Last week on a sweltering hot Sunday I went to the gas station to fill up my beyond empty tank. On arriving I saw that there was a line of cars already waiting because one side was completely obstructed by a big van with no driver in sight.
Frustrated and hot with my panting shih tzu next to me in the front seat, I silently cursed the person and tried to be patient as the line slowly decreased. After twenty minutes waiting and still not at the front of the line a gorgeous man ran out to the obstructing van and jumped in. He saw me waiting, apologized, and moved his vehicle. After driving up to the now free pump and before I even had a chance to get out, the cute van man walked up to my window. "Hey sorry about that. You have a gorgeous dog - can I pet her?" he said with a striking smile. I obliged and there was instant attraction between us.
He told me about the recent loss of his dog and we effortlessly made small talk. There was one problem, though - he was about 5'4" and I am around 5'7". He had no idea how tall I was because I had been sitting in the car the whole time. I was mortified to get out and pump my gas because then he would know the
giant truth
about my height.
Luckily I had unknowingly pulled into a full service lane and the gas station attendant ran up to the car and began filling it. After a few more minutes Mr. Van Man asked for my number and in a moment of self confidence (hey I can be taller than him, it's not that bad) I gave it to him. That evening he called and I sat there letting it ring debating whether to answer.
"It's not his fault he is vertically challenged and you are vertically endowed. Give it a chance, you guys have chemistry," the angel on my right shoulder whispered. "Are you kidding me? He is going to freak when he sees how much taller you are, talk about an awkward moment. You know you are always going to feel bigger than him...and do you really need to add to your stereotypical woman's body issues?" the devil on my left shoulder hissed.
The phone was still ringing and as I reached to answer I drew back my hand. All the confidence I had gained in the last few years could not stand up to the test. I sighed...Maybe next time.
Comments (71)
I want a tall guy.
I know how you feel. the last guy I dated was 5'2 - I'm 5'4. I've gained some weight, so I just felt huge the entire time - and he was in perfect shape.
but, to be honest, if you thought the chemistry was that strong, then I think you should go for it. 3 inches doesn't matter if you're talking about height [wink].
If he's only 5'4 he's probably somewhat used to dating taller women. If he calls back you should answer.
I'd say answer next time. It might not work as a romance (and maybe it will, who knows?), but at least you will have made a friend!
I'm only 5' so this issue has never come up, but for my 6'4" stepsister, her height has never held her back. I say if you have chemistry then you should give it a chance. You never know if you will like the relationship or not until you try it out.
I'm a 5'1 and female so I guess this isn't a problem I will run into in my life. However, as a very short person I can say with confidence that short people are well aware that they are short.
I think the awkward moment has already happened for him - you have seen that he's only approx. 5'4. If you can get over it on your end, go for it. It would be sad to think that he only got to pick out of all the women 5'3 and under.
Don't be sensitive on his account, he's obviously confident enough to pull it off. Are you?
I'm 5'7" and my bf is 5'4" and we have no problem with it. We even go ballroom dancing together. I was initially skeptical about the height difference too, I thought he would never be attracted to me because I was taller, but, hurray! I was wrong!
I love taller women! The last girl I had a crush on was 5'9. I'm 5'8!!! But I like shorter girls too... Hm... I just love women lol
I'm a short guy. My girlfriend is shorter. But it makes us an adorable couple. :)
Give it a chance. Maybe he likes taller women. You wouldn't know. . . .
omg he's so short!
i;m 5ft6 and i'd never kiss a guy my height, let alone a guy shorter than me. shame...if he were taller he would have sounded great :P
If theres chemo... i say embrace it
Yeah, I'm 5'4.
I dated a 5'5 girl once. We certainly had chemistry, and the relationship certainly didn't end because of my height, or at least I don't think so.
*shrug*. It does cripple you though. Look at all the people here saying that they would "never" kiss a short guy! :( :(
- John
I'd say answer next time. Nothing wrong with a shorter guy-almost every guy I've been with has been shorter(or the same height as) than me. Besides it's only 3 inches. It's always fun coming up behind them putting your arms around them and resting your head on their shoulder
Hmm... I find myself attracted to people taller than me... my exboyfriend is 5'8'' I am 5'6''.
look at what you gain and what you lose if you pick it up. you could gain a lifelong partner if you pick up and only face a temporary embarassment as a loss
You should call him back! He is short and knows he's short so I'm sure he's not expecting to be taller than you. You have nothing to lose, really, and everything to gain. If you have amazing chemistry height shouldn't matter!
If you think you can get past the height thing, go for it. If you don't, then let this one go. I personally am approximately 5'10", and dating short guys does NOT work for me. I tried the whole "give it a chance" thing, and it just didn't work. So don't feel bad for having a preference--everyone does, whether or not they openly admit it.
My recent ex and I were the same heights as you two---me being the taller. It's not a problem at all. In fact it's nothing I ever really noticed much when we were together.
I don't know why girls freak out when someone shorter likes them, especially if the girl likes said someone back because there is obvious chemistry. I mean there's a limit for everything, but they're the same type of guys. They're not aliens...just go for it. If you don't want to, at the very least don't be ignorant and just sit there and let the phone ring. He seems like a cool guy.
height shouldn't be a measure of love or personality.
@tastytimmm@xanga - LMFAO. you seem overly optimistic
I'm primarily attracted to guys that are taller than me. My last SO was 6' and I'm 5'7" :)
I've 5'9", I've dated a couple guys shorter than me, one that was my height and one that was taller than me. It's never been an issue, no one's ever seemed to mind, so, whatever...honestly if someone is so insecure that being shorter than you would bother them, that would be an issue.
THAT SAID: Actually dating a guy that was taller then me was really nice. I could put my head on his chest (while we were standing  up!) and it was nice to feel "engulfed" when we cuddled...
but it's not something that would make or break a relationship.
My sisters-in-law are both taller than their husbands. Call him!
I'm 5'6" and my GF is 5'10"