Tuesday, 18 August 2009
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Making Out Is Gross.
When I was young, I imagined my "first kiss" would be special and wonderful. I couldn't wait for the day I would finally experience it!Unfortunately, after getting the "hang of it" - "it" as in kissing that is... I didn't think it was special anymore. Was it because we did it too often? Was it because every hello, every goodbye and everything in between needed a kiss to complete it? Why wasn't I feeling the excitement I felt when we first experimented these actions with our tongue and mouths?
The main reason why I DO NOT like to make out is because it's plain sloppy. Making out is equivalent to kissing a large, golden German Shepherd. Slobber galore! And the kisser is having more fun than the receiver.
Sometimes, when my boyfriend starts the making out process, I either stop and ask him "What are you doing?" to hint him that I don't want to continue or I play along just to satisfy his "needs". Often, in my mind, I'm thinking to myself, "Hahah.. this is so gross. I hope one day he realizes that as well." But for some reason, I don't think he ever wants to stop. (Don't ask me why, I just have this gut feeling).
Anyway, it's kind of hard for me to immediately stop a make-out session 'cause my BF's so into it. Sooo into it that I don't want to hurt his feelings and say, "I think you're simply disgusting for doing these things." Yeeah.
Am I being weird for not liking to make out? Do you guys enjoy making out?
Should I tell him that I think we're disgusting fools when we do this?
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If you're not liking it, something's up.
If I don't like kissing a guy, I take it as a sign that we're not compatible. There's a girl out there who will like his kiss, it's just not me.
You will find a man that you love to kiss. He'll probably be less slobbery than the guy you're with now.
I can see how one might not like it. Gotta control that saliva level!
no, i too don't really enjoy it lol.
i usually just turn my head to the side before he could really get into it.
i like giving my boyf little pecks on the lips, but not go all out tongue galore.
but each to their own. :)
Maybe he's a bad kisser? haha
I don't think all make outs end up in slobbery mess (than my school would be flooded with saliva, gross.) But it's your personal opinion towards making out, but i enjoy it with my boyfriend :D If it "turns you off" talk to him about it, I'm sure he'd understand. But maybe in future time, you'd learn to like it?
Making out doesn't have to be messy & full of slobber. Maybe he just doesn't know how to kiss properly? Tongues don't always have to be involved, that's when it can get a little messy.
i think it depends on the person. i absolutely love it... well loved it with my ex (:
I kiiind of know what you mean. I don't mind making out, but I don't like a ton of tongue or anything...THAT is gross.
sounds like your guy's a bad kisser... it's not supposed to be like kissing a slobbering dog. o_0
--Making out is equivalent to kissing a large, golden German Shepherd.--
Lol, making out with a german shepherd... dude, your boyfriend just doesn't know how to kiss. Making out is fantastic. And the reason that you get the idea that he doesn't want to stop, is probably because he doesn't... at all. HOWEVER.. it does suck to have to use the sham-wow to soak up your face when its done. No one likes that.. you're right, it is just nasty. I'm gonna go ahead and recommend talking to him... try to get him to learn how to kiss differently. There's a good chance that if you tell him that you dont like making out, yes... it will be a shot to the pills at first, but there's a good chance that he's going to want to figure out how to kiss you better because no guy wants to kiss a girl who isn't into it.... we might as well be making out with our hand. And if you want to sugar coat it some, look up some stuff online about different kissing methods... print it off and tell him that some of these sound fun... tell him that you want to try it out. that way it will be a lot less awkward. And honestly, if all else fails, just tell him what you told us.. blunt and honest. Men never do well with hints... so if he doesn't realize what the hell's going on after about a day or so.. then just tell him.
A number of things could be going on and we can't really accurately call any of them. He could be a bad kisser. He could be an overenthusiastic kisser, which it sounds like you don't like. He could be a bad listener. You could be too shy to complain. You could not like making out with HIM, specifically. Tons of possibilities.
It isn't any fun unless you're BOTH fully participating in the kiss. Same for sex. Passivity is BORING and feels gross. But if you don't like how he's kissing you even when you're kissing him back, try making suggestions - "less tongue please" or "not as open a mouth" for examples. Kissing is an art and it does actually take time and practice with a willing partner to get good at it. But if he still isn't floating your boat, it could be you just don't have the chemistry and you aught to be looking elsewhere for a real connection.
Yeah sometimes it gets too sloppy. lol.
but i usually lovvve it. ;]
i felt the same way until i realized it wasn't the making out that bothered me, it was the person i was making out with. once i started hooking up with people i really cared about i found i really liked it...maybe that's your problem. the fact that you said "i think YOU'RE simply disgusting for doing these things" instead of saying "i think the things you're doing are simply disgusting" or something like that makes it seem like you may not feel strongly about the person you're kissing.
or maybe he's just a bad kisser.
I used to feel the same way as you, until I met a guy who really knew how to kiss. Like other commentors have said, making out doesn't have to involve an excessive amount of tongue...or any tongue at all. Maybe you should try talking to him about it? I wouldn't break up with him just because he can't kiss (that can be fixed!) but if he keeps pushing you to do it when you don't want to, then you might want to reconsider if he's right for you.
WTF IS WRONG WIT U JEEZ R U 10 OR SOMETHING FUCKING STICK UR TONGUE IN THAT BOY!
i love making out. but my first boyfriend was very sloppy and i hated it then....lol.
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I agree. I always thought I was a bad kisser because I didn't want to kiss anyone. I've tried a lot of different people, girls and boys, and so far only two people were able to kiss me well and make me like making out - one of them I spent a year and a half with, the other one I've spent a year and a half with also, and we're still together.
If I don't like someone's kiss, I don't like them.
maybe your boyfriend just has a sloppy kiss. i don't mind making out and it's definitely not so sloppy that i could relate it to kissing a large dog... what the heck.
hmm it sounds like the problem may not be the making out, but the boy you're making out with... maybe try coaxing him into going a little easy on the tongue action by keeping your lips closed a little more, or simply pulling on his lips with yours with your mouth basically closed.
good luck!
Making out is fun :) Especially when the other person can flow into the
same rhythm as you. It could be electric. I agree that it should not
feel like a slobbering German Shepherd. I once had a guy who was so out
of rhythm with me that I felt like he was just this giant steam roller
that kept going without paying much attention to how I was reacting to
it. From what you've said, it sounds like your boyfriend is a bad
kisser :-/
Maybe he's just a bad kisser? lol.
But yeh, I don't like the idea of making out, I find it kinda gross, too. Short, sweet kisses are better to me.
I love it, sorry. Honestly if I don't like making out with somebody it's a sign to me that something is wrong. Either they're a bad kisser or we're totally wrong for each other or something. Making out is one of my favorite activities, but I don't know.
i guess some people like it and some people don't. i personally love it.
haha it's okay, i sometimes don't like making out, sometimes i do. it depends on who you're kissing and all