I've known "Joe" for about two and a half months now. We met in our college algebra class this past summer and then, at the end of class, I began to ask him questions about the homework. We both had this chemistry going so he walked me to my car and then we exchanged numbers, all on the premise that we would get together to "study". We did indeed study on two occasions, had breakfast one morning and then also worked out one night at his gym. Throughout that whole time, we also texted constantly.
I'm thinking this guy is awesome, although I feel like there is something going on that I don't know about. I shrug off the feeling that he's hiding something and just relax and enjoy our texting and the times when I see him in class or we hang out........until one of the texts that he sends me reveals that he has a girlfriend.
At this point, I'm like "%^&&*!!". I mean, I like the guy!!
I tell myself that if he's talking to me, there must be something about me he likes. Maybe his relationship is on the rocks or something. We hang out one night, end up walking around and then we both look at each other and just BAM, end up making out. It was the most intense, amazing make out session I ever had with anyone.
We both agreed to that, and he even told me he could have "stayed all night" making out with me and that I'm an "amazing kisser". I was completely flattered. Since then, we have gone out and made out twice. Last night was one such night, only last night I got a little carried away and well........I gave him hickeys.
I dont know what his relationship with his girl is like, all I know is that she's not very active on his facebook and she goes to a different school that is a little farther from where we are, so they probably dont see each other every day. We havent had sex, and I'm glad that it hasnt happened because I think I would get attached if it did.
I'm completely mortified by the situation. But I'm also hopeful that maybe his girlfriend sees them, breaks up with him and he decides to go for me. Is that wrong of me? I don't feel bad that I'm the other woman though. The way I see it, it's his problem that he has a girlfriend, not mine. Should I feel bad?
What do I do? I should probably stop hanging out with him altogether, right?
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Homewrecker.
STOP IT.
Well, yeah. That is pretty fucked up that you're trying to ruin his current relationship. Granted, he's a douche for playing along and failing to mention he had a girlfriend when things started to get more personal. The girlfriend will be your problem too if she decides to come after you.
It's NEVER a good idea to screw with someone else's man, especially since you don't even know her! He could place all the blame on you or she could be psychotic and kill you both. Do you really want this guy who cheated on his girlfriend with you anyway? He's shown you that he's capable of screwing around behind her back, what makes you think he won't do it to you?
I wouldn't say you should feel bad about it. It is his fault after all. He's the one with a girlfriend, he should be the one saying no. Consider how you'd feel if you were in his girlfriend's place and found out he was cheating on you. If you feel bad about that, great. Don't take things further and stop trying to actually break them apart. If his girlfriend breaks up with him, cool. He's all yours I guess. It's your conscience, not mine.
Just remember to use condoms. =]
And if you came after my boyfriend, I'd beat your face in! jk jk maybe. Just uh, yeah, stop fucking with someone else's SO. Are there no single guys there or what?
Haha
It's also pretty bad of him to actually keep on doing it behind his gf's back.
YES you should feel bad. I feel like I have to scold you like I would an elementary school student. Just stop it, okay?
ok well first off. once a cheaterr always a cheater. if hes doing it to his current gf what makes you think that he wont do it to you once he finds something "better?" anddd when you said
"But I'm also hopeful that maybe his girlfriend sees them, breaks up with him and he decides to go for me."
sooo you wanna bee rebound girl? orrr sloppy seconds?....I know you said you dont mind being the second woman but that really shows you have absolutely no respect for yourself..at all. If you had respect for yourself youd go for someone who had values and wouldnt cheat on his gf or for someone who respected you enough to tell you he had a gf straight out, didnt hook up with you, broke up with his gf then asks you out. It is wrong for him to string you on like that but its also your fault you're stupid enough to fall for him anyway.
KARMA. that is all I have to say.
it will bite you hard in the ass.
Bitch
what do you call someone who's afraid of algebra?
homomorphicphobic.
HAHAHAHAAHAH you thought that was funny, don't lie.
well he may treat her with respect and buy her flowers and take her on dates
your just the fuck buddy/ friend with benefits
if she is away
he needs someone to have around for now.
What do you think he'll do to you if you end up dating?
Stop hanging out with him... be a good person.
What is wrong with you...? What if it was reversed and you were dating this guy, then some girl made out with him??
