That depends on what they did that screwed up their first chance.

I don't really believe in giving people second chances. That may sound harsh, but the way I see it is if it didn't work out the first time, it's probably not going to work the next.

I guess it all really depends on the situation. If it's a fairly small mistake they made, then I guess it's ok to give them a second chance, but if they really hurt you, then don't waste your time.

i don't give second chances. i find them a crock.

I think, when you get to the point where you are repeatedly questioning whether or not the guy really cares for you, you're already past the time when you should have stopped giving second chances. So, if these men treat her badly and are not worthy of her time, as you said, I am going to assume that they probably don't have much respect for other people in general. That sort of personality doesn't transform overnight, at least not in my experience. So, after the first couple of instances, I'd break off such a relationship. I would not let it get serious.

Of course, not all relationships are like that, and it depends on the "offense". There are things my partner could do that would not include a second chance; & there are things he has done before that have angered me, but it was not enough to deny him another opportunity.

i don't hand out second chances often, but like others have said before me, it all depends on the situation. sometimes a second chance is what is needed.. that wake up call that puts everything back into perspective.. other times they've clearly had one too many chances. in the end, you have to decide whether the choice you're going to make will lead you to a happier heart, or endless heartbreak.

It really depends on the situation. If said guy or girl has cheated on you then one more chance is enough. Say if it was something fairly small like a White lie then yes three chances is enough, but I believe never over three chances.

Like they say, 'third times the charm.'

That sounds so much like me, and because of my last relationship, my bestie didn't talk to me for a week because of what i was doing. My bestie knew that I shouldn't be dating a guy like him(my ex) and that he was only using me. But of course, I didn't listen and my ex used me and what not. But I was stupid enough to give my ex a second chance. I wish I never did, i really regret that. But now i know, i would never give a guy another chance. no matter how much he meant to me 8)

me and my current boyfriend have been on and off since june 2007. we both love each it other but it's just kinda we we're too immature back then. we just back together a few days ago because all in all we've both changed dramatically. hopefully it works out because i really do love this kid<3. i'll give you many chances as long as you prove to me you're worth it. 

I use to be like you, getting tired of advising my friends to get rid of their jerks and stop giving so many chances... until one day, my exboyfriend came along. We went back forth for almost a year, until I told him I wanted to make whatever we had... a real relationship. He said no that wasn't what he wanted so I left cause I knew I deserved better. One month later he came back, asking for another chance. After much pleading, I finally said yes. I still have the letter he wrote me about how thankful he was for all the chances I ever gave him and how he loved me very much.

Anyways two months later, he called me up and broke up with me. I never understood why... then about a month and a half later, he texted me and told me he missed me. He called repeatedly every time I hung up on him and he would IM/text until I responded. He said he was serious. I would give him another chance and after a couple of days or a week he would leave me again. This cycle repeats almost five times for six months after the breakup... finally I told him enough was enough. He never asked me to be his girlfriend again the whole back-and-forth time, but he did ask for a chance to prove he changed. Of course, he never changed. He left me every single time.

In three days, we would have not talked to each other for a month now since I told him it's best if we didn't keep contact anymore. He still visited my xanga for a while, but I haven't seen his footprint for over a week now. He and I both know how many chances I gave him... the amount is countless and I would probably take him back now if he asked nicely. Haha. It's obvious to everyone I know that I still love him even after I told him leave me alone.

So I guess what I am trying to say after this LONG comment is... sometimes it takes just the right jerk to make a girl give chance after chance. I use to be a one-chance kind-of girl, until I met my ex. And when you really love someone, you don't keep count of the number of chances you give them.

i can SO relate to what you friend is feeling. it's hard. it's like a battle between your mind or your heart. i'm in that situation right now actually...

depending ont he person. There are people i'd give so many chances too, but there are people i'd give one chance and thats it

It all depends on the situation.