Saturday, 22 August 2009
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No More Miss Nice Girl?
We've all heard the saying "Nice guys finish last". Based on my own personal experience, I've found this to be unfortunately true. I myself have, on more than one occasion, turned down the charming sweetheart for the mysterious badass. (If you have an experience where you happily picked the nice guy, or you were the nice guy who got lucky, I'd love to hear about it because I have heard of no such instances.)
Anyways, us girls avoid the 'nice guys' for whatever reason-maybe we know there's no challenge, and we want a chase. Maybe we're just not up for something that we know will be sincere, and want to fool around. Maybe we're just whole and want to be broken down by someone we know will hurt us, and then later in life find the 'nice guy' to put us back together.
Teenage girls mostly find the nice guys to be boring for their rambunctious partying years, I guess. So I'm wondering if the same applies to the 'nice girl'.
Guys, if you found a beautiful young girl who was sweet, thoughtful, and a virgin to top it off, would you go for it? If you were with a girl who did everything seemingly right-occasional spontaneous cookie-baking, sweet letters and presents on special days, never got into petty fights of possession or anything trivial-would you get bored? Your buds would tell you you scored a good one when you received random favors, and you never have anything to complain about to them. Do you appreciate what you have in front of you, or do you start looking elsewhere for someone maybe more....intriguing? Someone who will put a slight twist in your life?
Is it just the girls who can't stand to have someone 'perfect', or do the guys shy way from a good thing too, and leave the nice girls trailing behind with the nice guys?
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Guys WANT the nice girl. Y? one, Maybe we're the pig headed things you think us as and we just want something to violate.
or two. we just want someone we feel we can trust and have a sense of security with. thats mah opinion.
and yeah. nice guys ALWAYS finish last. and they get trampled on by the other people from the upcoming race too. I speak justifiably bitterly through experience
My boy's a nice guy, and we're happily together.
I look like a super duper nice guy, but in fact, well yeah, I'm a nice guy on the outside (looks) with both nice / bad guy traits. Most girls who meets me think I'm boring, but those who are smart enough to invest more in me falls in love quickly with me. Which is too bad, since I'm taken and still up to today, girls still fall for me.
Honestly, I'd go for whoever I have feelings for. I wouldn't go hit on random chicks 'cause I "overheard" that she's virgin, she's a baddie, she's a stripper, who cares. I'd be honest and in my point of view, every girl isn't virgin / bad / good, which makes them all unique. "What are they then?", you may ask me. My simple answer: "They are girls." Same shit.
Now what I wanted to say is that, guys are guys, there are no nice guys / bad guys. Most of them are just faking it and wannabes. Just go for whoever you want, and stop sorting guys by bad / good / looking good / sexy / hot, and go for the one you have feelings for.
I am called a nice guy, and I have a wonderful girlfriend that many people want.
She has been with other people before me.
I do not mind
I believe that it is through those experiences that brought us together, and I think we can ultimately stand through the test of time.
This is the 4759345438635734932th post on 'nice guys/girls.'
Along with "Is he cheating on me?," "What Real Girls/Guys Want in the Opposite Sex" and "The Homewrecker's Point of View."
Come up with more original posts, please.
I am a nice guy but not all nice guys finish last. It depends on how they make themselves a challenge, confidence, and overall character of a nice guy.
To be honest, I would go a nice girl because if they had the characteristics of what I want in a girl then yes.
we all go through a "phase," whether it's the bad boy, rich guy, nice guy, etc. And for nice girls... nice on the outside, a plus if the bad side shows up during intimate moments. <3
The girl I'm going out with is just like that. We've never really fought, sweet, thoughtful, etc.
I was a little unsure about 6 months into the relationship, but after a several days of thinking, I realized that the bad-ass, intriguing type of girl is not for me. I realized that after hanging with them for awhile, they seem quite mundane... and I lose interest. (I never did anything dishonest, promise)
Actually, I think it is nice guys with confidence who win over girls, and nice guys without confidence who get screwed (not in the good way you're thinking about either.... shame on you :]).
