Perhaps I'm cold-hearted.
But I always pour out the contents of my wallet into the tin cans with one-legged puppies featured on them, and I never once have failed to hear the beauty in Celine Dion's "My Heart Will Go On." So that can't be it.
Maybe I'm a bitch.
But I've never thought of myself as a 'Mean Girl', nor am I a female dog.
So why is it that when boys cry, I immediately press the mute, pause and off button simultaneously on the relationship remote of life.
Man tears never impress me. Whenever the "truth" about women is revealed in magazines and articles, I wonder what women they interviewed that said it's sexy when men cry. I'm not sure if it's something missing in my genetic makeup or maybe it's my fatal flaw. But I've had my share of tear-shedders in my life, and I've had to send them packing with a box of Kleenex.
I think it comes down to my need for a man's-man. I like my SO to be strong in every aspect. And sure, I'll make an exception for death or injury or something of the like. But crying during My Best Friend's Wedding simply won't do. (Also an exception is crying during Marley and Me. That scrappy dog could pull at the heart-strings of even the brawniest of men.)
Thoughts on man tears? Turn-on or off?
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I was about to condemn you until you said your exceptions.
Yeah, crying over petty things isn't really something any man should be doing. I can't imagine how that would be attractive at all to anyone!
But stuff like death... if you scoff at a man for crying when his mother dies, you have a problem. :)
- John
I agree with you. In fact, why not take it to its logical extent? If crying (the cathartic release of (physiological) emotions in the form of tears) is unmanly, so is peeing. It's "weak" and "unmanly" to let one's bladder control one's manhood. Men, stop peeing. It makes your girlfriends doubt your machismo.
Man tears are only suitable for appropriate situations. If he weeps like a baby for every occasion thats just distracting and unpleasant.
It's usually a turn-off to me, too. While I understand that gender stereotyping tries to convince us that men need to be stoic and can't betray their 'weaker emotions' at any time (because tears are reserved soley for women--*eyeroll*), I still find it unnerving to see grown men cry. And I get that it's supposed to be moving, like only certain special circumstances are worthy of a guy's tears, but...call me the same as you, because I don't like it, either.
I once told a woman who asked a question on a man who cries that "a man who cries is a man who feels". Perhaps, that can apply here?
i probably cry more than most guys. i generally cry when i'm overwhelmed (definitely not uncommon in my aerospace major), when my girlfriend and i get in big fights, when someone dies, or when she cries. i can't keep my eyes dry when my baby is crying over something that happened with her family or school or something, it's just not me.
newsflash: guys have emotions too. i'm wondering if this "manly man" you finally meet that doesn't cry (and probably won't show any other emotion either) won't turn your relationship off when you cry.
also, keep in mind that men like that are generally huge tools and are generally the biggest jerks on the planet.
Well of course no woman wants a man who is just plain weepy...Or so I would think. But I see nothing wrong with a guy who cries. Of course, I am the kind of girl who likes to take care of my SO whenever the time arises, so whenever my exboyfriend would be crying I immediately jumped to make him happy in any way possible. It really depends on what they're crying about though.
omg yes!! i totallyunderstand and agree on every aspect. i dont like emotional guys, its weird.
I think its really creepy. One of my guy friends is always like "I'm gonna cry blahblahblah" and I'm like.... Okay! New topic! its so weird... I dont know why... I just can't stand it!
This is absolutely ridiculous. Men DO have feelings, idiot.
oh my god.
i know.
i cannot stand it when guys cry.
my ex started crying in front of me when we were broken up
and i had no idea what to do.
it was just awkward.
and plus,
i'd rather have a manly man than an emotional one,
any day.
At least you're better than me. When my guy friend cried, I almost laughed. :( Although, I hope that it was because I was uncomfortable and not because I thought it was funny.
Good thing he was sitting in the back of the car and I was in the shotgun, so he couldn't see me. XDI think crying men are hot. D: I'm serious, I find it a serious turn on. I like a guy who is human.
i was like about to be like man...u must be some kinda of feminist to hate that.
but i agree no guy should be crying over a movie at a wedding i can see unless its his own? maybe.....haha
I'm a bit of an ice queen/bitch, but I hate wimpy and weak guys. If I can be emotional strong and not cry, he should be able to do the same.
But, if he's crying because of me or our relationship, it makes me teary and realize how much he cares.
@t_zie@xanga - Agreed. Nothing wrong with some tears... in fact, in the end, I feel like it brings us closer. Eh, maybe it's just me. But I don't get turned-off at all. :)
i guess i'm just an emotional person so i wouldn't mind a guy crying in front of me. it just shows that he's not afraid to express himself.
I actually wouldn't mind to see "man-tears". It shows they have feelings instead of being an arrogant solid rock.
@harmonyminusmelody@xanga - Beat me to it. Engineering's a bitch, isn't it? :(
Psst, to all of you girls who think it's "creepy" or a "turn off" or "awkward" for a guy to express emotions - we don't want to be with you either. Judgmental hypocrites, srsly.
I think guys who cry is a turn-ON for me. It shows that he does have feelings and emotions and that he's not a cold-hearted jerk. Men are humans just like the rest of us!!
@harmonyminusmelody@xanga - @Viserys@xanga - Gotta agree with you guys. This post is simply silly...men don't just cry for simple stuff like stubbing their toes. The times I have seen men cry have been completely appropriate. Also, If my hubby started crying during a movie there would be nothing wrong with that either (he hasn't yet I cried during a few and he always whipes my tears).
Apparently you girls want someone cold...more power to ya.
both on and off
depends on the situation really
Depends on the situation? I usually don't like when my guy starts crying, it's just too awkward for me to handle.
I don't think its a turn off but its not really a turn on either. I mean, if he's crying because someone close to him died or something, then it's understandable... but if its something like I ate the last donut then we kinda have a problem...
If women don't want men crying, then they should stop crying over trivial things or sappy movies.
It's people like you who perpetuate the male stereotype and force numerous men to bottle up their emotions rather than encouraging them to express their emotions freely.