Thursday, 27 August 2009

• Breaking a Rule in Finding Love

   

  It has been always a fact that our mind and heart do not agree with each other. No matter how many times you dictate to yourself to choose and whichever won over, the failed faculty will seem to give you a reason to hold back. For a reason that I do not know, I follow the intuitive aspect of my self when my heart and mind could not decide.

  It’s always like that with the things we work on in our daily lives. We work with our heads, work with our mind and work with our gut-feeling. Sometimes, the routine gets too depressing and overwhelming. We ended up feeling slumped in one corner watching our lives walk past us.

  That is one reason I always put things into perspective. I always give it a thought, a minute, a second, it doesn’t matter as long as it has been thought of. I, then rationalize things. But once in my life, I learned that sometimes I have to break a rule of living up a rule. Sometimes going out of our comfort zone is the best way we can put things into perspective how ironic it may seem, and the outcome is just too basic. If breaking that rule to get to something or achieve something failed, you get to learn something out of it anyway and from there you will know that the formula is not right. It may not be the formula, but the timing and other factors that you have put to test.

  Let’s take for example when it comes to getting in a relationship with somebody. If you are the kind of person who had his/her heart broken a lot of times, you’ll be the kind to be skeptical in trusting a what you think may be a potential partner. It’s different when the person is right there already but you know right then and there that he’s not your type, that you don’t even have to think about being with that person at all. Just by mere sound of it, you know it’s unimaginable. But when you come across somebody and that seeing that person for the first time, or talking to that person for the first time, you just can’t help but feel that he might be somebody you can get along with or somebody you will really like to know. If you had been wronged by a lover a lot of times in the past, you will then remind yourself how it still hurts and how afraid you are of falling back on your face again.

  So that’s where we get into breaking the rule we have for ourselves, just for one time, if you’ve been having trouble seeing somebody you like until you meet another, with that vicious cycle, you can’t just seem to get over it, why don’t you just don’t think about it and let it go? Get your butt out and explore the possibilities. If it’s going to fail, then let it be. If you will not be happy in awhile with that spur-of-moment glimpse of romance, then take a step back make an honest exit. You’ll learn in the process that you’re still in pursuit of love, and even if you haven’t fallen in love at least you know, love is not just something that you can hurry and you can feel with just anybody. That alone will give you that feeling that you are still human. You have a heart but it’s not just something that you can give away to every guy/girl you meet in any place, in any time.

  Just a warning, some way or another you are going to break a heart in the process, or your heart will be broken in the process. You will be tagged as a promiscuous bitch or a jilted ass, or you’ll be frustrated again. There will always be a consequence, that’s a fact. As long as you don’t see everything as a game, you’re clean. If it was a loss for you, as long as you don’t end up sour-graping, you’re clean and still didn’t lose your head.

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