Thursday, 20 August 2009
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Where Does Corny Become Romantic?
Corny. Cheesy. Cliche. Romantic. Sweet. So sweet, you make me sick. Too sweet, baby just shut the hell up and kiss me. One of the issues that comes up when you're a romantic is people will call you corny and cheesy and make it sound like it's a BAD thing. I've seen people who are cornier and cheesier than I am, and it makes me a little sick. I guess my tolerance for pet names, cheesy love lines, and cliche presents isn't as high as I expected.
Yet, I would go above and beyond for my girl given that I had the cash. I love pet names, though I don't understand why they're called "pet names". I'm more of a "babe" or "baby" type of guy. Are there any uses for these names? And so what I said something out of a movie? It made her smile didn't it? Not to mention, it's the thought that counts that I would actually hear that quote and store it for the perfect moment. What is so cliche about flowers and chocolate? What is so cliche about teddy bears and candy? It's only cliche because so many people liked it.
I really don't see the difference in hiearchy between those words at the top of this post. How do you measure the cheesy/sweet level? Is it by how much dough you put into the gesture? The effort? The story behind the gesture? I don't get it at all.
See, I have a friend who is one of those guys who's a corny-hater. He'll laugh in your face and call you stupid and mock you and all that other crap. So naturally when he reads some of the things I write, he has a grand ol' time laughing his ass off. To me, he's quite corny himself. He's very imaginative when it comes to doing gestures and what not, yet apparently that's just him being thoughtful. Good for him. Example.
He finds a way to basically use a yacht for free to have dinner with his girlfriend. After dinner, they go snorkeling and he brings her to a sea cave or something where she finds this giant teddy bear waiting for her. However according to him, that's not corny, that's thoughtful.
Me? I was on the phone with my girlfriend and we had been on the phone for a few hours. She had a bad day after losing her purse so naturally I made everything a little better. It was around 2 in the morning and she was falling asleep, but she refused to go to sleep and she would use that sad sweet voice to get me to stay. To compromise, I told her if she goes to sleep, I would meet her in her dreams and we'd fall asleep together. She whispered "promise baby?" and I said "Promise. I'll never leave you alone, not even in your dreams. I love you."
Celebrating anniversaries comes up, too. Me? 3 months, 6 months, 9 months, a year...so on and so on. Yet, anything that is 3 months or sooner is corny. Saying "I love you" is apparently corny.
Jeeze, why is it so bad to be corny? Feedback please. Any corny examples in your life or thoughts on why corny is or isn't a bad thing?
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lately, ive been chased by swarms of bees when i'm out with nature. when i told my bf about this a few days ago in the car, he then replied: "it's because you're so sweet."
that came out from a left field!!! i started to laugh, he's not really the 'cheesy' line saying type of a guy, and i laughed so hard i hiccuped. anyways, when i asked him to be more affectionate verbally, his interpretation is to be "cheesy/corny" and "overly sweet." i'll take what i can get but it's still weird hearing it. lol
and when immature things (pet names, cheesy lines, etc) doesn't enter the relationship, what's the fun in that?
cheesy; when it's awkwardly phrased and untimely.
romantic; when the mood is 'right' (candlelit dinner, walk on the beach, picnic in the park, whatever cliche environment is set for the day/night) and the girl is ready to accept it without being sarcastic or funny about it. :D
Hmm....just stick with what you think is good and what works for your relationship.
People who don't accept it are losers who are jealous >:)
lollll it is absolutely not a bad thing to be corny... maybe I am a romantic, but I loved it when my ex did "corny" things. He wasn't that much into pet names, but he was like you, a "babe" "baby" and occassionally "love" kind of guy. He didn't go all out like your friend, there... haha but we had our moments.
Like him staying up to keep me company cause I couldn't go to sleep cause of my HUGE allergic reaction... and we made "promisepromisepromises" to each other that we absolutely positively cannot break. And he proposed to me on a post it in the middle of calc class. (Long story, but it was cute.) There are so many other moments (I can go on and on)... but honestly I don't think romantic=corny.
