Tuesday, 01 September 2009
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WYD A Moocher?
As I hung out with the guy I like a bit more...I noticed he mooches off his friend a lot. We always hang out with friends, but I hardly ever see him pay for himself. This got me thinking, if I were to pursue him in the future (right now my feelings for him are hush hush as I want to truly get to know the guy), what if he would ask for me to pay for everything? Or maybe that's why he hasn't noticed that I kind of like him because I already openly said I hate moochers when we were talking about another friend of mine who used to do that a lot. I didn't know he was one until I brought this up in conversation one time.
He is a really nice and sweet guy, but what bugs me the most is how he can't really afford himself whenever we go hang out and do something. Although, this didn't stop me from liking him more and more every time we keep hanging out. Would you date an (extreme) moocher anyway?
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I don't have too much money, and I live paycheck by paycheck... so I guess I mooch off my boyfriend when we go on dates, but I usually try to pay him back during the times where I actually have money. I wouldn't be able to afford to pay for a moocher (especially extreme!), so it's a no.
One of my guy friends back in middle school was an extreme moocher. He would hangout with my friends and I, order whatever he wanted, and then when it came to pay the bill, he'd make up an excuse and my friends and I would end up paying for him. It was really annoying but we finally put an end to it after the second or third time.
I don't think I would be able to stay in a relationship with an extreme moocher. It would be really hard to stop getting annoyed and mad at him... and plus, I'm not rich that I can pay for the both of us (no matter what we do) and still have some leftover money. I'm fine with if he pays once, then I'll pay the next time.
no. I mean I earn my money, why can't he?
hell, no. i always paid when i was in a relationship and that it blows, HARD.
NO. i dated two moochers, and it burned a hole in my pocket. first guy did pay, but for a $30 dinner, he'd tell me he only have $10. guess who got stuck with paying 67% of the bill? yeah, yours truly, right here. second guy, i have a meal plan with res, but he'd always suggest going out for fast food, and he'd never have the cash to pay for it. come on, its like $5. im surprised i stuck with him for two months. you'd be crazy for dating a moocher. good thing you noticed this before you started dating him, or else he'd be mooching off you by now.
HELL NO! I don't know how he can call himself a man mooching like that.
absolutely not. it would be like asking for a nightmare.
I have dated a moocher before and I couldn't stand it. It wasn't b/c he was unemployed or whatever he was just cheap.
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"no i don't want no scrub
a scrub is a guy that can get no love from me"
moochers are a less dramatic level than leeches, since leeches latch on tightly and actually ask you to pay for them. moochers just hover and delay time so you need to take the initiative when it comes to paying, or they just say "whoops, i've got no cash"
it's not acceptable if the person consistently wants to go out, whether to eat or spend money, when they don't have any money in the first place and then expect you to pay.
no.
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No.
I can't see how a guy could be a mooch and have any self respect. I would have to give this a big hell no!
i dated one before. at first, it doesn't seem like a big deal. but it will become very frustrating, especially if you are trying to make ends meet and that person isn't doing anything to help you. you'll also feel like his mother once he starts asking for an allowance.
But im sure you all would have NO qualms dating a guy with money and letting him pay for every single expense. Don't be so quick to drown in your own hypocrisies.
nope
Gahhh, my boyfriend is a moocher and he admits it himself too.
it's never directly with money.
...it.s with FOOD!
For example, whenever we go out to eat with friends, he never orders anything. Instead, he waits till everyone is full and eats their leftovers. It's disgusting but the friends we hang out with have known him since childhood...godforbid he do that with people he just met.
His excuse is that he is a broke college student. Oh well -_-
honestly my dad was always been a bit of a moocher so i grew up always being embarrassed when he called up that guy who he had met for like 3 seconds last week, because my mom was nice to his wife, and asked the man to come fix our computer--for free. i probably blew the whole thing out of proportion, but i always was embarrassed. now i am marrying the exact opposite, he literally refuses to ask for anything from his best friends, even when they would love to do things for him. so obviously, I wouldn't date a moocher, but I am here to tell you the opposite extreme is just as annoying when you are planning a wedding!
Sometimes I would pay for him.In this day and age it's only proper to take turns at the task of paying for an outing.There are however variations to this rule.Sometimes if the guy is wealthy then he shouldn't expect you to. If you are financially secure and he is not then maybe you should.
But I would always be asking myself in a situation like this. Why can't he pay? Does he have a Job? Does he have Legitimate financial problems where he is obligated elsewhere? Or the worse Scenario is he not even looking for a Job? Does he expect handouts with complete conscienceless ?
If he is a true moocher there are a couple reasons why I would not continue being around this person. #1.. He has a Job and very few obligations in life. If he only has himself to look out for then he is a Moocher if he can't pay his own way.
#2... He doesn't work and doesn't seem to have any future plans to do so. He's a moocher.
Nope. I want a guy who can take care of himself financially. Ain't got no money? Ain't got no car to take me on a date? Too bad, so sad.