidding. umm, all the elements to make up a human (i believe you can find it in chapter one of full metal alchemist manga) + soul.
@Lorelei - i don't like sliced bread. i prefer ripping off the soft white stuff and then viciously chomping off the crust. it makes me look badass.
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I judge people's worth by gathering information on them. Their actions, their words, their personalities, etc. Also, the sort of aura they give off, that presense I look for. If they don't possess that, then they aren't worth my time. So far, there are few who have come close to having that, but only 1 person has had exactly what I sought for and I'm already with her. To me, she is the world. Of course, I'm eccentric, so my way of seeking the perfect girl for me is a bit strange to normal people.