Miss AntelopeOne of my friends is 23. She still has her V-card (aka never done the deed). Personally, I respect that. I had mine until I was 20. It's not that she's waiting for marriage; she just doesn't feel like she has found the right person yet to lose it to. I'm also aware some guys aren't fans of girls who are virgins because they fear of "emotional attachments". I never had that problem, but I guess every girl is different.
This leads me to ask, when is the right time to lose your virginity and with who? Also, does there come an age where it becomes taboo? When does picky become too much of a hassle? Or is picky-ness simply a result of fear?
Girls, what do you think? Lose your V-card young and get over it or keep it until you feel you've found Mr. Right?
Guys, do you have anything against those who still have their V-card? Would it keep you from dating someone who is a virgin? Why or why not?
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I'm giving my virginity to my husband and nobody else. ;)
I kept mine until I found someone I thought I could trust. Personally, I think that is how it should happen. Just wait until you find someone you feel comfortable giving it to. Doesn't matter if you're 18 or 35. If it's not the right time, then it's not.
I don't have anything against girls who are still virgins, no. People are people, virgin or not.
i gave mine away young (seventeen.) but kept it until i thought i'd found "Mr. Right". you can find your husband at a young age. i did. i dislike the type of girls that think that flounce their virginity around like it's something they should be proud of/the people around them should feel bad about- all it takes it willpower/beliefs to keep it; you didn't earn the damn thing (thing? dunno what to call it.)...i just don't think they deserve the great big OH WOW CONGRATS that the young/old virgins seem to think that they're entitled to.
Seriously? No, it doesn't have an "expiration" date. Geez. And I wouldn't have gone out to lose mine just because I was a certain age. I got married when I was 23, but heck, even if I was thirty or forty, I wouldn't have gone out to lose it JUST to lose it.
Normally, I run into more girls who are virgins...but when I found out the guy I like is a virgin, I was extremely shocked. Besides him, all guys I know aren't virgins.
His friends make fun of him for being one because he is the last guy in their group and is a virgin, but I told him don't lose it for the sake of losing it...that would be the biggest regret like it is mine.
My friend said she can't get with people who are virgins for some reason, but I don't really care if a guy is a virgin or not.
I prefer a guy I date to be a virgin, mainly because they won't be so quick to jump into bed and we could actually get to know each other.
I do know there are virgins who are quick to lose it,, however I noticed all of the people that aren't virgins that try to date me try to get with me way too quickly and I'm sick of that.
So, I'd prefer if a guy for me was a virgin.
I gave my virginity to someone I love. I'm still with him, it's been nearly a year now. :)
There's no expiry date, personally I'd prefer to date a virgin.. but I suppose you're asking guys.
This is going to make me sound like a horrible person, but I'm going to say it anyway.
It's not that I wouldn't date a virgin, but I would prefer not to. I prefer guys to be more experienced than I am. Since I'm not a virgin, I want a guy who has had enough experience to still take the lead.
I'm not wating nor being a hore. When it happens,it'll happen,with a rubber on ;] XD
I should have waited longer until I gave mine up but at least I'm still with the boyfriend I lost it to.
Being a virgin myself, I really won't care. At the point in my life as I am now in the city I live in, I highly doubt I'm going to be anybody's first and I don't care. The thing is, you expect and live in hope to find mr. or mrs. right and find out that you got played or that the shit comes to an end. Okay, I had no way of saying that without sounding depressing, but the concept still stands. If you find somebody, even for a little while, would it really be that out of the question?
Virginity seems like an abstract concept anyway.
Virginity is overrated. I think it's pathetic if you're thirty and still a virgin, but other than that, it really doesn't matter. I do not think that people should get married as virgins, because, well, sexuality is good to test out. But whatever. People will always do whatever they want.
My boyfriend and I both lost it to each other. He's 21, and i'm 19. We were super comfortable with each other, and joke about our first time together all the time. But when I found out my boyfriend was a virgin, I was a little surprised(well, i was a virgin, too. lol.) Of course, at his age: 21. He told me he wanted to wait for the right person, someone who he wanted to be with and not just some booty-call. I told him the same thing.
So losing just for the sake of losing it sounds pretty lame. And finding Mr. Right can take a long time or a short amount of time, you may never know. Maybe, you can find a Mr. Right Now if you want.
Virginity is just a state of mind. At least, I think so. lol.