This is so freaking unbelievable. If I found someone was messing with my man, I'd freaking beat their face. And the rest of their body. Oh man.
so this is not a hate comment.
it is not wrong.its crazy to see that people dont believe that you cant control your feelings. Also, it takes two... meaning he's gotta be up for it too. Actually he's more in the wrong, but thats you pushing that away.Honestly you are doing nothing wrong, you just really like someone who has a girlfriend. It is his own fault that he's cheating on her... not yours. Just be more careful with the hickies ;)stop being a damn home wrecker. if he is doing that behind his gf's back, what makes you think he won't do it to you? just stop messing up someone else's relationship because if it was you; you would feel like crap. guaranteed.
um. well my boyfriend ( ex boyfriend, excuse me) never cheated on me. but he did get uncomfortably close with a girl while we were still in a relationship. eventually we broke up and they're dating now. but as the original girlfriend, it sucks. it SUCKS. to be suspicious and to not know anything that is going on. i was fortunate enough to have an ex who didnt cheat on me, but dont think that the thought didnt run through my mind at least a couple thousand times. and i dont want to call you a homewrecker or anything of the sort, because you being on your side of the spectrum, im sure you dont see it that way. but i was with my ex for 4 years, and all of that was taken away instantly. you dont WANT to be the person that everyone hates. you dont WANT to be the person that everyone talks about. its an unsightly incident that you shouldnt willingly walk into. because even though its not your fault that he's cheating on her with you, you shuold feel guilty. you're ruining the sanity of another girl, destroying what was hers originally. liking a boy that has a girlfriend will be on YOUR conscience, and when she finds out, you're going to be held responsible as well. just a thought.
you're being used :D
and you deserve it :] i hope his girlfriend tracks you down and beats the shit out of you.
or...i hope she realizes what an idiot he is, which frees him up for you. since you're dumb enough to be okay with a guy cheating, you're likely also dumb enough to stay while he cheats on you. which, if you two do start dating, will happen. it's called karma. and karma, like you apparently, can be a bitch.
holy shit man
The moment you realized that he had a girlfriend, you should have made it clear that the relationship will never go beyond study buddies. That's completely unfair to the other girl regardless of how active she is on his FACEBOOK (What does that even mean, anyway? What if they would rather NOT publish their entire intimate history online for everyone to see?). I bid you luck with this guy if it ever works out between you two. Next thing you know, you'll find hickeys he got from his next door neighbor who sees him more often (possibly ALOT more often, if you get what I mean) than you.
Lol you just became "that girl".
I find it a little funny and ironic that I read a Datingish post the other day about a girl who was worried that her heart would inevitably be broken (based on something her professor said).
I've always tried to maintain faith in people and I don't think the long distance should put too much of a strain on a relationship - especially when there's so much technology to utilize (Skype, Facebook, cellphones, etc.).
But then, of course, there are people like you who are the reason for all of those little stories about how an amazing relationship is cut short just cos of some other woman or man. And that's not cool.
I don't think you should pursue this guy. In fact, you shouldn't even talk to him. Whether you like him or not, the fact that he is willing to cheat on is girlfriend with you with such ease shows that he's not a good guy. Let's just say that you two do make it official at one point after he dumps his girlfriend. And then you end up having to move far away for whatever reason and the relationship turns into a long distance one. What's to say that he won't cheat on you with the next piece of ass that walks by?
Think about it.
lemme tell you this, i dont know if anyone else has said it yet bc i dont have time to read everyone else's comments, but put yourself in her shoes. how would you feel about his decision to make out with another woman? and plus if he is doing this to her, he will wind up doing this to you also when and if you guys start to date.
this guy has no morals and im appauled anyone would be attracted to such a tool as himself.
pathetic.
Oh wow... you're unbelievable. He's scum, and you're no better. Of course it's your problem he's got a girlfriend. You knew that before getting involved. You deserve everything you have coming to you.
WOW... Just wowww...
First off, I know my boyfriend would never cheat on me... but it's girls like YOU that make me sick and uncomfortable. Personally, I would never even think of breaking someone up for my personal benefit. I think you're pretty messed up and twisted to want this guy's girlfriend to lose her man because you want him...and you have supposed "chemistry" with the guy.
He's in the wrong as well, for doing this when he has a girl. But you should have ended things right away. The fact that you didn't, makes you a true HOMEWRECKER.
Stop now, because I guarantee karma will bite you in the ass and this guy will cheat on you.