Little things mean a lot, in my opinion, corny or not. Oh and the fact that he was the last and first person I talked to everyday made me fall for him more (:
ur corny, bitch
@kor_girl@xanga - aww. i like that. "cuz you're so sweet." hahaha XD
@Lil_Dude433@xanga - i guess. some people outside people (like comment number four) can be dicks.
@fivepointfourtwo@xanga - post it note ey? my uncle proposed to his girlfriend by taking her to a horrible movie and asking her through one of those ads before the preview. XD
hahaha my ex use to make fun of me because i like corny. it makes me smile :]
@fivepointfourtwo@xanga - Awww... the post-it thing is so cute! ^.^
I don't mind if my SO were to be corny lol. I think I would probably laugh my ass off if he said/did something corny but I'd be touched because of how romantic and thoughtful whatever he did was. I think it's cute when a guy takes out the time to do all these cute/corny things for his girl.
@soniiuh@xanga - well i think that somethings shouldn't need any time or effort and should be plucked straight from the heart. like the spur of the moment thing. i think its whack when a guy like writes down his next lines to say to his girl. XD but hey, whatever floats your boat right?
i cannot stand corny. i'm just that kind of person. i hate corny. aww, you planned that getaway for me? thank you! it's very kind of you. but please don't call me baby-puppy-pumpkin-lovely-princess. please excuse my vomiting if you do. literally.
@snapeful@xanga - XD puppy, pumpkin, lovely, princess...no thank you. i have a cousin named lovely and a cousin who's nickname since birth has been princess. =P but man, hate corny? how sad. =( that's like hating me. Just kidddingg. I'm not THATTT corny. i think
I tend to not realize when I'm told something really corny, but looking back at some things my ex said to me, he actually did say some pretty corny things to me. When he said them, though, I appreciated them. In my mind he was only being sweet to me and trying to make me happy. I guess I like corny things. Haha. :)
@Love_Laugh_Write@xanga - and isnt that all that matters? =)
Definitely. He ended up doing something really stupid, and we don't talk anymore, but at least he made me happy back then? Haha. Seriously though, it's a good thing when someone is doing or saying corny things for you, in my opinion. So don't stop being corny because some girls like it. lol :D
The dividing line is who's doing it.
If it's someone else, it's corny. If it's you and your SO it's sweet.
It depends on the people and how they act really.
I like it when guys are sweet.
nothing wrong with that once in awhile. people outside of the relationship will always think it's "cheesy and/or corny" but they do the same thing when they are in a relationship. ♥
Sometimes corny is cute.
My ex and I were walking through a shoe store, and I said that I loved slouchy boots. He was taken aback, and I had to explain to him that this is a style of shoe. It was a hilarious, you-had-to-be-there kind of a conversation. Whatever. Forever, after that, his pet name for me was "Slouchy." I know that sounds completely ridiculous, but it stuck. We were together a year, and he always called me Slouchy. It struck me as sweet, that well-remembered little joke.
If the pet name had been "Cupcake" or "Pookie" or something, that's way too corny.
Corny haters are usually jealous of those being corny, but I do agree there is such a thing as overdoing it.
@romeosintuition@xanga - lolol thoughtful > corny. by corny i mean like SHOUJO PRINCESS, let me bake a cake because that is how sweet you are, my cute little pretty princess pony.
@snapeful@xanga - so how about a random text saying "I love you, baby. Hope your day is going well." haha is that corny?
@coconut_dream@xanga - yeah, my best friend's boyfriend like makes a guitar cover video for her EVERYDAY and tells her he loves her and blah blah blah and its only been two months and she is no where near saying it back.
@sammyisadog@xanga - hahaha yeah inside jokes are the best nickname sources. i used to call my ex Miz Lustful because when i was younger i had no idea what it meant when she said it. XD