Be nice and confident. :)
omfg u rock date da badass mudda fuckas.
my boyfriend would definitely be described as a nice guy, as someone who treats me as i should be treated (a first in my dating history). but he wasn't the "nice guy" who wasn't assertive about his feelings when we first started dating and such. and i suppose i could be described as that nice girl who treats him well too. we're happy and i wouldn't want anyone else<3
I've yet to meet a nice guy...
This whole nice guy, nice girl thing is getting really repetitive. The use of superlatives shouldn't be used in these circumstances. The nice guy isn't all around nice. What is nice about the nice guy? His personality, looks, etc? Is he nice in every single characteristic. Probably not. There is no definitive nice guy. So to say that they finished last is stupid because when people find who they are supposed to be with, then those people are essentially "nice" for eachother. Did they finish last?
My guy is a "nice" guy, but that doesn't mean he's the type to bend over backwards for me. He still has a backbone. Is he considered nice still? And it's not like I went through a couple "bad-asses" to get to him either.
@Miss_Nonfiction@xanga - I guess what she means is that the "bad guys" are lying cheaters who would hook up with multiple girls at once or tend to do stuff that could put both partners in dangers.
And the "nice guys" are quintessential boy-next-door, well mannered and polite kind of person you'd bring home for your parents to meet. *Me included, yay!
Maybe it's stereotype and too much television but there are some of these coincidences happening in the world.
People do like the "chase" and find it worthwhile to "change" the bad person, another characteristic to why people like the "bad ass".
@xXCrystal_RaindropsXx@xanga - Really? You should come to Canada, there's a ton of good guys that never get the girls cause people like the bad boys.
This is the act of flipping the stereotype nicely. Hate to say it, but I know a nice girl who is wonderful in romance but dates men who apparently get bored of her. They are only out of style for the bored and bad guys.
I like a girl who is a little weird and freaky and whose not a "prefect" sweetheart. But I like a girl who would fall under the "nice girl" routine because they do all those nice things (for their loser boy friends of course) but they still like to have a bad side too. Like getting into moshes at concerts, drinking, dark sense of humor, etc.
@Lil_Dude433@xanga - i actually live in canada. lol
It's not that nice guys finish last because they're nice guys.
The reason is because many of them take no initiative. They lack much confidence.Or perhaps, they don't need to prove that they can get a girl like another guy who uses that to show self worth.In any case, I believe that girls love nice guys-with an edge. Too nice is a problem. Just nice enough, is wonderful.
Personally, i love nice girls, but I could not date a girl who always listened to her parents, had strict moral rules, or even got straight A's, maybe. It depends how much of their lives are devoted to it. Those kind of things leave a girl without her own edge a lot of the time. So, I like a nice girl, with an edge. Virgin? wonderful! Never wants to do anything sexual? Not so wonderful. Has limits? wonderful.
In fact, I'm extremely attracted to nice girls. Badass ones scare me. A girl who is all edge really scares me.I like the sweet feminine sense of innocence.And a perfect girl who does everything right does everything right because she is not boring. She is predictable only when appropriate. So, it's pretty subjective.
The time for a nice girl has not passed. If you happen to know one give me a call.
Nice guys and nice girls are hard to find. But so long you have feelings for this particular person, he/she have been considered the perfect one in your eyes...
@xXCrystal_RaindropsXx@xanga - Really? Then you must obviously be living in Ontario I bet
I like the nice guy who turns into a demon when you give him a guitar and put him on stage, than turns back into a total sweetheart after tear down.
Oh man, is he a rare find..
@UknowWutsux@xanga - LOL. Nice one.
@Lil_Dude433@xanga - Not really, but i wish i was living in toronto.
I went for the nice guy. I fit your description of a nice girl. A week before he dumped me I even baked him cookies because I knew he was upset. XD Nice couples don't work out, I guess.