Monday, 07 September 2009
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What is Marriage to You?
So I've started thinking in depth about marriage ever since I went to a wedding this last weekend. Every wedding I've been to has been a Christian one. Being a Christian is a big part of marriage for me. To sum it up, I believe marriage is kind of like proving to God that you both are committed to each other for lifetime and then asking him for his blessing by joining both of your hearts together.
Without God its hard for me to find much meaning or purpose in marriage. Of course not everyone is a Christian or believes in God though. So then what does marriage mean to those people? I'm just curious.
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- From: NadoAngel@xanga
- About Me: I'm 20 years old and a college graduate. I have an amazing man in my life. He is my future husband and most importantly my best friend! We've been together for 3 years and recently got engaged! We moved up by Omaha, Nebraska right after I got done with college. Our goal now is to establish a home and life here. I love animals, meeting new people, and just living life. This blog is basically the ramblings of my everyday life. Its about celebrating happy times, getting through tough times, and all the lessons learned in-between.
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Marriage doesn't have meaning in itself. I think this is where so many couples find themselves in trouble. They get married possibly thinking that this will make their relationship work. It won't do it by itself. You have to build a strong relationship regardless of marital status to have it last.
Marriage is a license. Just because you have one doesn't mean you are guaranteed one damn thing. And, if God put that much stalk in marriage (by itself), I really doubt he would allow it to have a 50% faliure rate.
So, to end this very cynical sounding comment; build a strong relationship. That will give your marriage purpose. : /
I believe it is a sacred vow that two people take to show how much they love and care about each other. That they will always be there for each other through thick and thin. Just because someone doesn't believe in the Christian God doesn't mean they don't believe in a higher power.
I kinda feel that most(not all) people my age (/ nowadays) are ruining the sanctity of marriage. :(
Legal papers + thousands of bucks + photoshoot with S.O. + legality of giving birth to kids without them being bastards + pretty dress you'll never wear again!
In my view, marriage is a commitment of love between two people, and witnessed to the world.
Marriage is the ultimate commitment. It is a symbol not just between two people but also to the world that the couple is loyal to one another completely. It's sad that not all married couples stay true to the values of marriage. I think because a lot of people don't understand all that marriage entails and realize that they actually can't handle it. Even though religion is a huge part of marriage for most cultures I think the values of marriage and what is symbolizes to society are the biggest things that define it.
contract bind by love!
omg i am so cheesy! shoot me!goodbye freedom.
i feel it just means best friends for life. a promise and a title for what you know you have with someone. i also agree that just because you arent RELIGIOUS you can't believe in something great.
Marriage leads to a lot of complications. It is not nessesary to get married to keep a relationship strong. I know people who have been together for 25 years, have 4 kids and they aren't even married.
i guess to me, marriage is a symbol of commitment. it shows your partner how committed you are, like a promise to never leave them.
interesting question! i never thought about it like that for some reason. :)
Something sacred.
I think marriage is complete bullshit. Thanks for asking.
something i really look forward to...haha
Marriage is just reaffirming your commitment to one another.
i think marriage is just a declaration of love.
Marriage is for suckers.
i believe in commitment. i do not believe commitment requires banal vows, legal documentation, recognition by the state, tax breaks, the changing of one's name, nor the bequeathal one's spouse's name to one's children.
i think the traditional notion of "marriage" is a patriarchical con in which the conservatorship of a woman is passed from her father to her husband.
someday, i would like a monogamous life-partner.
@s_h_a_sha@xanga - Love Contract. =D
Marriage itself is nothing more than a piece of paper.
People get married for citizenship or whatever. Some others think it is a commitment, but the couples can always get divorce, there is no security behind that.
You can still love someone even you are not married, it's not necessary to get married.
I think marriage is a society culture and a resistance for the partner to get out of the relationship. But in a romantic way, it's also a proof of strong love to the others that they can love each other forever under marriage.
@desertrose2890@xanga - I concur
marriage is not love, but a promise. a legal binding.
you can have love and promise without marriage, but it's the more socially accepted form of love.i'm not religious, so marriage is just a formal/legal ordeal for me. it's a promise of commitment publically, because somehow 'i love you' is not assuring enough, not permanent enough.yet, marriage means nothing as long as divorce is so easily possible.
i can't decide whether i am cynical or not about the concept of marriage, but it would be nice to find someone whom i'd want to be bound to for the rest of my life.
This is truely sad how..pathetic people are making marriage to be, since it has such a bad rep. The only reason its not seen for good intentions anymore, is because of the "young people" and the friends of young people who marry and divorce 3 months later.
To call marriage sacred anymore is sort of a joke because of what this generation has made it, its now seen as a procedure either made to show friend and family the realtionship is real..or tradition, or just to "enhance" the relationship.
I'm not a religious person, so for me to call marriage sacred would..almost be an insult, because "I don't understand it", which I agree, I'm still young, and my mind is sem-stuck on what this generation has made out marriage to be. The obvious is my family wants me to get married, and so will all of my friends (and gf's girlfriends). Even if marriage isn't sacred, its a waste of time & money, blah blah blah, stfu.
Marriage is a happy moment, between two people who hopefully love each other, and through marriage..you can show to friends, family, neighbors, etc, that you would want to share this happiness with everybody, for better or for worse. And of course, after marriage is a Honeymoon! Vacation away from everybody WOO!
Why does everybody have to make it sound so cynical and undesirable? Let a happy moment be a happy f-ing moment.
Marriage is very beautiful but also very tough.
I don't really care for it. Perhaps my opinion will change as I get older... doubtful.