Miss Walrus
I hate to admit it, but I'm a huuuge (closet) Mariah Carey fan. Even when girl went batsh*t crazy, I was still supporting her (albeit, secretly) & fawning over her old albums while anxiously awaiting new tracks. Anyone who can sample "Genius of Love" & turn it into a catchy pop song is totally worthy of my lifelong loyalty & admiration.
Right now, my "Fantasy" homegirl is back on the sc ene with her song "Obsessed"-- a little ditty supposedly written about her six-month "non-relationship" with Eminem. Em first mentioned Mariah waaay back in the day with his song "Superman" off The Eminem Show. But Em obviously wasn't done speaking his piece about Mariah; he called her out on another track, "Bagpipes from Baghdad" on his latest album. He basically raps about wanting the foxy lady back--& really, who could blame him? Mariah's got legs for days. But anyway, Nick Cannon got mad & yadda yadda yadda..so Mariah drops the "Obsessed" track--with an Em-inspired character in her video just to make things clear. Marshall Mathers fired back with "The Warning," a song with some serious bite. I would be scared--& locking my doors at night--if I were you, Nicky boy.
Although this celebretard fight is pretty petty, it started to turn the little wheels in my mind: What does it mean to be obsessed with someone?
And isn't obsession often confused with love? I actually set the Mariah song as my ringtone for a certain summer fling who just can't get it through his head that I'M OVER IT. I know said fling doesn't even really
like me (we didn't really hang out long enough for him to ever discover my favorite movie, let alone hear any deeply personal stories that I feel really bond you to someone). So it makes me wonder,
why is he so obsessed with me? And is obsession more similar to lust, or to love? And did anyone see that "Obsessed" movie with Beyonce? What was THAT all about?
I know that once you start to develop feelings for someone, it's almost impossible to just "switch" them off. But I wonder how/why some of these people start to confuse their (lustful? hormonally-driven? borderline psychotic?) obsession for love. After some mild research, I came across a theory that I agree with: Obsession doesn't really involved the person one is obsessed with. It has everything to do with the obsessor (?) constantly, well, obsessing, over their feelings for the person. Often those who get obsessed with others have a desperate need to like & be liked--so whenever some innocent, attractive victim makes an entrance into their lives, they attach themselves--quite vehemently--& hold on for dear life.
Have you ever felt that you were "obsessed" with someone you didn't really love, or maybe didn't even really like that much? Or have you ever been the object of obsession?
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I admit it, I'm the object of obsession for many.
the son of a family friend who is two years younger than me has been "obsessed" with me since he was 10. he followed me around for a week straight. we were on a houseboat. noooot pretty.
I don't think anyone should be afraid of Eminem...non-lyrically speaking. I don't think I've ever been "obsessed" with anyone, though.
I'm obsessed with the Chinese Takeout delivery guy on my block. I was obsessed with his car first... but then I saw his face, and now I'm obsessed with him LOL. Too bad he's like 21 :(
Oh, yah...I've been obsessed over by my high school stalker...and my deranged neighbor who yells out "Hot Girl!" at me in our parking garage. PSYCHO!
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - damn! how did you know?!!!!
@soniiuh@xanga - send him my way
been on both sides of the fence. it ain't pretty.
trying to decide right now if i'm currently doing the "obsess"-ing...
@tigerdauphin@xanga - it shows :P
i totally agree with yu on the obsession theory. i deff think its more than lust than love depending on the person. but if yu mean obsession as in needing to kno what that person is up 2 constantly , etc. then it could be love. it really depends on the person and the situation
Wow she looks really hot in that picture.
.............
ANYWAY.
Uh, I don't think I've ever been obsessed with someone. Well, maybe a girl who was really cute. It would only be more of "oh, wow, she's so cute.... *stare & grin*" But yeah, um, well, um, Korean girls are kind of... crazy.... yeah. Good thing very few of them are bi/gay... XD Anyway, I reckon that theory's pretty right though.
psychos....
hahahaha.
you describe me perfectly in freshmen year of highschool.
crazy-obsessed with this insanely hot guy in theory, despite the fact that he was a selfish drug-dealing, douche bag.
it didn't have a thing to do with him.
thankfully, i'm more sane now.
