Quite frankly, to me, this is all a load of bullsh**. Internet dating/online relationships
NEVER EVER work out. As the name suggests, you're dating on the world of internet, which means you won't meet this person. I don't understand why people do it. Hell, I don't know why people take the internet so seriously these days. Some people tell me that it's just for a bit of fun, but seriously, its not fun at all. You're hurting the person whose taking it seriously. But then again, in the end, both of the people are to be blamed. One for leading them on, and the other for falling head first.
I already know that internet relationships don't work, even without experiencing it myself. It's all common sense.
As soon as someone tells that they met someone on the internet whom they "love", I immediately think,
"Riiiiiight..I'm not interested in knowing this because I tell you that they don't work, and its not worth it, but you won't listen and soon, you'll be telling me that you hate them, and I'll just end up saying the three words of "Told you so'."Here are some of the scenarios that I have seen or heard about and thought
"Stop being so serious about it because it's all pathetic and unreal. Get a life."Scenario One: You meet someone from the other end of the world. You supposedly fall in love with that person. You tell that person about your feelings. What now? What are you going to do about it? Its not like you're going to fly over there and tell that person face to face, and then ask them out.
Even if you tell them that you're flying there when you're not, you're already lying to them and making fake promises.
Scenario Two: You meet someone again, from the other end of the world. Barely speaking to them, and getting to know them, they ask you out. What the hell!? Seriously, why would you do that? It's really pathetic and ridiculous. Its a load of bullsh**. Talk about desperate.
Scenario Three: You speak to this person nearly everyday. You like them a lot. One day, you tell them that you like them. They like you back. You ask them out, or they ask you out. You're now supposedly a couple on the world of internet. You find out that your internet partner has a REAL partner. A partner who they see everyday face to face. What are you? Just a friend on the internet? Were they just having fun? Having a laugh? Pfft! You practically asked for it by not thinking about the consequences.
Scenario Four: You were having a laugh, calling each other boyfriend or girlfriend. One day, its all serious. You give each other your numbers. You text, you call, BUT you don't meet up because you live too far and don't have the money for travels. You find out that your partner has been "cheating on you" on a chat site. You're pissed off. What do you go and do? Find yourself a new partner on the same chat site, and make your partner jealous, that's what you go and do! Then you start this argument on there, and tell people not to talk to that person because they've "cheated on you".
IT'S NOT REAL! GET OVER IT!These are just a few, but there are, of course, more situations than these. Especially more complicated and long-winded ones.
So take it from me, don't get yourselves involved in them, because they never work out. In the end, you'll either feel hurt over someone who might not even be real. Just because they claim to be who they are, they might not be until you meet them face to face, and actually get to know properly.
DON'T RIDICULE YOURSELF INTO THE WORLD OF ONLINE DATING!
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Did you get mad because your cyber boyfriend dumped you one time?
Honestly. The internet shouldn't be taken seriously, but there are plenty of online relationships that work out. It takes time and effort of course. Growwww upppp.
Just wondering, have you ever been hurt by online relationships before?
I met my boyfriend online and I guess you can say we started online dating, we met in real life and are now living together. We have been together for close to 4 years and we are also engaged. Online relationships can work out, I've experienced it and others have as well. Online dating isn't really as bad as some people make it out to be.
I dont believe in online dating at all. It's so ridiculous and fake. I see that as something lonely 13 year olds do because they dont have the social skills to meet people in real life.
But online dating to me is the whole "I live in New York and I met this guy online from Utah and we've been dating for three months and we're so in love! *giggle*"
However I have no problem with chatting with people online and then meeting up and ultimately dating them. To me thats just using the internet to meet new people and I see nothing wrong with it.
i think you did have an online relationship but it screwed you
sorry but you are so defensive.
this post sounds like me so much!!!!!!!
*scurries to internet to hateblog about the internet* lol.
it's not "not real," it's just a different form of communication. let people have their fun.
Well, to be honest I found my SO on the internet..by accident! Anyways, I guess online dating does not work if the two people do not make an effort. I have been dating my bf for two years now. Yes, we have been seeing eachother every five months or so (busy with school and such) We have been making it work. He comes here to see me, I go there to see him. He even came to live in my state! but yeah the economy sucks..long distance/dating online sucks and it can be difficult esp if you constantly think he is cheating on you or whatever. But it has been working and we are in love. We plan on living with eachother soon.
You are being way too negative. It CAN work if you put some effort. I guess my situation is different. Don't put down on things there is a billion people in the world and atleast a tiny percent made it work.
I can't say if I believe in it or not... but I know I wouldn't be able to handle one.
I'm not too clingy, but I am a bit clingy when it comes to communicating with you in person. I want to hear your voice in person, hug you, kiss you, etc etc... which is not over the phone or internet. There's just some things missing for me in an online relationship, so I don't think I would be able to handle it
Hahahahaah. I met my husband online. How little you know. =)
But, we were friends for a really long time (3 years). And then we both liked each other but didn't really do anything about it. Then he said he loved me and had for a really long time.Then we met (he lived in Texas, me Kansas). Got married 6 months later. It's been over 2 years now. =D
internet dating shouldn't be serious period!! unless you plan to meet up with this person, hence you don't go off searching for someone who is half way around the world, more like a 10 min drive away is far enough!