I'm still a virgin. I'm 16, and when I find someone that I think is right, I'll give it up gladly. Enough said (:
I just swiped the v-card at 20. Of all the guys I've dated, and all the relationships from 2-months (harhar, i know) to 2-years, this guy I've known for 2 weeks (lol) and I felt that connection you needed to be comfortable with it. I don't regret it. =)
@Shy___Away@xanga - Exactly! I don't get what this big deal with being a virgin is. I can see why guys would want a girl to be a virgin, it's got to feel fantastic and all that, but why would a girl care? It hurts a bit, and then you run out of energy in like 5 minutes. Doesn't sound too fantastic.
wait until you find mr. right. your v-card is a gift that you can only give to one guy. make it a guy that deserves and appreciates the gift. i didn't, and now that i am with mr. right, and even though it's not something he resents, i really wish i could have given it to him instead of the tool that i did give it too who didn't even think it was a big deal just another conquest. i;m still pretty bitter about it honestly.
I'm still a virgin.
I will keep my virginity until I think I'm found someone that I'm really love and really trust him...
i'm a virgin for two reasons.
one: i'm picky as hell because i don't want to give my virginity to some douche bag who's never going to call me after we have stupid drunk sex in the back of his 1986 whatever-the-hell van, or have sex in a porta potty.
two: though i'm almost out of my teens, i honestly don't want to have sex. yeah, i'm sure it feels nice and all that shit, but i want to wait. i never understand how girls age 12 and 13 think they're ready for sex. to me, it's a big step.
i don't think virginity really has an expiration date, but there comes an age... like.. 35 or 40, where being a virgin just gets a little weird.
I lost it when I was 15 to a girl I ended up staying with for 2 years and a month. Looking back it was not a healthy relationship as sex was one of only two things we held in common (and she was cheating on me the entire time), and I regret not saving myself for Becca now, but I think that the best person to lose it to is someone you feel you can have a meaningful, committed relationship with, with or without physical intimacy.
Of course, when you're young sometimes you're not the best judge of that. =P
I waited until I was 18 and had the right guy. :) There is no experiation date; do it when you feel comfortable
I'm 21 and still a virgin. For me, I just haven't found the right guy. He doesn't have to have experience or not, I'm just waiting and that's fine by me!
I dont know.. I wouldnt say theres an expiration date per se, a person could go their entire lives as a virgin, that is purely their choice. All the same...Id have to say that if by the time someone is 30 it would be very curious. At my age (32) I would be incredibly uncomfortable being with someone (male or female..as I am bi-) who is still a virgin... Id hate to put it this way but...I would wonder why no one else wants them, and/or why they have such a hard time finding someone worth being intimate with.
It would also put a lot of pressure on me..one one hand wondering if theyll think Im worth it, and on the other hand the implications of being "the one" and feeling responsible to stay with them even if things arent working out cause Id be afraid theyd think I only used them to get what no one else could..even when under no circumstances would that be the case. Too much pressure! Hah! And along with tht...Id wonder if there was something deeply emotional/psychological going on for the reason they havnt been intimate with anyone by that age.
Of course, for someone who is highly religious, or with incredibly strong moral grounding, they may well not care and maybe even love it that they were the only one...no matter what age the virgin is. But I am not religious at all, and while I do have my own set or morals, they arent exactly on par with "society rules" so as a partner, I would be very cautious..not turned off, and it woudlnt be a deal breaker...just...cautious of anyone who is 30 and never had a sexual experience.
Oh, and Id also feel very guarded because of my own sexual experience...like Id need to hold back and not be open about my own sexuality since I had a considerable head start...which woudlnt be fair to either of us. Thats pretty daunting.
There is absolutely no good reason to think that the V-card has an expiration date. There are a lot of people (usually morons) who will make fun of someone for being a virgin (whether by choice or force). Not for lack of opportunity, I have managed 24.7 years and will continue to do so until I've committed myself to one person in marriage. I understand the whole concept of practice and whatnot, but there is an emotional connection (whether or not you'll admit it, it's there) with any type of physical intimacy (not even just intercourse) and I choose not to damage myself or someone else by treating it as if it were a video game or a taxi cab.
This isn't to say that those who've already given up their V-cards (before marriage or serious, life-long relationships) are somehow terrible people. But, someone who would criticize another for being a virgin is obviously lacking something (emotionally, and probably elsewhere) in their own life that they'd find something so personal to criticize about someone else.