Sunday, 30 August 2009
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Do You Agree with This Comment?
I was reading a post on Datingish when I came across a comment posted by aspire_achieve. He said, "Girls should not believe guys when they say "I love you" until they're over 20 and have been in a relationship with the guy for a year. Anything less, and the guy just wants to get laid. Anyone that disagrees is either lying or in for a rude awakening."What do you think Datingish readers? Do you agree or disagree with this statement?
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mostly agree, but im sure there are exceptions.
I think there can be exceptions. I had already had sex with J a lot before the word love came up.
I disagree. Age has nothing to do with feelings in my opinion.
I think for the most part I disagree. Most men in my experience don't like saying I love you because it makes them feel so vulnerable. So when they say it they mean it. Granted if it's said during a moment of passion he is probably just trying to get some action, but I know too many great guys to believe that all of them are like that. I think if anything men tend to love deeper, more honestly and with more of themselves on the line than women do.
Sure there are exceptions... In movies that is. Completely agree with that statement.
@echois23@xanga - Oh, man... "When they say it, they mean it?" Sure, no guy would ever say "I love you" with just one sole purpose - to get you into bed. Huh, I guess I am a freak of nature then...
The definition of "love", these days, is not what it used to be.
Hmm, I don't know. I believe it up to a point, but I'm sure there are exceptions. I do think that you need to be careful when a guy tells you he loves you. There are lots of scumbags out there, and let's face it, ladies, we're kind of suckers when it comes to the L word. They know it's just what we want to hear.
disagree
This is a big strident generalization; you can tell by how it's written.
Still, I bet there ARE guys who use that line that way.
i disagree. it seems to be that way most of the time, but both my boyfriend's and ex-boyfriend's parents met when they were teenagers and are still very much in love. (and no, they are not brothers, they are from two different families.) and maybe this makes me sound naive, but my boyfriend does not just want sex. we'll have been together a year on september 8th and we have yet to have sex and he's perfectly content, he never pressures me or asks me about it. so yes, i disagree. you can't judge everyone's situation.
Sounds like a good piece of advice. ♥
Completely agree! I've seen too many teenagers saying it after two weeks, and my boyfriend has always made a point to not say it until he means it because he never meant it in other relationships. And yes, 22 and over a year together. I don't think guys are mature enough to understand what they're saying until they're over 20.
Most guys that young use "I love you" to get laid. But some guys *us rare few* will not tell a girl we love her unless it is how we really feel. I might be 36 now but I have never told a girl I loved her unless I was in love with her. And I told the first girl I loved her at 19 and at 23 we got married. So yes I married my first love. Of course even after a 4 1/2 year relationship our marriage only lasted 5 months (long story short she wasn't really in love with me). But yes guys will lie to a girl and say "I love you" just to get laid, and not just 20 year old guys and younger. Some guys *20 years old and older* will do it, too. It is sad, but true. I say find a guy who really does love you for you. He won't call you beautiful, sexy, hottie, or anything else like that. Instead he will call you by your name, or Princess. And he will look you in the eyes when he tells you he loves you. And he will want to hold your hand walking down the street, and the sound of your voice is what he will want to hear first thing in the morning and the last thing at night. He will buy you flowers just because, not to say sorry. He will ask how your day was and actually listen when you tell him. A real guy will listen to not just what you say but how you feel, because he cares.
Guys are you taking notes? Cause this is all true! And ladies you deserve to be treated, well like ladies, not sex objects. Now don't get me wrong, sex is great and it has its time and place but it can't be what everything is about. If it is then it is not love!
Sorry, I was long winded but hey a little knowledge is worth its weight in gold.
I agree..except for the cut off age of 20. Age isnt factor here.
Agreed.
disagree + that guy sux + i dont suk = pure win
I disagree. I was in a relationship with a guy at 16 and he didn't wait a year to tell me he loved me, and he loved me. We never had sex once in our year and a half relationship. It's all about using your best judgement. There have been other cases where I didn't fall for the asshole, I believe the right guys.
i disagree! my boyfriend and i said "i love you" to each other early on in the relationship. we waited almost six months to have sex. and now we're married with a beautiful baby girl. my husband isn't over 20 but we love each other deeply.
Whew, my boyfriend's over 20.... he means it! haha, but I don't think that's always true about the "i love you"- some guys mean it, and others don't.
I pretty much agree. I feel like people throw around the phrase "I love you" way too much.
disagree.
Definitely exceptions to the rule.
Disagree. Age is irrelevant. Maturity, context, and active motive can be considered, but there are guys who are not pigs and can mean it, know it, feel it, and say it without having experience or long-term commitment already behind them.
There are exceptions to the rule, because I never dated in high school. Small school in the middle of nowhere doesn't produce many gems. However, I think age is not so much a factor physically as it is emotionally or mentally.
I think people should be dating someone for more than 6 months before those "I love you"s pop up. Those three little words have a heavy meaning and people throw it around way too much.
Disagree, completely. Age is just a number. A 20 year old can still act like he's in high school. Maturity is based on the type of experiences you've had, not the number of birthdays you've had.