Sounds stupid enough, am I right?
But I'd like to know... because, well, I haven't been in love yet.
There have been points where I thought I was in love. I never said the words "I love you" because I thought, well, if it was love, I'd know it. I'd feel it. Though, in retrospect, those times I thought I was in love were probably just phases of infatuation. Or perhaps they were the beginnings love that never quite developed...
Is love the kind of thing that you plant in your heart like a seed, and, over time, it'll bloom? And then, you'll know it is love?
Or is love one of those feelings that just hits you like a double-decker bus? A feeling that I think would wash over you if you loved at first sight? And bam, you just know it's love?
How did you know you were in love? What did it feel like?
And for those who haven't been in love yet, what do you think it should feel like?
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You just KNOW, yo.
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - This.
It's like asking "how do you know when you're happy?" or "how do you know whether you like Taco Bell?".
When it happens you will be well aware of it.
i think that it'll either develop over time or it'll just be there for me it was there from the beginning and well the other person denied it but i haven't been able to shake the feeling and well its been met equally if not stronger so idk stay hopeful and when it hits you it'll be like nothing else before that moment.
@Viserys@xanga - Exactly. I really do know I like Taco Bell.
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - I'm happy to hear that you're an upstanding citizen.
hahah you will know when you feel that it's the right moment and time. you could share that connection with that person for forever and no one else can do the same for you
see, for me, there's this one guy. and it's always been him for me. and i'm in love with him, and i just know it. my friends call me crazy. but i was with my ex, and i thought i loved him, but i kept questioning it, and i realized i didn't know. and he once asked me, "how will i know if i love you? i love everything about you - does that mean i love you?" and i said, no, you'll just know. one day you just know. it feels right. it sounds corny, but it feels right in your heart and once you know it might clear your head.
i'm only seventeen and i've been in love with the same kid who doesn't love me back for four years though. it's always possible that i'm wrong. but it feels right.
couldnt' tell ya.
I knew I was in love when I got called into work somebody's shift one day. I complained loudly, but then I thought to myself, "This is good. I'll make more money for Carlos and I." When my thinking had shifted from me, myself, and I to us, I knew I was in love. It felt wonderful, but at the same time, it was the most painful emotion to experience because I was away from him.
lol
sometimes I think you only know when it's all said and done.
by that, I mean when you've lost it.
tragic, if that's the case.
I have been infatuated when I was younger. I have been with my current boyfriend for two years and I knew I was falling in LOVE with him by the feeling that came over me. Like others have said, you literally just know. It's not something you should have to question. I don't believe in love at first sight, because to truly love someone unconditionally, you need to know them. Their strengths & weaknesses and everything in between. When I learned the qualities of my boyfriend... over time I fell in love. I just knew it. :)
i know when i'm in love with someone, my heart's racing and i get so nervous around him and every time i'm with him, i never want to leave his side. haven't felt that in a long time.
When you're in love I think you go out of your way to do sweet/special things for that person. You try to keep make them happy and do everything to keep them by your side. You become more selfless and look after that person more than yourself. I think when it happens... you just know it because it's a strange, new feeling.
When you can look at a situation, and, all the while loving yourself, prefer their happiness over your own...or even be willing to forego your own happiness to keep them from grief...you'll know.
It's hard to describe, but it really is....when it is, you know.
when i found out i was in love was when i kept thinking about this guy over and over again, and funnily enough, i ended up dreaming about him every night.
i'd see him everyday in my classes and he'd always stare at me. we joke around in class and such, and all i kept thinking about was him. sometimes, i'd even feel shy around him, so shy that i dont look at him when i talk.
my feelings for that guy was so strong, i cried when he told me that he was gonna ask me out, but cos i ignored him, he asked someone else instead..
and then he told me that he was willing to break up with that person for me, cos it was me that he was interested in, not that girl. and then he told me that he loved me..
granted, that he was an ass-hole, but feelings cannot be helped.
when you want to be with them all the time, every day. when you feel comfortable and can be your complete self around them. when you can picture yourself being with them a long time from now. when you realize you don't want anyone else :]
I think the feeling's different for everyone. You just know.
The reason everyone says "you'll just know" is because it's the truth! Being in love feels different to each person. Just keep your mind open to it, and it will come to you. Once you find that special person that's different than anyone else, that makes you feel amazing, and that you can see a future with, you might find yourself in love. : )
you're in love when you're in love. everyone knows dat.
I can tell when I get butterflies in my stomach when I'm with him, and my heart flutters with just the thought of him. And I think about him ALL the time...
Meh, haven't felt that way in a while.
I've been in love once, in 2007. And yeah, I just knew.
There was this one clearly defined moment where I realized that I was completely in love with him. He'd just played basketball and was naturally sweaty and gross. He smelled horrible but when he put his arms around me, instead of the smell, all i noticed was love and how much I was in love with him.
Agh. That sounded so weird, but it just made sense. I just knew. That one second I knew.
it was easier to distinguish what love felt like when i was younger (in my early 20s relationships) because when I said: "i love you" i meant it and i wouldn't say it unless i did (except once because i was guilt tripped into saying it...that's another story).
but im in a new relationship now and i really like my bf but i haven't said it yet. i don't know either. lol. by this time (a little over 2nd month), the boyfriend would've said it by now actually, which will remind me the emotion that i'm feeling is more than "i like a lot" and proceed with my own deduction to come to a valid assessment. however, since it hasn't happened yet, i'm still trying to figure out what exactly this feeling is. hahahaah I don't know how so many people wrotE: "you just know it." I know this, once you can trust someone FULLY and COMPLETELY, you're probably in love with them too.
i agree with the others above..that it's when you put their happiness before yours..their well-being over yours..and you constantly are just thinking of their security, their happiness. It's when all their flaws or things that may turn you off don't even matter anymore, and you see past that; it's when you are away from them doing anything, little things remind you of them; or just thinking about them or driving home you can't help but smile and feel giddy; and when you fight it will be impossible to be/stay mad at them =)
but like others said..its a different definition and feeling for everyone, so just b/c someone may label or define those actions/emotions as "love" doesn't necessarily mean all those factors will happen to you. Especially for example, if you just happen to naturally be a very caring person and put others before yourself, then you can't really count what i said when i say "you know when you put their happiness before yours" right? because most likely you treat everyone like that; don't let what others say define how you see love or believe it is. But for sure, you will feel something completely different than you feel for others, a sacrificial, optimistic view perhaps?
Symptoms: Not being able to eat or sleep. Being in a daze. Making sacrifices without thinking so.
For me, it was a seed. It was planted, and it grew without my knowledge. So then, when I did realize it, it did hit me like a double-decker bus (haha pun...we were in London when I admitted it to myself :P). Best of both worlds, eh?