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Hints.
Males have been straightforward beings since their beginning. We don't like what you say, we punch you in your face, plain and simple. This has worked for centuries. We don't leave hints. Maybe murder evidence, but not hints. A hint is something that provides a clue to greater something.
Women oftentimes leave these "clues" laying around, or they may even mention it in a subversive manner, and thus, the verbal "hint".
Women oftentimes do not necessarily perceive that men are usually unperceptive, or have other things occupying their minds when these hints are verbally given, or even physically left around.
Women use these hints to help us guys find out what they want in particular, when it really isn't much trouble to directly ask us. As a matter of fact, it is my personal opinion that women do this to make relationships seem more "natural" in that they did not need to ask us what they wanted, because the guy "got the hint". But whether you leave something laying around, or tell us, it is no different, I argue that the relationship is being made more natural by just speaking up. Communication is what makes a relationship, after all.
Something else I would like to add, is that women like doing things their own way, so they may not follow this advice I just gave, and they will attempt to make their hints more obvious.
As much as I hate to break it to you, what is obvious to most women, is not as obvious to most men.
The answer to your problem ladies, is just to simply
tell us what's going on. After all, you don't want to get into the cliche' drama of you not talking to him, and him saying "I can't help you unless you tell me what's wrong", and then you pout and turn away, expecting him to read your mind. When you do something like that, everyone loses, including you.
Conclusion: If you want something, or if something is wrong, don't drop hints, tell us. Communication is what makes a relationship more natural and strong.
Do you drop hints in your relationship? And guys, do agree with this?
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Comments (49)
Well, I don't agree that you should punch her in her face, but I do agree with you that dropping hints is frusterating. But that's what makes women, women. I'm just happy I have a girl who loves me, hints or no hints.
They make you want to work for the pussy. Bluntly speaking of course. Then when you get tired of their games they wonder what the fuck happened...This is why it's so damn hard to fall in love.
When I look at a beautiful girl these days, I caption them right away "Somewhere a guy is tired of her shit". And girls wonder what happened to all the nice guys, well certain types of women just fuck our shit up.
Murder evidence! Ftw!
It's only a problem if an argument ensues because of them. Otherwise, hints can make the relationship interesting.
when i was young, i used to drop hints all the time because i wanted him to do something for me without me telling him. but i learned quickly that it's never gonna happen so now, if i want something, i tell him even if he's tired of hearing it because i want it to be known. also, i know they can't read minds because i don't read minds, but if anyone knows how to, please teach me ok?
This is amusing.
And this is also one of the reasons I think I suck at being a girl, sometimes. I have absolutely no idea how to hint around things and drop hints like that. If I want something, or don't want something, strongly enough, I'll just say so. It might take a bit for me to formulate how to say it, exactly, but by then they can usually tell something's on my mind, so they ask :)
Hints that are dropped only fall to the floor. Stop littering!! Because I don't notice them to pick them up, sht may pile and it makes the floor look ugly. kthnxbai.
It took me a long, long, long, long, long, looooooooooong time to understand why women do that [Yea, I think I've learned a lot about women] . The psychology behind the main reason is:
You can't ask someone to love you.
So what they WANT... they want you to do something special for them without them asking it from you. If they have to ask it from you, then it isn't as special. They want the emotional tidings of feeling by being surprised and glamoured all done on its own. As guys, we really, really do not ask as much from women because we aren't satiated that way.
Remember in society: The way how guys are as to being the heroes, women innately desire to be the princesses and the damsels in distress.
From what I know, I am fairly succinct and to the point. Guys are definitely and probably TOO straightforward. This one guy once took my hand and put it over his junk. Subtlety isn't your strong point, is it, gentlemen? Hahaha.
@Meowmeowkimmaee@xanga - We *DO* have some subtlety but I think it often ends up as "mixed signals".
TangMSU summed it up perfectly.
I have no subtlety and I do not consider this a good thing. sometimes I am hard to swallow because I am always telling it like it is. My bf has actually asked me sometimes to be more subtle, lol. I can't help it! beating around the bush does not get my needs effectively communicated OR met.
hahaha actually, my boyfriend is the one who is more likely to speak with hints (usually jokingly) and i ALWAYS fail to pick up on it.
for example without being too graphic, the other night we had a REALLY "good time." afterward we were scrounging for some food in the kitchen and talking about our days and - my life being mostly boring since my car accident has made me stay home, i was really proud of myself for killing a housefly. he asked, "was that the most satisfying part of your day?" (lol, i'm a moron) and i was like, "well basically for the past 3 days..." totally seriously, not understanding. hahahaha so he keeps acting as though i greatly insulted him. but i'm (pretty) sure he knows i just didnt understand what he was implying. lol. oh well. its become an inside joke of sorts.
i sometimes drop hints but then at the end i still just tell him what i want or what is going on just because hes too stupid to realize..
its ok.. i can live with him being the way he is because i totally agree with you.. TELL HIM WHAT YOU WANT! and stop whinging!
I'm sure I'm guilty of dropping hints, but I usually try to be direct. Sometimes, I'm outright blunt to the point of sheer tactlessness, but whatever.
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - lol!!
I usually just tell him directly, no hints or clues involved.
...........Guys give mixed signals too :/
They drop hints.
It's not just girls...
@TangMSU@xanga - Oh...see?? Mixed signals :p it's frustraaating.
But waaait. What makes it that girls = dropping hints, and guys = subtlety? :/
lol im guilty with this. i do it because i want the guy to figure it out. EXERT SOME EFFORT! ask himself "why is she acting weird, was it something i did or did not do?"
why should i make your life easier if you're making my life hard? LOL i'm just saying.
other times, i tell him straight too. esp if its a big deal.
@Meowmeowkimmaee@xanga - thats not forward, that's just being horny, and a guy like that isn't considered a gentleman.
@pasaway4eva@xanga - Exert some effort? hahah getting with someone should be "easy"-"medium" difficulty. Maintaining the relationship is where effort should be placed.
im a pretty straightforward girl.
the bf is actually quite SELF-ABSORBED and seem, at most times, socially deaf and blind. If other women have attempted to "train" him or to drop hints bEFORE, it clearly did not take because he's pretty oblivious and unobservant. Although, there are times when he's VERY perceptive and I think he's more lazy than not skilled but that's my speculation.
Now, we weren't getting emotionally connecting; not the way I wanted to anyways, and after much time spent paranoid in my head, I had to say it out loud. He worked hard to improve and now he's A LOT better. Still a little awkward and unnatural in presenting it as a whole, but hey, it's the fact that he's trying that counts. SOME GUYS have been "taught" better to pick up hints/cues whatever... I've had ex bfs who were MUCh better at understanding body language and cues presented WITHOUT verbal hints. Some others are not so good at it. Everyone's different; We (as women) don't like being generalized so we shouldn't do with men either, right?? :)
haha I think my guy drops hints more often than I do
MEN DROP HINTS TOO!! i've encountered many!!! and we want to be straight forward, and i'm sure many women have tried. why is picking up on a "hint' so frustrating? if you picked up on it- wouldn't you say that it's pretty straight forward what she wants from you? if you can't figure it out, can't you just ask her what the hint meant? i can honestly say that i'm a pretty straight forward type of girl, but the only time i would drop hints would be when i've failed at being straight-foward. what i mean by failing is that some people don't seem to be able to handle the straight-forward stuff so i try to be nice by leaving little hints so that he/she will pick up on it and not be so offended or angered at the request.