Yeah, I've had a guy who was kind of obsessed with me. It's weird, and it makes me feel bad because I have to say "HEY CUT IT OUT", or just ignore them. :(
i've only been obsessed of chocolates. lol
and i love that "the warning" song.. haha classic.
i LOVE JESSICA ALBA. She makes my heart go BOOM BOOM.
This entry is interesting :)
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - Hahaha
when i was in junior high school i was other than that no, actually i've been obsessed with myself for the last couple yrs. =]
i have felt that i was getting obsessed with an ex of mine who was trying to "just stay friends" ... i realized what i was doing though and cut him out oof my life. i have also felt as though i was the object of obsession a couple times ... its really uncomfortable cause i used to feel bad for them but ... i mean you have to cut them out too for their own good you know?
I've never been obsessed with anyone, but I've had people obsessed with me. It's all cute at first, but in the end, if they step over a line, I blocked them out of my life and that's that.
This shouldn't be misread as arrogance, but I honestly think I am too wrapped up in myself and what's going on with me to devote enough attention to someone to the point where it would be considered an "obsession." I do have obsessions, so I know what they feel like; I just don't have them toward other people. & yes, I have had people in my life who were obsessed with me, or maybe just overly nosy and intrusive, to different degrees.
any 'manic' fans who follow them in hotel rooms, any random sightings in shopping malls, grocery stores, restaurants or WHEREVER it is open to public ARE obsessed.
but im self-absorbed (although i love people watching) to be obsessed with someone to that intensity... and i like INTERACTION... if it's one sided, i lose interest..
does it count if all you really want to do is get over your obsession? is it still obsession?
Oh my gosh, Obsessed (the movie) was sooo creepy! Can you imagine a woman taking polite gestures completely out of context like that?
My boyfriend currently has an obsessed stalker. They used to be friends in high school (which was 6 years ago) and got back in contact with each other earlier this year. Since then, she's called him several times nonstop until he answered. Once she found out about me, she faked a MySpace profile and added me as a friend.
She demanded to know why he was still with me when it was so obvious he was in love with her and "came home specifically to see her" when it was really specifically for his parents to help him shop for my engagement ring. They got into an argument and are now no longer friends. Since then, she e-mails ALL of my accounts (no idea how she got them) about what he supposedly tells her and quotes my five-year-old Xanga entries (hence why this is now on private) that took even ME hours to find. Also warns me about his mental issues, that he needs therapy, and despite not talking to him since even BEFORE they graduated high school, she still knows him alot more than I do even though I've been with him for the past 6 and a half years.
Last but not least, she continues to send him text messages (she doesn't have my phone number, thank goodness!). One being at 1:30 in the morning saying that she slept with his SISTER.
THAT'S obsession.
After reading most of these comments, I thought about it.. Maybe you people are overreacting. Maybe you THINK people are obsessed with you. What if a certain someone just wants to get to know you? What if they just want a chance to be friends? Everyone has different ways of trying to get to know someone. I'm not going to lie, I have went through something like this. I met a girl and I was currently interested in another girl. I tried talking to her but she never said much back. I then heard things from her friends and confronted her about it. I was furious over it because she thought so highly of herself and thought I was trying to get with her. Clearly, I wouldn't be if I liked a different girl. Sometimes us guys (or girls) just want to be friends. When I said something about it to her, the next days were rough but soon she opened up and was starting conversations with me. I'm not saying any of you who commented and said 'someone is obsessed with me' is selfish or flat out mean.. But why not talk to one of these so called obsessed people? Who knows.. Maybe they'll turn out to be half way decent. Maybe they'll be able to help you one day. If you just give them the cold shoulder day after day and then label them as "obsessed".. Maybe its you that is wrong in this situation.
However, notice how I put *maybe* at the beginning of most sentences. Sometimes people are a little crazy and do become a little too obsessed. You just gotta try and figure out who is and who isn't.
So THAT`s what the story is. I never realized she was dressed up to look like Eminem, but when my cousin pointed it out, I totally saw the resemblance, but I didn`t get why. I see now.
I think obsession has more to do with desire and constantly thinking about the object of obsession, while love involves more compassion and selfless giving.Dang. That theory totally hits home for me. :X But I guess it's a bit too early to see if it's obsession on my behalf or will actually turn out to be something.