Sunday, 16 August 2009
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First Dates Should Be Special
I was on the phone tonight with my husband's sister discussing first dates. She just got asked out by a guy she really likes and he's her first boyfriend. She said she knew he was a keeper because of their first date. Her exact words were, "He didn't do the boring dinner and a movie date, he planned it out and asked my friends what I was interested in and things I enjoyed and we could talk! You can't talk at a movie!"I thought about it....very true. I'm somewhat of a romantic at heart and I've always thought that first dates should be unique and special. I've had some fun and special first dates. My freshman year of college I dated a guy with a pilot's license. Our first date he packed a picnic lunch and we flew to the beach (about two hours away by car.) We spent the whole afternoon there and then flew home. Talk about impressive. In high school my first boyfriend took me to the aquarium on our first date. Now, an aquarium isn't as impressive as a private flight to the beach, but think about it, they are generally quiet but full of ways to fill the conversation if things start to get boring. Not to mention they are peaceful, a good way to calm the nerves that sometimes appear.
My first date with my husband was to the gun range. Although I had shot rifles growing up and hunting with my dad and I knew a fair bit about guns, I had never shot a handgun. My husband showed me the ins and outs of his gun and then put the Sig P226 .40 in my hands and taught me to shoot it. After shooting we went to Sonic and talked over Rt. 44 drinks and onion rings. Once again, a gun range isn't anything overly impressive, but it's different and not something most people do every day. (Though, if neither of you are familiar with firearms...please don't go shooting!)
A first date doesn't have to be extravagant or expensive but, doesn't it mean that much more when it's something out of the ordinary? Maybe hiking a local trail, checking out an art museum...
There is a place for dinner and a movie, I'm not knocking that trend at all. I love going to the movies, especially on date night with my husband! I just think the thought that goes into planning a first date is a bit more special when you plan something extra or different.
Do you think a first date should be something a little bit special? What was your best first date experience?
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i think if the first date is special, it makes the next one easier.
My first date with my current SO was 12 hours long. It was okay because we've been friends for the past couple years (and have had on-and-off feelings for each other that were never pursued 'til now). We had breakfast at a Vietnamese restaurant, went downtown to visit Balboa Park, one of the main places in San Diego, to enter the art museum (it was free museum Tuesday), then Sunset Cliffs, another San Diego tourist spot, then let our playful kid personas come out at a homely taco shop near us.
Nine AM to nine PM :3
The first date is the first impression, so I think it should be special.
Yes, it should be a sepcial thing. Theres a possbility you're going to marry the person, so you'll need a good story to tell your grandchildren about how grandma and grandpa met
first date = first impression. has to be a good one!
i don't know! i was always taught that first dates should be the anticipation for the second date, so make it good, but don't make it great.
cause if you know, you go over the top (like with the plane thing), then you can make them think that you're too clingy. RIGHT?
I went to the gun range yesterday, but it was with my brother and friends. Now that I think about it though, there's a lot of romantic potential there. Him holding the gun behind you and cupping your hands in his while showing you how to shoot. That's a whole lot better than the old yawn-and-arm-over-shoulder gag at the movies.
Yes, yes, yes! It doesn't have to be too over the top, but it has to be something special. It's the first impression, better make a good one.
First dates should always be special, it's the beginning of something new. I personally have never gone on a date, but if I ever do, I want it to be very special.
girls always seem to want more, I think the first date should be something simple, mostly you are trying to get to know the person a little... and I only go out with girls I really like but I am not (nor can I afford) to lay down 100 bucks easy on the first date. Plus, you would have to try to top it pretty soon after. I think girls should get thier heads out of the clouds and appreciate a good thing... a guy likes you and is taking you out, likely paying for stuff.. and this isnt good enough? Sure by date 3 or 5 he should do something a little more creative but I want to know if this girl is really interested in me before I start extending the time and money it takes for a more expensive and consuming date.
To many females want to be swept of thier feet.. most of whom already live with thier heads in the clouds... get real, try to know the guy, try to see if you click, try more than one or two dates maybe.. and remember that a good relationship and marriage is not based on money but on mutual connection and interest. If a guy likes you he will show it in a variety of ways, including expanding the dates you go on.. but I think asking for an all-out date is asking a lot. Maybe it is nice if it happens but not something you should EXPECT, just someting that is not the norm - and why does normal and simple have to be wrong or bad or even.. unenjoyable?
