Tuesday, 18 August 2009
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She Turned Him Gay!
So I was talking to my sister (in-law technically but whatever) about her friend L. The last time I had heard about L, she broke up with her boyfriend P because he cheated on her. Well the newest news is that he now has a boyfriend. L was, of course, distraught. She blamed herself for turning him gay. And to her, it meant she was so bad in bed and ugly that he had to turn to men.Do all girls think this? When an ex-boyfriend dates a guy do you think you turned him gay? And the same goes for guys. Do you think when an ex-girlfriend dates a girl that you turned her lesbian?
And for that matter does a gay guy think he turned him straight? I wouldn't blame myself. That's just who they are.
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She's stupid.
I think it would depend on the situation. If it were months or years later, I wouldn't think anything of it...But if my boyfriend dated a guy within days or weeks of breaking up with me, I might think I had something to do with it.
I definitely wouldn't beat myself up about it, though. It would have come out (haha) eventually, anyway.
You can't "turn" people gay. It's not a choice like that, all though I'm sure the comments will come rolling in stating otherwise. If your SO dates someone of the same sex after you, they've had that preference long before you honey. Just be happy that they've discovered themselves and move on.
Datingish seems to have been in a downward spiral lately. This post is the firey crash at the end.
the way i see it:
1. he's always been gay and was using her as a coverup.
2. he's very confused.
3. he wants to make her feel bad about herself, or just get some attention.
I think people are stupid and don't realize that there's a big decision that goes into turning gay. He realized that he can't please girls in bed, and gets no satisfaction out of it. Thats why he turned gay. And maybe he's attracted to guys more than he is girls.
She shouldn't worry about "turning the guy gay".... I just don't think that would be the case. That guy is most likely confused or had been using her.
lol i know its very silly, but the same thought would probably pass through my mind. ALL my best friends ex boyfriends have turned out gay lol....
That's who they are. Maybe htey were gay before they dated ....
I wouldn't worry about turning a guy gay.
haha that's bullshit I'd probably feel it were my fault to be honest.
wow, i think you can't blame yourself as a girl. it can't be your fault if your boyfriend turns gay!
@C0ll33Ncorps@xanga - agreed.
How annoying. She couldn't have 'turned' him gay, he obviously already was but her femininity helped him make the final choice. Plus, he could just be bi.
I dont get why women assume they're ugliness is what turns a man gay. Uh no! They would just look for a much prettier girl!
"This one girl I slept with was so terrible in bed. I guess now I have to start stickin it in other men's butts, that should even it out."
nah. doesn't work that way.
spectrum blah blah blah
one of my exes turned to guys, but he's too shy so he hasn't actually dated one yet, he just likes them (more than girls, that is).
somehow i knew this was going to be a stupid and useless post.
people don't just "turn" gay. they either are or they aren't. or they're too insecure to choose so they're bisexual. or they're bisexual because they are open-minded enough to do sexual things with someone of the same sex. ahh....don't even get me started on bisexual-ism(?).
i know that comment is gonna get me hated on but whatever. that's my personal opinion on the subject, be it wrong in your eyes or not.
i know a lot of gay people. they have dated the opposite sex before. and they usually do it because they're scared or insecure about their homosexual feelings. when they realize that dating the opposite sex is just not for them, they move away from it. it's that simple.
he was gay all along. he just didn't like it at first.
@C0ll33Ncorps@xanga - @mustardcat@xanga - i concur.
you would think datingish would realize how stupid their posts are lately. maybe they're just too busy looking at readers and not realizing how dumb these posts are.
If you turn a man gay and think its only a sexual issue, then she's lost all reality for dating. sometimes, it is because we don't connect or because she wasn't right in the first place and the breakup was a way to get out. Either way, thinking its a sex issue shows her knowledge or men and relationships clearly.
My first love is now gay and I don't believe I had anything to do with it. He just realized as he got older that he was attracted to men and our love was more friendship than anything else.
shows just how self-centered some girls may be.
I would just think that he was always gay, which is why things didn't work out.
What the fuck? What kind of stupid selfish reasoning is that? You can't TURN someone gay. It's the way he was long before he knew her.
... pretty sure it doesn't work that way. people can say that to be nasty to the ex, but it's not true.
oooh my friend (guy friend) turned gay, after dating one girl.
Maybe he was in a bisexual road, and wasn't sure which path to take, and i guess he didn't feel as "excited" with a girl, as he felt with a guy? just my two cents.
You can't change someone's sexual orientation. They are what they are. Sometimes people joke about turning someone gay/straight, but to really believe it just doesn't make sense.
You can't turn someone gay.
Maybe he was bisexual before dating her and realized he liked guys in the romantic sense?