@Fairywife@xanga - Now THAT rocks. We need to hear more stories like that.
@FreeeVerse@xanga - Agreed
You can meet them in person though...YESH?
Someone needs to take the stick out of their ass.
Scenario one: One of my friends, Shelly, has a boyfriend who lives in Florida, one thousand miles away from her. They spend every vacation holiday and summer together. Neither have cheated. They've been together for five years and are engaged.
Scenario two: I started talking to this kid, TJ, online. We knew each other from school, but never really talked to each other. We started talking to each other, through texting, myspace, and the phone. We were going to start dating, but he moved away to his dad's. He still saw me every weekend, and he never cheated. Now he's moved back to where I live so I see him all the time now.
Online dating DOES work, although rarely. It depends on the commitment and trustworthy-ness of the people. Grow up.
I dont know why I have this urge to say you're AWESOME. Yay to anti-online romance.
You would be surprised.
There was a man I once knew who believed strongly that you can't fall for anyone over the internet, it would never work out. Guess what happened? He fell in love with a girl he met as friends in a period of about a year.
So really, it's kind of hard to believe until it happens to you personally I guess.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinions. x
*Oh, and to say that they would never work out would be a lie. Around 100,000 couples are married every year after meeting online. (Says a book I read in the library yesterday) ^^
@RazorBladeParade@xanga - This, all the way. I read the first paragraph and it sounded so jilted and so angry. You don't even need to read the rest of the blog to realize what's behind this burst of anger.
Besides, why is other people's dating life, online or offline, any of your business and why is it to be any of your concern? People aren't shitting bricks about you choosing to not date online, I don't see why anyone would feel the need to pry into others' lives and tell them something they want to do could never, ever work for them. Why should anyone take it from you, who supposedly has no first person experience? If it doesn't work for you, that's fine; don't do it. It takes two committed people who are willing to place their trust in each other. If they feel they can, let them be!
I know of several couples who first met on a graphical chat online that was based on wolves. They met each other by their little wolfy avatars. It's almost eight years later, they've always been regulars on that website, and some are living together now, and many of those couples are married and/or have children now. I've known of a ton of people on a ton of different websites who've made happy families and wonderful couples. I think for anyone to tell them that relationship isn't real or couldn't be real or serious is pretty asinine.
FUCK YOU DA INTERNETZ IS SRS BSNS!!!!!!11111!!!!1ONE!!11ONE
Does the Xanga Team even look for quality posts anymore?
Um.. excuse me but my friend and his gf met online and now they are engaged. They've been seeing each other for 4 years now. I also met my current bf online..and yes I do LOVE him very dearly. They are real emotions and he reciprocates them. We plan on moving in together in the near future. So yes some do work. You are wrong.
I think they can work if the two people are serious about the relationship but that is like with any relationship not just an online one.
i met my current boyfriend 4 years ago online. now we're living together, gonna get married next year. so i think your post is bullshit.
and i think your xanga username suits you really well.
@pinkdagger@xanga - Agreed 100%.
I'd also like to state that I met my boyfriend online. We both make the effort to drive back and forth at least once a month to see each other. The drive is a BITCH, but when you care about somebody, you do it.
i met my bf online a long time ago. we started talking online when we were like 11. met when we were 14 - dated for a month - broke up.. 5 yrs later we meet up again BECAUSE of the internet.. we started dating again.. and we've been dating for almost 2 yrs straight now. i love him so much and its because of the internet i met him and got another chance w/ him again.
possible IRL setting relationship nightmares:
scenario 1: you meet someone at the bookstore, which is a pretty safe place where nice geeks hang around right?! wrong! the unsuspecting geek turned out to be a sociopath serial killer. you went to grab some coffee, talked and had so much in common! however, he must've slipped some sedatives into your cup of coffee while you went to the restroom because you woke up inside the trunk of his car! he had very creepy taste in music, too-you could hear cher's "believe" song on repeat in the speaker system located near the trunk. luckily, the cops pulled him over for speeding, searched his trunk due to hearing someone screaming and found you. not everyone is always that lucky though.
scenario 2: you met someone cute at the mall, exchanged numbers, talked everyday, sweet, out going and funny guy. he told you he was 25 and laid off from work due to the recession, but later you find out that he was actually just released from prison for something violent and he's 34 years old with 2 baby mommas and 5 kids, who are still awaiting child support money from the deadbeat ex-con with an I love mom tattoo.
scenario 3: you meet someone from school, talked, hung out many times, enjoyed his company, had tons in common and you really like him a lot. later you find out that he has another girlfriend that he has been dating for over a year, so you were the other woman all along and he's been dating 2 girls at the same time with a double life, but you've dated the pathological liar for a year, too, and fallen in love with him.
scenario 4: you were introduced to a guy from a mutual friend, who vouched that the guy was a wonderful person and you thought that as well once you got to know him. later you find out that the nice guy is actually a sneaky promiscuous player once you noticed some weird warts on his thingy. you quickly get yourself checked for stds and hopefully, aren't preggo because he ain't marrying a stupid ho.
just some hypothetical scenarios of the opposite side showing how the real world is possibly filled with creepies that can make one run for ze hills, too~
stay safe where you date-online or IRL...good luck<3
lol