Miss RhinoThe key to a healthy relationship is obviously communication and honesty. We have heard that time and time again. But do you ever fear that your SO is hiding things from you?
Everybody has something that they like to keep to themselves. It's like talking to your mom about sex. The equivalent of pulling teeth at the dentist. Are there ever things that you hide -- maybe for the sake of your relationship or your own personal pride?
Work. It's impossible to think that every day is a great day at the office. But will a guy ever admit that he was put in the doghouse by his boss that day? As emasculating as wearing pink shirts on Wednesdays, being torn down at work is a definite ego-crusher, and one thing I have found that guys are never eager to admit. Things are always on the up and up. Until the day he comes up without a job.
While girls are always eager to come home and vent, men are more reluctant. It's like flaunting an imperfection.
Family. Family problems are extremely personal, and in many relationships, something not often brought up. There is enough fear in the simple act of meeting the parents, no need to add on the fact that they are clinically insane. That's not the picture you want to paint of family life when you're in a relationship. Definitely not promising.
What are some things your SO is hesitant to share? Have you ever hidden something from your SO?
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There's a time and a place for telling secrets!
i haven't told my bf (we've been dating 2.5 months) that i miss him as much as i feel it. i don't want to overkill the 'sharing' thing. lol no, im not the clingy type that needs constant reaffirmation, however when i feel it, i tend to say it. i just don't indulge as often as i'd like. lol
i've told my boyfriend everything, because i have a lot of issues and i want him to know some of the shit that's happened to me that caused me to be how i am now. in fact, i'm sure i over-share, but he's just too nice of a guy to say anything that would make me think that.
however, he doesn't really share as much, or it doesn't seem like it. i don't think it's to hide anything though...i mean i've been to family functions and a huge family reunion. he tells me the events from work afte he gets home every day. he's just not the type to say unnecessary things, even if i think they'd be worth sharing.
i like to keep some to myself. i don't like to be an open book.
I'm a pretty private person many times. Also, I've only been dating this guy for like, barely a month, so I don't think I really need to spill my innermost secrets to him, and I'm also probably not ready at all for it.Â
I generally bottle all my emotions up (which is bad most of the time) so I refrain from telling him anything. My ex always figured something was upsetting me and would try to get me to talk about it, but I don't really budge most of the time lol.
I just like having a secret or two. Because then it feels like I'm keeping something for myself. It doesn't even have to be anything big. But I do tell him eventually then I find another secret to keep for awhile. It's always some stupid secret that's not even worth keeping. ..That's probably why I always end up saying it. Hahahaha.
he knows when i have something on my mind. its creepy, but its sweet of him as well... when im not talking properly or talking very less, he just knows something is wrong with me, whether we are talking on msn, or on the phone. its amazing, so i dont hide anything from him.
my bf and i have a very strong emotional connection, so we practically don't hide anything. we have enough respect for each other to understand as well as sympathize with whatever experience we've both gone through. Even if it's things about exs/dating, or something that's shocking or embarassing, we've combed through it all and it's never been an issue.