Miss GiraffeThere have been two things that are circulating around the 'net recently that a lot of feminist blogs have picked up: the appearance of a
normal-sized model in Glamour magazine, and facials. Can you guess which one I'm going to talk about?
What most of the blogs have been asking is whether or not semen facials are liberating ("I control if he gets to cum on my face or not; I'm the one who has made him cum") or demeaning ("My FACE? Because ejaculating onto my stomach isn't messy enough, so you want my face to be covered instead?").
Some bloggers have compared it to
weddings, and others have said that it's fine if that's
your fetish. It may also have to do with how the money shot is so mainstream in porn, and how almost every single porn video has to do with humiliation and domination.
Personally, I'm not a fan of facials. The liquid feels weird. It's messy. It's sticky. It hurts if you get it in your eye. It's difficult to get out of your hair. (And you know guys rarely have any control on where it ends up -- as long as it's in the vicinity, they let it fly.) I do find it degrading. What more than to objectify my body and
me by unloading your spunk onto my face? But if you're going to tell me that you
like having a boy's jizz on your face because
you derive your own pleasure from it, and
not because you get pleasure out of making him happy, then you know what, I concede -- but if
your only pleasure out of it is for his pleasure, don't fall into that trap, honey, and don't think you can convince me.
What do you think? Are semen facials out of line, or can they be empowering? What's the in-between?
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Comments (175)
I'm not quite sure how to answer that, since I'm a straight guy and this looks like a girl question...
LOL I have never thought about this before. But I can see how it is very demeaning to women. I don't really see how a woman can enjoy it
But whatever floats a woman's boat?
They aren't for me that's for sure. I think its a bit gross, its bad enough that they want you to swallow it. But hey, some people are into it, to each his own.
Whatever floats your boat, but I wouldn't do it.
two consenting adults can do whatever they want in the bedroom.
that said, that "facial are like weddings" article is bullshit. the author suggests that we should put our personal philosophies aside when we engage in certain acts because it's better to be convenient than progressive. she parallels accepting patriarchy in the bedroom to eating meat while still liking animals and smoking cigarettes while still hating big corporations. as if those are good examples. this is pure hypocritical bs from an individual too weak to hold her convictions through all aspects of life.
good for you for standing up for beliefs. regardless of what they are, at least be consistent.
i think it's discusting! i never let that happen its grosssssss i wouldnt do it
Uh. No thanks.
It's quite equivalent to spitting on my face, I think.
I've never tried. Can't say yea or nay.
None for me, thanks.
First off... you turn me gay with this post. Second and next... i read at first "INTO my stomach" not "ONTO my stomach.
boy's jizz. man.
lol. each to their own.
xo
Eh. It's so much easier to just swallow anyways, ladies. :p It's not messy!
why does every single sex act HAVE to be empowering to a woman? seriously? what happened to just dealing with it because your partner likes it? I don't like certain positions but I do them because my husband loves them. He's happy...and making him happy is more important to me than making sure I'm enjoying every.single.minute.
blegh i think we both just think that's icky. personally i'm a swallower. gross to some, but its just neater.
I just had a Human Reproduction class in college, I am not thinking of all the benefits of a cum facial. Heck I am thinking you can get STDs or STIs. That is not sexy to be walking around with these STIs. I think people should really see the negative outcomes of this pleasure juice. It shouldn't happen to anyone, the infections and what not.
Give me my St. Ive's facial scrub, i am a happy camper.
it's not for me. it's fun as a fantasy, but I woudn't do it
@XxFireXboltxX@xanga - Right, and one's partner should feel the exact same way. I see nothing wrong with taking it in the face every now and then for my boyfriend, because I know if there was anything I want to do, he'd do it without question. It shouldn't be a competition as to who is enjoying it more, or getting more out of it.
Everything doesn't have to be about empowerment and if something is not empowering, that doesn't automatically make it demeaning!
Besides, we usually take a shower together afterwards so as long as he doesn't get it in my eyes or my hair we're good. Having it in your eyes is more than just a slight sting. It feels like you've poured liquid fire ants in your eyes.
Plus, I made my boyfriend taste it once so he'd know what I was going through every time I swallow, haha!
i do whatever i can to make my boyfriend happy. that seems to be a rare thing nowadays.
i like it cause swallowing can get boring from time to time.
Yikes, you just made every male in the 10 mile radius very happy because it only takes 1 person to like it and all of a sudden it's on the menu. Hey, I agree with you 100%. It's gross enough if they want to come all over your body on purpose but to want to do it all over your face?
I would only agree to do it if he promises to lick it off my face when he's done. That's fair...
I don't like dome.
No thanks.
Ew. Too many ew posts recently, I've noticed. Haha.
My SO once said that most of his guy friends do it because they want to say, "This is my girl... my property, so no touchy!"
I'd rather it in my mouth. I hate cleaning up that stuff. Why waste it?
But if the woman actually likes it, it's not demeaning. Women don't get forced to do porn so it's not that demeaning. If they'd rather be humiliated and make more money, rather than getting a "normal" job then that's their choice. If you find porn demeaning don't watch it haha.
@XxFireXboltxX@xanga - I agree with you. Men have to put up with things we do, so if they really want to do something why not let them even just once. [As long as it's not too insane]. I don't see why women are trying to empower themselves in countries like America or Canada. There are women who can't even go to school without getting stoned to death. So we need to be happy with what we have, which I know is very hard for people these days.
The only woman I've been with who would allow this, had had a tragic and yet hilarious "omg it went up my nose" incident with an ex (no, I'm not kidding) and so it was temporarily off the menu due to the trauma value :D
Most of the others find it to be a porn-style demeaning thing to do. If I'm going to cum on a partner, any part of her will do, it's all hot.