Miss Gorilla
My ex boyfriend and I are on good terms now, but when we broke up a few years ago, the outcome wasn't so good. We had decided to go to college together four hundred miles from home, and when we broke up the day before the big move, both of us were stuck in a very uncomfortable position. We had the same residence, the same major, the same classes, and all the same friends--not to mention a lot of pent up resentment toward one another. After dating for almost two years, we had learned all of each other's secrets. You know what I mean: all of the dirt that you only share when you're certain (at the time) that you can trust your SO no matter what. Things went sour very quickly. We insulted, slandered, lied, and offered all of the valuable information that should have been kept in the sacred secret vault no matter what the outcome of the relationship.
So how do you prevent something like this from happening? In a relationship, you're expected to share yourself and open up to the person you're with. But what if you break up? I don't know about you, but my boyfriend now has plenty of secret information that he could use against me. I'd like to think he'd never blackmail me, but it does happen sometimes when relationships go wrong. What do you think? Has your ex ever blackmailed you or told your secrets?
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No, I trust my (ex-)gf enough to believe they'll act in a civilized manner despite the direction of our relationship. I hope they trust me enough with that as well.
@AznFier@xanga - These are my thoughts.
My girlfriend and I have decided we trust each other enough to be, you know... decent human beings in the event of a breakup.
@AznFier@xanga - @Viserys@xanga - ditto. :)
I never been thru that with an ex but ex friends yes i have and its so messed up. thats why i dont open up to people easily anymore.
I would never tell theirs. And if I ever did tell them anything (I doubt it. I don't trust people easily), I'd hope they'd be respectful enough not to say anything.
BUT, I doubt I told any of them anything. So, I don't have much to worry about. My last ex was over 3 years ago, and so far nothing has come of it.
I think only a sick person would blackmail someone just because they broke up. I trust my girl with my secrets and my heart.
It's always going to be a possibility, since one cannot control what an ex says or does.
However, dating the type of personality that wouldn't blackmail someone/tell someone's secrets after a relationship ends is one approach to avoiding it.
While I have never been blackmailed, one ex did give out private and intimate information about our relationship together, as well as about me in general.
He seemed to lose interest in doing that, though, when he realized I wasn't paying much attention, and I never retaliated. ( Okay, I did repeat a couple of silly stories about how he tripped over the garden hose in front of our house for the millionth time, but anyone who knew him knew of his disasterous encounters with them. But that's more "poking fun" than divulging secrets. )
In his case, he was just trying to make himself look better by bringing me down, and that method rarely ever succeeds.
I believe my mom is trying to do something of the sort to my dad, because they are getting a divorce. She is such a fucking bitch, I hope she rots in hell.
The only information I've shared was with my current bf, and my sister (because I can't help telling them everything). It wasn't to be mean, it's just because I am not capable of keeping a secret if the person I have it with is gone.
hahah very funny.. my ex bf backstabbed me in front of everyone.. lol i tried to be on good terms with him.. hmm i still care about him and i thought that we had forgiven one another. haha not until i revealed my feelings. it's tough man.. it's hard saying where things could go. i miss him though.. not talking to him and wat not.
some people are less than human beings.
I'm one of those lesser human beings. I blackmail my exes until they make with the baked goods
When I broke up with my ex, I was super upset. But I never shared anything he told me with anyone. I can't exactly say the same for him, but since he's no longer living here, it doesn't really matter who he talks to and who he doesn't.
I found out about a month ago that an ex of mine from 3-4 years ago made a negative myspace account with my name and general information, but a public profile making crap up about me. I was able to get it deleted, but was mad that that info with my picture had been up there for that long.
I tend to keep a lot of secrets to myself. My ex-boyfriend (he's the only boyfriend I've had) didn't know everything about me. My best friends know a lot, of course, but I even keep some things from them. I don't think I have/have had anyone that I would be completely comfortable with knowing every single thing about me. Therefore, I'm not really in any danger of being blackmailed.
Holy crap! I wouldn't know what to do if that ever happened to me. Prolly beat him up or spread rumors abt him lol but that's jst gonna backfire I'm sure. Fortunately, I didn't have to deal with those with my exes!
it happened to me like 5 years ago, probably the worst time in my life. Luckily the truth stood itself and I move on.
That sucker email me last year and asked if I'm doing ok, he is doing better and ready to take me back....
I just sent him all the blackmail me stuff right back at him and told him to stay away from my much better life ;)
I agree with the first few comments.
I know my ex is honest and would never do anything stupid like that, so i trust him. I would never blackmail or tell any secrets that he told me, to anyone. That's just low to do if you're only doing it to get back at your ex or to get him back.
Besides, we're friends now and have been for a while and our feelings have subsided, so there wouldn't be a need for it anyway.
my latest ex tried to blackmail me. it was ridiculous. then he said he "only did it because it hurts so much". he was also full of shit. so, it really hurts to know that someone i cared so much about would turn on me so quickly, just because i decided not to be with him anymore. he did have a lot of emotional problems, though, so that probably factored in a lot. i would never do that to him, even though i have more to use against him. that is just a level i would never sink to.
i've had a really bad break-up or two, but i guess my tendency towards being scary kept these sorts of ideas about blackmail out of my ex-boyfriends heads... they had some incriminating photos too LOL
you can't really do anything. and honestly all you can do is just learn who to trust. and just hope that they're not that kind of person who'd tell. all you can do is just have faith in the next person
even though my ex was an asshole, but he never blackmailed me
yeeup he has. my ex-bf from high school did that to me with some racy pictures that were only meant for him. i hated him for it, still think he's a shady douche for it, but we don't really talk anymore so whatevs haha
I never told my most recent ex anything really good enough to blackmail me, then again we only went out for about 3 weeks.
But the person I went out with before that I told just about everything over the years we have known each other.
But everything that was said was the same 'value' as what I said and vice versa.
So if she did happen to try, I would have something of the same information to do the same.
But we are still friends today, and neither one of us have said anything that was not meant for others to hear.
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