Saturday, 05 September 2009
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Help! It's His Birthday!
My boyfriend's birthday is approaching (it's Labor Day) and I am left dumbfounded. I've actually dreaded this day for almost all of August, only because I know how much it stresses me out. Everyone says he'll appreciate the little things that I come up with for everyone's birthday but I KNOW that's not the case with him.
See, I'm actually quite talented at gift-giving, I buy what's appropriate for the receiver, they end up liking it, I always see them use it throughout the year, and it's on a decent budget. My boyfriend on the other hand he's not everyone else. He sets his bar up pretty high without even knowing it.
I can't buy my boyfriend anything over a hundred dollars. College has wiped out nearly everything in my account, it was just until last week before I deposited my paycheck my checking account had $0.38. I don't care to buy him clothes because that's what I get him for Christmas. I'm not going to buy him jewelry because girls don't buy guys jewelry, that's what parents do. I'm already baking him cake, I was gonna buy him tickets to a baseball game but he already made plans to do that, I made him a card with sweet nothings in it, now I'm looking for a gift.
I don't want to disappoint him. What are some things you've gotten your SO for their birthday?
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cook him a nice dinner (:
If he's a typical guy, I'd say food or video games. My ex-girlfriend once got me a bag of small powdered donuts for my birthday and that made me happy. Also, nothing says you love your man like feeding his addiction to video games. The fact he knows it came from you may actually encourage him to spend more time with you, unless he's a jerk.
Well, if he sets his bar up pretty high, then I don't think my suggestion can be of help.
But in my case (this was before he became my SO), he ran out of iTunes money and was frustrated cos he couldn't buy some Kings of Leon song. We had this conversation about three weeks before his birthday and I ended up buying him an iTunes gift card and a card. In it, I wrote that he could finally buy that particular song - and I suggested some others that I liked, or ones that reminded me of him.
I think he was a little surprised by the gesture (and the fact that I remembered that insignificant, two minute conversation in the first place) cos we were just okay friends at the time, but I could also tell that he appreciated it.
Does your boyfriend like books? I bought one of my guy friends this book for Christmas called 'This Book Will Change Your Life'. It basically gives you a bizarre task for every day of the entire year - like writing a letter to a dictator asking him why he won't give his citizens basic rights, or applying for a knighthood. If he has a sense of humor, I think he'd like it.
The obvious answer to your dilemma is a dildo.
erm, well what i do, is i pick up on little things people say throughout the year. like, my boyfriend broke his favorite mug last year. i take note. he told me how much he loved legos as a kid. (and still secretly does.) i take note. for me, gift giving is EXTREMELY personal, so without knowing him at all, no generic gift idea i spout out would feel right to me. catch?
good luck, anyway
@asininity - Wouldn't that be a gift for her?
cooking dinner helps but you always cook for him...
got my man ps3loves it. loves me even more ;)Yikes, personally I do not believe in gifts that require a lot of money. Especially when buying for a guy and whilst in college. A card and maybe a meal would be great.
Pricey gifts often make people feel a pressure to reciprocate with more pricey gifts during your birthday and it becomes a vicious circle. Although you do mention that he sets the bar quite high already so perhaps he initiated it or... demands it. I guess if he is willing to do that (out of
and not guilty obligation) then that's still nice, just ends up making things a tad materialistic.
Furthermore, it is nice to be a big spending gift giver when you have a stable job and money in the bank with no economic turmoil, but being in college with your savings wiped out from gift giving may not be a good situation. Maybe in the future consider doing joint gifts with a big card signed by a group of friends. You can still show your love for the bf AND use your gift picking skills by being the one to suggest/pick out the gift for the friends to contribute towards.
i'd help, but i'm TERRIBLE at gifts.
If you love him, and he loves you, he'll understand that you can't buy his love. Do what's affordable, and act on your instinct. It should pay off.
@XactiLucius@xanga - A male is quite as capable of using one as a female. ;P
It was all in jest anyway. :]
@MOJOJONO_X2@xanga - its not the price of the gift. it just that if he has the ps3, he wouldn’t want to go gambling with his buddies. see, a gift for him and no arguements for me!
Like one of the blogger here...i gave my ex (when we were together back in 2004) a PS2 for Vday...... he was gona be in Aussie for 2 year studying & a PS2 kept him home with his buddies playing winning 11 :D
My current SO and i have this "no need for birthday presents" pact after being together for almost 4 years.. not that we are lazy/jaded.. but more becoz he's just clueless about what to buy as i've never desired something without buying it for myself. Not the easiest person to shop for i have to admit.
Anyway our arrangements for the past years have been taking a vacation as the "birthday present"! Something we both get to enjoy... & i'm now planning my bdae present to South Africa end of this mth!!
My bf's birthday went by not long ago and he got the whole package!
I got him boxers, sushi, a choice between gym membership and Sky Sports and I made him a video! And more to it! I actually placed these around the house and made shorts poems which made it into a treasure hunt!
CHEESEY! but it put a REALLY big smile on his face! so all the effort paid off ^___^
I think sometimes, putting a little thought into how you present the gift makes it more special!
I gave him a CD and a homemade card. He loved them :)
food is good
A serious comment this time.
My ex-girlfriend, who I still love so much, baked me a cake for my 17th birthday, nothing else. It was originally a heart-shaped mango cheese cake, but the outcome was rather mushed up (and funny) and the heart-shape turned into this 6-sided figure
That was all that I needed to warm my heart and satisfy me on my bday, knowing that she went through the trouble to bake me a cake.
For my SO's birthday, I always buy him things he wants (vs. Christmas, where I buy him things he needs). Like MilkyWhitesez, I often take note throughout the year of the things he might pick up at the store, and put back on the shelf, or the things he says he wants but can't justify getting for himself. In the end--and I know this will sound cliche--he'll like whatever it is you get him, whatever it's material worth.
Last year, I bought my SO tickets for his favourite hockey team--out of town.They were cheaper, since the town we were going to wasn't nearly as much of a hockey town AND we got to take a trip together :)
Other ideas less than a hundred: his favourite TV series on DVD, video games, clothes/pair of shoes, concert tickets (depending on where/whom), maybe a shirt of his favourite baseball team (to wear to this game he's planning to go to), YOU... ;)
I just bought my boyfriend a shirt for his birthday. Otherwise I would've bought him a video game, or a couple movies he'd like.
I bought him some glow in the dark stars and put them in a pouch and a birthday card because I couldnt afford anything expensive. He loved them.
Give him something simple yet meaningful. A kiss/massage coupon. Or you can burn his favourite songs to a CD or surprise him with flowers to name a few. I never gave any guys flowers, but I think its very romantic. Lol.
Good luck!
I pretty much always buy practical gifts. It always ends up being something he's mentioned in a conversation before and he's said that he has needed to get. This year I got him window tinting for his car.
wow i dont understand why it matters THAT much.
but seriously cook him/take him to a nice dinner. food is gold in a man's eye.
a video game?
concert tickets?
get you some sexy outfit and surprise him with a strip tease? lol idk!
I once made my ex a collage of pictures of us, his favorite things, places we've gone to, and on the bottom I wrote his name through different cutouts from magazines. It doesn't cost much and its handmade, so its even better! :)