My best first date happened when my date drove me to his favorite spot in the woods. It was near a stream and under the stars. We watched a movie on his laptop in his truck together. I'd say first dates are pretty important.
My first first date was at a water park! Not sure how I thought up that, but, okay!
The next few were movies
I'm going on one tomorrow [I think it's a date at least] and we're baking cookies. I find it really cute!
Mine was dinner at a hole in the wall pizza place/bar and watching his best friend give an acoustic guitar performance at said bar.
@Doubledb@xanga - that's why there are so many divorces happens
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damn i wouldn't know.
never been on a date =(
damn i'm a loser.
first dates are the most important dates in my opinion
First dates are just to know the other person better. They aren't meant to be "special". However, my attempt at dating taught me something: I'm not cut out for that "dating" crap.
In dates, you basically put on a presentable façade to lead the person on into continue going out with you. When you're going out, THEN you can act like yourself in small doses. It's a stupid game.
When I've tried dating I acted like myself and talk the way I normally do, however, girls don't like that stuff. That's why geeks can't get dates. There are all these unwritten social rules about dating and I'm not familiar with them.
First dates weren't made to be special, you put up a mask that the other will approve of, don't talk about your awesome video game collection, and try to impress them so you could go out again.
Fuck that shit, I'm not going to spend money on some whore whom I have no guarantee on staying with!
You blow all your money and go out of your way just to know a person better? No. First dates shouldn't be special. Because people THINK they are, they blow all their money on some fancy food and expensive-ass movie tickets for what? For someone who doesn't even want to get serious with them.
Dates should be cheap and should be about learning about the other person to see if they'll make a potential mate. Maybe if fucking mind games weren't involved, I might get back in there.
Dates are just you scouting for a partner..POTENTIAL partners.
@turnyalightsdownlow@xanga - Don't worry about it. Consider yourself lucky, you're not missing much.
@ImperialDoctrinesOfTheNewWorld@xanga - Pfft. Good luck with THAT.
- Kunoichi
not special. don't spend too much energy on something that may not fly.
of course, if you know the other person well enough to know it's likely to be something special,by all means be a little extravagant on the first date.@KrazeeKunoichi009@xanga - Wow...pretty bitter, huh? Could it be that maybe you're just trying for the wrong kind of girls? Because I'll tell you, I've never gone for someone who wasn't a geek. On my first date with my husband, he talked about video games and star wars and computers. And guess what? I loved it. Aside from being nervous, neither of us acted any different than we usually do. So stop with the bitterness...not all girls expect an expensive, over-the-top first date.
As far as making first dates special, they don't have to require a ton of planning or money. First dates can be special in other ways. My husband and I went to a coffeehouse for our first date. He sprung for a couple Italian sodas, and we just sat and talked for hours (didn't even notice the downpour going on outside until the water started flooding in under the door.) That was very special, and it maybe cost about $7. The point is to think outside the box. One of the best dates a guy took me on cost absolutely nothing, and it pretty much just consisted of walking around a nearby city/park at night after going to a free concert. The common denominator in these dates? There was time to talk and get to know each other. And that's what really made things special.
-Katie
i definitely think that first dates should be special. i mean it is supposedly a first impression
My first boyfriend took me to a drive-in and gave the ticket guy a rose to give to me when i went through the ticket thing. It was so special.
this post made me laugh :D my SO and i were together officially for 3-4 months before we actually went on a "first date", and by then, we knew each other well enough for him to plan a huge HUGE surprise for me, but the date was full of fun! <3
I'm usually laid back about deciding what to do but I love guys that can be spontaneous and decisive. For my first date with the guy I'm seeing now, he took me to the zoo and then we decided to go to a restaurant that neither of us had ever been to. It was sweet and I was impressed with his spontaneity.
I do think the first day should be special, but I think that every date should be (I have spent over $800 on a first date in high school)... I am the type that would not like to repeat things within a sufficient time period and I tend to over plan dates >_<
Lol I always talk at the movies. But not too loudly as to disturb those around me :)